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Demonic Possession

249 replies

scorpiogirly · 01/05/2025 13:16

Do you believe?

I've been watching a lot of podcasts on YouTube lately with exorcist from the church.

I'm torn. Do you believe?

OP posts:
ImthatBoleyngirl · 02/05/2025 11:33

PrimitivePerson · 01/05/2025 16:20

Of course it's not. That stuff has never happened.

Obviously it's never happened, I was being sarcastic. I meant in the brains of the people who believe it. What specific symptoms makes them choose to "diagnose" behaviour as possession rather than mental health. I should have clarified that this was a question for the believers. I don't think it exists, I think it's a way to abuse people with significantly poor mental health.

In the year running to March 2024 alone, the DfE recorded 2,180 assessments of abuse linked to faith or belief.

The film Kidoki Witch Boy is a prime example.

Fraaances · 02/05/2025 13:01

My aunt was repeatedly SA’d by the family priest. My grandmother refused to believe he was anything other than “Such a good man”, refused to believe it. Despite having 8 kids of her own, she blamed my aunt’s weight gain on “thyroid problems”, and when my aunt gave birth in her cupboard, and took the dead baby (not sure if it was born alive or not) to get rid of her body with her older sister and nobody spoke about it. When she tried speaking up, they blamed “demonic possession” and subjected her to exorcisms. Unsurprisingly, she developed a drinking problem and MH issues, which my grandmother would refer to as “the devil in that one…”
Human behaviour is far worse than anything lconjured up by their imagination.

Littledidsheknow · 02/05/2025 13:06

@Fraaances that's horrific. Your poor aunt.

mrsmiggins78 · 02/05/2025 13:15

HappyNewTaxYear · 01/05/2025 23:25

He’s not used this knowledge to improve his life then?

seriously… you were talking to someone with a mental illness.

how snooty

Skirtless · 02/05/2025 13:18

Mummyoflittledragon · 02/05/2025 10:21

Interesting. There’s someone, who periodically posts details of where we can find love spells and spells to cure illness on MN. They’re always swiftly deleted.

Yes, I’ve seen those (briefly).

My own grandfather believed he’d been cursed. I’ve told the story elsewhere on Mn at some point, but he believed someone had put a piseóg on him — his crops failed, his first wife died etc. He had poor MH, possibly PSTD from experiences during the war of independence and civil war, and was hospitalised several times. It’s fairly clear to me, putting the pieces together a generation later, that a neighbour who wanted his land was profiting from a fragile man’s delusion. His delusion did wreck his life, though. He lost his family farm, and lived the rest of his life barely above the breadline working as a labourer.

Skirtless · 02/05/2025 14:07

mrsmiggins78 · 02/05/2025 13:15

how snooty

I do t think it’s ‘snooty’ to suggest that taking the word of a begging, homeless addict on demons telling him where money and drugs are is more than a bit irrational.

mrsmiggins78 · 02/05/2025 14:40

Skirtless · 02/05/2025 14:07

I do t think it’s ‘snooty’ to suggest that taking the word of a begging, homeless addict on demons telling him where money and drugs are is more than a bit irrational.

Yes of course it's snooty. You only take the word of reputable people, who speak nicely and wash every day. The idea that someone who smells might have an opinion is just absurd!

HamptonPlace · 02/05/2025 14:59

ArminTamzerian · 01/05/2025 13:37

God no, it's completely ridiculous. Understandable that before modern medicine the church might characterise some manifestations of mental illness as demonic possession, but there's no excuse for it in the 21st century.

"God" no 😂

Skirtless · 02/05/2025 15:55

mrsmiggins78 · 02/05/2025 14:40

Yes of course it's snooty. You only take the word of reputable people, who speak nicely and wash every day. The idea that someone who smells might have an opinion is just absurd!

For God’s sake. For one thing, taking anything as gospel because ‘someone’ told you it was the case it is ridiculous.

For another, poor MH is a significant cause and and effect of homelessness. MH problems can trigger or contribute to the chain of events that make someone homeless, and then the stress of homelessness can exacerbate psychological difficulties, so there’s a far higher rate of mental illness among homeless people. Crisis says 8 out of 10 rough sleepers have poor MH.

To cut a long story short, if a homeless person you don’t know tells you he’s demonically possessed and that’s how he knows how to find money and drugs, it’s considerably more likely he’s got some form of psychosis than that he’s Beelzebub in human form.

HRTQueen · 02/05/2025 21:22

Skirtless · 02/05/2025 08:56

Yes, this.

I’ve always found it interesting that sleep paralysis (a fairly common biological phenomenon caused by the body glitching slightly when shutting down certain processes for sleep) is also culturally inflected. The paralysis is often accompanied by a sensation of pressure on the chest, a feeling of dread, and being watched by a sinister presence — but exactly what it is that the person hallucinates, and how they interpret or try to treat their sleep paralysis, is strongly culture-specific, especially if you come from somewhere that has a pervasive folklore around it.

A study described over one third of sufferers in the Abruzzo region as thinking their sleep paralysis was caused by the ‘Pandafeche’, Egyptian sufferers are overwhelmingly more likely to ascribe it to a jinn attack. If you’re from a vampire culture, you’ll be more likely to ascribe it to that, Americans at various points in the 20thc to being abducted by aliens etc. Cultures more likely to view it as supernatural tended to report more frequent SP, and longer periods of immobility.

Some links here

www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/non-weird-science/202501/how-does-sleep-paralysis-differ-around-the-world

Thank you for the link

yes it’s very interesting and when you look back in history how this shifts

balloonraces · 03/05/2025 06:49

bruffin · 02/05/2025 08:11

Look up Lori Vallow and Ruby Franke,
Lori Vallow murdered /caused the death of her children claiming they were possessed, in fact other people she claimed were possessed ended up dead , she is serving 3 life sentances,just been convicted again and awaiting another trial.

Ruby Franke - severly abused her children again in the name of ridding them of possesion
They are just evil women

both are mormons

Just read about these, wtf is wrong with people ?!
it also recommended me a link to this
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/kelly-smith-convicted-kidnapping-human-trafficking-daughter-south-africa/

little girl sold to a healer for her body parts !

Mother who sold 6-year-old daughter for $1,000 to traditional healer is convicted in South Africa

A South African woman has been convicted of kidnapping and selling her 6-year-old daughter. The girl remains missing.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/kelly-smith-convicted-kidnapping-human-trafficking-daughter-south-africa/

BownnTown · 03/05/2025 06:53

To believe in demonic possession you’d have to believe in god so as an atheist I don’t believe in either.

Infact, I’d go as far as to say it’s very silly - same with Ouija boards

MasterBeth · 03/05/2025 07:02

Fuck me, of course not. Other things I don't believe in: a flat earth, the Loch Ness monster, the tooth fairy, Prince Phillip killed Lady Di, astrology... Looney tunes, the lot of you.

nomas · 03/05/2025 07:24

CraftyNavySeal · 01/05/2025 13:35

No.

How come exorcists only seem to deal with pretty low level dumb demons inhabiting vulnerable people? Why not try it with powerful people who are actually committing evil things?

Why aren’t they out at night like Buffy the vampire slayer? Throwing holy water over Putin?

I imagine because Putin’s mum hasn’t approached an exorcist to drive out a demon. Exorcists only go where they’re wanted.

Rummly · 03/05/2025 07:48

I’ve got a great idea. If one low-level priest can drive out a demon, why don’t they get a top priest, like the Pope or the Dean of Ely Cathedral, to drive out all demons at once?

That’d show ‘em!

Serpentstooth · 03/05/2025 07:50

Head swivelling nonsense for the credulous.

AlertCat · 03/05/2025 08:09

PrimitivePerson · 01/05/2025 17:00

We do not have "energy centres".

In fact the theory now is that energy centres, meridians, nadis all refer to fascia, the study of which is pretty new and very interesting. It used to be considered inert and almost without function, now we are just beginning to see what it does and is responsible for in the body.

Contrarymary30 · 29/01/2026 21:17

CraftyNavySeal · 01/05/2025 13:35

No.

How come exorcists only seem to deal with pretty low level dumb demons inhabiting vulnerable people? Why not try it with powerful people who are actually committing evil things?

Why aren’t they out at night like Buffy the vampire slayer? Throwing holy water over Putin?

😂

LucyLoo1972 · 30/01/2026 02:56

AlteredStater · 01/05/2025 13:17

Yes. But not in anyone with the indwelling Holy Spirit.

im a christian but I had psychosis and it has made me tihnk whether I have some sort of static oppression. I know in theory that I can be possessed.

Carla786 · 30/01/2026 03:04

Gettingbysomehow · 01/05/2025 13:23

Well my friend is a Catholic priest and they do a lot of deliverance in his London church. They prefer deliverance rather than exorcism. They have to be careful becsuse a lot of it is mental illness or acute stress so they don't just dive in. They make sure the person has the right support structure and counselling before doing anything.

How do they tell which ones they think need a genuine exorcism?

Carla786 · 30/01/2026 03:10

Tekknonan · 01/05/2025 14:58

My (sadly now late) stepdaughter was plagued all her life by serious mental illness. When she was in her twenties, some well-meaning idiot of a minister suggested possession and took her to a 'deliverance' service. Anyone with half a braincell about mental illness can probably predict what happened next.

From then on, she was plagued with the idea that she was demonically possessed. In her better moments, she knew this wasn't the case, but even then, she was frightened it might be true. When she was ill, the devil became a massive feature. Her dog was looking at her with devil's eyes. She turned family photos to the wall because the devil was watching her through the eyes.

I don't think the brainless moron who did that to her made her illness worse in one sense. She would have been ill anyway, but it gave a terrifying twist to her illness, and it gave her a reason to resist treatment. (The pills won't work. It's the devil).

To answer the OP's question. No, I don't believe in it. It's a nonsense that has been used to abuse and torture children and adults. To this lay minister, I would say, 'Stop it. Now. You are doing more harm that you know.'

That's awful, I'm really sorry. 💐

Annaliese Michel is a tragic example from the 1970s of how belief in exorcism can impede treatment. The Vatican was at least forced to reform their exorcism procedures after that...

Carla786 · 30/01/2026 03:13

I recently read a really interesting article about an Ultra Orthodox Jewish man in Jerusalem who believed he was possessed. His psychiatrist wrote about how he was able to use the man's beliefs to help cure him, though this is probably a risky maneuver.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=www.onnovdhart.nl/articles/paradise_regained.pdf&ved=2ahUKEwiHqoKhpbKSAxWYTkEAHR7iC34QFnoECCgQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1QUJL7H90JEk4uFX2SCKUV

https://www.google.com/url?opi=89978449&rct=j&sa=t&source=web&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.onnovdhart.nl%2Farticles%2Fparadise_regained.pdf&usg=AOvVaw1QUJL7H90JEk4uFX2SCKUV&ved=2ahUKEwiHqoKhpbKSAxWYTkEAHR7iC34QFnoECCgQAQ

Carla786 · 30/01/2026 03:15

PrimitivePerson · 01/05/2025 16:19

I was briefly involved in a pretty extreme form of Christianity in my teens, and attended a church where demonic activity was seen as an everyday thing, having all sorts of malign influence on people and events. I was very committed in my belief back then, but even then I found it a troubling belief system, and I could see it was harmful. The church was well into "spiritual warfare", and attempting to free people from demonic influence.

Seriously, if you come across anyone who thinks this stuff is real and acts like it's part of normal life, be extremely wary of them and take everything they say with a very large pinch of salt. It can lead to very irresponsible behaviour and serious harm.

Happy to name and shame those responsible - Revelation Church in Chichester. Horrible bunch of extremists who have hurt a lot of people over the years.

This is quite mainstream in some US evangelical circles. You can hear several prominent ones speaking about 'spiritual warfare' at political rallies...very worrying.

Carla786 · 30/01/2026 03:17

scorpiogirly · 01/05/2025 16:33

The one priest I was listening to said there are a few ways. Off the top of my head one is knowing things they couldn't possibly know. And another was an adverse effect to anything that has been blessed (unbeknownst to them).

Cold reading? Some people who are mentally ill can be hyperalert & pick up on details that the people around them might not realise they're giving away.

Carla786 · 30/01/2026 03:19

OhreallyOReilly · 01/05/2025 16:51

I enjoy listening to the exorcist who taught my priest in seminary. His theology is 👌 and it transformed my life. Mental illness or demonic affliction (several levels possible) are different things but one can lead to another. He taught me that practising virtue; living an ordered life and having an ordered mind keep both away and result in a very happy life.

How did he say you could tell possession apart from mental illness?