I'm being blackmailed **TW: contains content about alleged child abuse**

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I'm honestly at my wits end here. Someone I've not heard from in 15 years has made contact today out of the blue and is blackmailing me over something I did in the past when I was 16. This could seriously ruin my life and I genuinely don't know what to do

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Money but given past I wouldn't be sure

Look not great but I'd call his bluff. Remind him that he is holding onto child abuse material, you'll be reporting him, ask him if he has kept it for sexual gratification.
You were both under 18, illegal to have video evident of a sexual nature of under 18.

Just go to the police. If you believe he will actually do something with that video then go to the police.

Yeah, those were suggestions. Morally I'd say some crime is way worse than others. So I was saying if it didn't really hurt anyone then it's not as bad? Those are the most crimey ones aren't they?

Oh goodness I hasn't thought of that! If he sends it me to prove it dioes that mean he's committed an offence?

as hard as it is I would go to the police yourself and explain it all. You didn’t know he was 13 and were also blackmailed then. Seems like after all these years he hasn’t changed one bit.

You poor thing xx

statue of limitations plus could they prove it etc ? other wise its hear say

Yes it would be an offence for him to do that even if he is the child in the video.

What an awful situation, I hope you get it sorted.

He coerced you then and is blackmailing you now. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

Well if he's demanding money that is clearly blackmail in law.

You've got 2 options.

Call his bluff and tell him you'll report him to the Police for blackmail. A much more serious offence than any that you could be accused of.

Or actually report him to the Police. And go through that system.

Btw we don’t really have a statute of limitations in the uk as far as I’m aware (for criminal cases). That’s an American thing

Thank you

He didn't force me for clarity but it was pretty horrid to do

That's debatable, I should have said no

Plus he is committing blackmail. He obviously continued to grow up nasty. He used control to sexually abuse you.
I would go the police on him for the above crimes.
He has probably abused other people too.

Oh OP, I would definitely call the police or tell him that you are going to go to the police if he doesn't leave you alone! You didn't know he was underage and then he blackmailed you into further sex acts.

He did force you, not physically, but mentally with blackmail.

Thank you, it wouldn't surprise me!

He is on very sticky ground and I think he has a warped expectation of what might happen.

I cannot tell you for certain that the police would have little to no interest or resource to unpick this. I would also leverage that he coerced you and lied to you, and has held onto CSA images. I do not think he has a case!

So go back to this person and say- I have made an appt for us to go to the police together on xxxx. Drop it or see me there, but you are not getting a penny off me. If you decide to publish the video, please know you are distributing CSA images which is illegal. I will pursue criminal charges against you. Delete it and move on.

The fact you thought he was 16 is defence enough (trust me it has been used a number of times) and you had no idea of his age.
was he telling the truth about age as well and given what he has done since it seems he is not the one who was coerced into anything

What are they threatening to do/who are they threatening to tell?

Could you tell them yourself?

I suppose yes. It was stupid of me though and made me more vulnerable

He coerced you back then
he's attempting to blackmail you now
he's threatening revenge porn
He's going to get himself in a whole heap of shit if he does anything. And if he's done this via text message then you have all the evidence you need. I would definitely go to the police. If he has the video on his phone hopefully they can get it off him and your mind will be at rest.

Yy to the poster who said this is probably not his only shitty behaviour...

That's debatable, I should have said no
and he shouldn't have blackmailed and coerced you

To be honest, I don't think the police would be interested. You were 16, not 26 and it was a long time ago. I doubt they'd have the evidence to make it worth prosecuting (even with the video).

I'd be highly inclined to ignore the person altogether. Block them. do not engage.
If their attempt to contact you heightens, eg, they appear at your door then tell them you will contact the police yourself and report for blackmail and harassment. Then actually do that.

Thank you!! X

What a nasty piece of work! Are you sure he actually was 13? Horrible to think that a child could be that evil at such a young age.
Anyway, either totally ignore it ( how did he get your contact details? Will he even know that you've received it if you don't reply?) or contact the police.
How long ago was this, I wonder if you're still even recognisable.