To not want to share a room at age 27?

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Every year, our extended family rents a big house and we spend a week together. Always rent the same house.

Growing up, I have always had to share a room with a younger female relative. This hasn’t happened for a number of years because usually someone in the family can’t come for whatever reason, so me or the relative gets to have the spare room.

This year, everyone can make it which is great. But that means that I have to share a bedroom for the week. AIBU to not want to share at this age?

It's not unusual to share a room as an adult on holiday, I've done it at an older age than you and I have family members in their 50s who have shared. Not sure how many of you are going but large accommodations are very pricey and aren't always that easy to find.

So put an airbed on the floor next to the double bed, and bunk someone in there with the couple. They don't need privacy; they can change in the bathroom and knock before entering.

That way the number of necessary rooms would be even fewer and they'd all save money.

I would rather not share a room either, but I don't think your age has anything to do with it. Sounds like you either share or you don't go so I guess it's up to you!

That's really sad. Can you honestly not imagine families that like each other enough to holiday together as adults?

Are you sharing a bed or room with separate beds? If it’s the latter then I’d get over yourself and get on with it or just don’t go. I guess you’re not paying.

What does "get over yourself" mean?

@JamieCannister My guess is that it’s the cost that’s putting them off. Going from say a three-bedroom house to a four or even six-bed will be expensive and perhaps unaffordable for the group.

I just did a quick Airbnb search in a place where we like to rent holiday homes. The price jump is significant when you add an extra bedroom.🤷

Couples are not one person. They are two people, and generally share a two person room.

I don’t think this is at all weird.

No issue sharing with female friends or family personally, it’s only a week!

What's age got to do with it? I've shared rooms with complete strangers even in my 60s on some holidays. If you insist on your own room, that means a bigger house which pushes the price up for everybody.

It means stop thinking you're more important than others.

Depends if your paying or not.

What?

A two person room with two people in it is fully occupied. There's not a bed space for another person. Yes the two sharers in that two person room may well choose to change in the bathroom and knock before entering - that's up to them to sort out - whatever they're comfortable with.

If it's a triple room (with three bed spaces in it), then of course there's a bed there to be used by a third person. Not sure why someone would prefer to share with 2 other people rather than one other person though.

But obviously, nobody should be putting air beds into already fully occupied to capacity rooms. Anyone suggesting that is clearly being idiotic for the sake of it or trying (and failing) to make some kind of point, and just making themselves look stupid.

What makes two per room the magic number?

Don't say bed size, because inflatable beds are generally available and affordable. Why not three per room? Why not assign rooms according to gender rather than marital status?

Don't go then or rent somewhere else.

This isn't that hard.

Otherwise just suck it up. It's not really that much of a big deal.

Hmm, I’m in two minds. If I was told to share with my mum, no thank you very much (alcohol dependent and just a trauma after a drink.) Any other female relative, don’t think I’d mind too much. I share with colleagues on school trips, it reduces the cost of the trip for the kids, single adult rooms incur a penalty, normally.

Bed size doesn't determine the number of people who can be assigned to one room.

Some people have mentioned being expected to share beds, not just rooms. So why can't a single hop in with a married couple? If two unrelated single people can be expected to share a bed, why shouldn't marrieds give up their privacy?

Automatically giving preference, perks and deference to people based on their marital status, instead of providing a room for each HOUSEHOLD, is not on. If marrieds don't want to share a room with a third party, why on earth would they think a single person would want to share with someone they don't live with?

Just because some of you apparently would bunk in with Jack the Ripper for a cheap holiday doesn't mean everyone feels that way. Privacy is not a trivial thing.

What is the issue with sharing?
I mean it genuinely.
Im way older than you agd have shared many times when away in hols. Incl sharing a bed with very good female friends too on occasion. That’s the trade off fir spending time with people I cherish.

Some of us have other standards.

Part of a holiday to me is relaxing, having a place to recharge, sleeping soundly, waking in the middle of the night to read if I want to, getting up to look out the window without worrying about waking up some roommate. Let alone the privacy issues.

Just because some of you are happy with a low-frills Girl Guides experience doesn't mean that constitutes a pleasant holiday for everyone.

What is that supposed to mean?

I wouldn't have a problem sharing with a relative no matter the age. When goign to summer house I'd share a room at the age of 30 with my 95yo grandmother and 5yo nephew. And my mum shared with her brother and they are in their 70's.

However, if you don't want to share. That is fine. Who pays for it? Is the sharing reflected in yous share of the costs? Are you willing to cover the difference of the bigger property? Do you want to attend? Does someone else have a private room you could ask to share instead?