Offended by friend’s comments about party food

[LinsMum22]

We hosted my friend, her husband and three kids yesterday afternoon. Our sons are in the same football team and we said we’d put some food on at ours after and watch the Liverpool match who they both support. My friend agreed to party style food being the best option as everyone could pick at it as and when.

Amongst other things, there was - Indian selection, tempura prawns, sausage rolls, mini pizza’s, mini sausages, chips, breaded chicken. So a good mix all from Iceland where we’ve had positive comments on the food before.

I could tell my friends’ youngest looked unimpressed when they tried one of the items, and pulled a face to my friend. She made no
attempt to get them to try another item and basically said ‘I know’. I noticed five minutes later she had barely ate anything herself either.

15/20 minutes later, the youngest moaned again and this time my friend said ‘don’t worry, we will stop at McDonald’s on the way back as I’m hungry too.’

I text her after they left to say sorry if they didn’t enjoy the food. She replied to say they didn’t realise it would be that sort of food and that they’d have got something else before coming round if they realised!!

AIBU to find this really snobby and ungrateful? The fact she then took the kids to get a McDonald’s makes no sense!!

This, exactly.

I think plenty of people would be disappointed if presented with a tray of celery sticks, blueberries and hummus while watching the football.

I certainly would.

As, I suspect would the Dad of this family and the other child who both tucked in heartily to what was provided.

It definitely preserves the nutrients in things like frozen peas and berries if they are frozen straight after picking. I think frozen probably is preferable from a health perspective.

Just being totally honest though, something about frozen pastry/ tempura batter etc makes the fat materialise differently for me. It’s like it draws it out from the inner layers and sits it on the surface so it’s kind of greasy instead of enriching the texture.

Yes they were rude & she'd agreed to party food being the best choice for everyone - So what is wrong with Iceland's selections?

having walked into and out of an Iceland, this is the very last place I would want to eat anything from. BUT I would never be so rude to someone that has spent money and time making an effort to host my family. I would have pulled up my dc if they were rude as this child.

Yes I would completely correct my Children for being so unnecessarily rude to someone whom's been so immensely thoughtful, considerate & kind too-I like Iceland food & can't see what she felt she had the audacity to be snooty about

Especially if you dress it up with a few dips, chilli sauce mayo, wasabi mayo, sweet chilli mayo and a fruit and veggi plate with hummus for the veg and choc or caramel sauce for the fruit. I'd have no problem serving baked from frozen party snacks. Mini spanakopita, spring rolls and gyoza are popular at my house. (And a major treat since I don't buy it often $$$)

Nothing wrong with Iceland party food! Saying that I’m celiac so can’t have much part food but back before I was diagnosed I’d have devoured it

Who else is old enough to remember Bejam?

My best friends first Saturday job (when they were a thing) was at Bejam!

Fruit can be very expensive. Strawberries, Raspberries, plums all more expensive than a packet of biscuits

She sounds unbearably rude and I wouldn’t bother inviting her again. I would have very much enjoyed your party food because I’m not a godawful snob.

Yes, I’m sure if it was the same stuff but from M&S she would have been fine - she sounds like Amanda from Motherland 😂

No one knows if they got burgers at McDonald’s, which also sells salads, wraps and fish.

No worse than food catered for work meetings and surely Iceland cheesecake lovely and edible?

Everyone who is giving their opinion on whether you like Iceland party food or not…. It’s completely irrelevant.
If you’re a guest in someone else’s home you should show basic manners and teach your kids them at the same time.
It’s not a flipping restaurant!

Me! My mum would buy big trays of frozen yogurts and my favourite was one with a layer of chocolate stuff on the top. Me and my brothers used to eat the strawberry ones while they were still frozen.

Ha, don’t take all the suggestions from this thread though!

I think what you served was more snacky bits, nibbles some would say. If I was serving party food there would be sandwiches, salad, quiche, a fruit platter, dips, coleslaw, crisps plus what you served. I think they was just hangry as they expected to be able to put a plate of food together and they got nibbles hence the mcdonalds. All that aside they where incredibly rude. You have these conversations in the car on the way to mcdonalds not in front of the host. Even if you hated it you say thankyou for inviting us the food was lovely!

Would prefer a few veg sticks/a salad and fruit as well as the beige food, but I wouldn't complain if someone had laid on food for me.

We call it the golden food group around here - sounds way better than beige.

First company to remove hydrogenated fats from all their own brand products.

I remember being in bejam with my mum when my baby sister started screaming the place down

my mum was mortified because the headteacher from my naice all girls private school witnessed

i don’t remember Bejam being as controversial as Iceland 🤣

I really want an Iceland party buffet for lunch now after reading that.

I was telling my dad about this thread and he said is this just an episode of motherland! 😂😂

When I read your post my first thought was it’s not the type of food or lack of veg etc it’s the cheap quality. I’ve gotten the Iceland party food before and my kids who aren’t bothered about frozen food weren’t pushed on it, it’s very cardboardy IMO the mini pizzas they loved but a lot of those other bits just aren’t great, a bag of frozen fillet goujons and 1lb of fresh cocktail sausages tray of sandwiches with some Doritos and dips probably would’ve being scoffed a lot faster and cost around the same. She was rude the way she handled it and trying to pass the buck onto her kid now by blaming him for not eating anything but I’d make a point of being invited to hers for the next occasion and let her fork out on m&s party food 😂