Disgusted by school’s response to complaint about pervy teacher - Update

[SophEll]

I have debated whether to post this update but I promised I would in the previous thread (www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5325717-disgusted-by-schools-response-to-complaint-about-pervy-teacher) and I’m someone who keeps their word.

I have had an acknowledgment of my email to the Chair of Governors who assures me they will ensure my previous correspondence with the school will be personally overseen by the Headteacher as opposed to the senior member of staff who replied previously.

The Governor has understandably explained that the school cannot share the details of any internal disciplinary action, but has assured me the head teacher will provide me with a further response in due course, and asked me to provide my contact number. I’ve also confirmed that should it be required, my friend would be happy to provide her account of the evening’s events.

This proves that the school previously dismissing this without investigation was inappropriate, so I must say I’m feeling rather smug right now at this vindication. Given their prompt response, the Governor clearly recognises the reputational impact something like this could have on the school.

Thanks to all those who provided suggestions on how best to proceed (including those who said I should have laughed it off, been flattered etc) - I’ll endeavour to provide a further update once the headteacher concludes their investigation. An impressively prompt response by the Chair - the joys of retirement I guess!

No. OP said that to point out to a poster that an ‘equivalent’ story was not the same as hers. She was not saying the teacher said that.

To say you want to ‘bend someone over a desk’ or ‘sit on someone’s face’ is an equivalent comment.

Thank you for clarifying this. @SophEll

Exactly

Absolutely not. If named, the teacher could sue for libel and besides, I'd bet that very few people would care.

Seriously?? You actually think 'nice' men share their sexual fantasies with you uninvited?

This has to be a wind up.

Wow OP you sound delightful- why are you so bitter? Don’t you have anything else better to do with your time? Are so utterly bored that you’d go to this extent to make sure someone’s career is destroyed. Wow just wow. All I can say is karma will find you.
You sound really sick … disturbed

You never specified "uninvited" in your comment though

Just that nice men don't say things like that, which was sharing a fantasy

Oh ffs. I think you know the context. You've certainly spent long enough on this thread.

When they’re drunk and liable to say stupid things, then yes. I’ve told people all sorts when I’m drunk that I later regret, haven’t you? In fact, that’s one of the reasons I no longer drink 🤣

This, the OP is carrying out an unnecessary vendetta against this man.
He was drunk, he shouldn’t have said it, I doubt he can even remember it.
Move on.

Except you didn't specify

Why are we suddenly in the territory of excusing male behaviour because of drink?

'OH! He was DRUNK when he said it! Fine, okay then, as you were.'

Pleading drunkenness didn't work for Chris Pincher – who, incidentally, was in his home and also in a club, not in his place of work. Nor should it.

I have heard worse from groups of drunk women

Whataboutery.

Don’t worry - they just motivate me further to pursue this for as long as I need!

What would that look like? How would your needs be met?

You do you.
But you need to decide what you actually want out of this.

Ah yes
Handmaidens
Absolutely not just resorting to insults

I’ve said previously - multiple times. It helps to read all posts.

Og OP
You're going to get yourself in trouble

Just let it go

You haven't actually

I’m not excusing male behaviour. I’m saying that everybody can say stupid shit when they’ve had a drink, men and women. It doesn’t make it okay, but it’s a fact, whether you like it or not. Someone’s conduct when they are intoxicated is not indicative of their conduct when sober. It’s not like OP was physically assaulted or he continued the unwanted conversation. He fucked up and walked away.

It's very unpleasant to refer to people as handmaidens because they don't agree with you and the OP. In any case I doubt she needs your encouragement to ignore anyone with an alternative point of view.

Did you mean to be so rude?
Of course you did

But you also haven't actually said what you want out of this.

You have allegedly got your investigation. but what do you want out of this in the end?
What does your final goal look like?