What do you think of reborn dolls for adults and are they a waste of money?

[Notsure54]

I'm considering buying one for anxiety as I do like babys but are they truly worth it?

Bullshit. You just want to be provocative

I personally find them a bit creepy.

If you think that it'll help you feel better, go for it.

If you think it will help you, get one.

I don't like them, but at the same time think they are a work of art. Some, the more expensive ones, are actually hand painted, so it's a very skilled craft.

Disclaimer: I used to value stuff for a charity and then sell them on the right platform. We would get the odd Reborn doll and strangely they would always sell/ fetch good money. Especially the better quality ones.

Every word of it true. Obviously as soon as I laid hands on it I realised it was just a fucking doll, but by then my adrenaline was through the roof. I've tried to resuscitate too many babies. The success rate is not good. And oddly enough, medical staff still find it traumatic.

Get a nice scarf. You can wear it anywhere and put it in your bag when you don't need to wear it.

These are weighted teddies.

https://www.thelearningstore.ie/calming-companions-calmcom?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAA9ZyQde8Qo1X_5lL7In1hxlzDjMz3&gclid=CjwKCAjwq7fABhB2EiwAwk-YbBCKv0By7sqRAA84xJ99q0Ri_4km8skGpUkmXqF0stW4FZjG0nlk7hoCqg4QAvD_BwE

Also I personally love this cat that my aunt with dementia had. It’s not great to get a live pet when you aren’t feeling the best: this is a safe alternative.

https://www.homecaremedicalsupplies.ie/products/breathing-penny-the-cat

You'd be better off spending your money on therapy and addressing the cause of your anxiety.

I didn’t realise that element really mattered in the context of the post, but the care homes in London/Surrey had them… also cost a bomb to live there (£2,200 per week when my granny was there - she didn’t have dementia so didn’t use them and found them a bit weird).

This happened to me on a train when I had my disabled dd2 age about 6 at the time, in a major buggy. The ticket collector had to ask her to move her pram (my dd2 at the time couldn’t weight bear due to a congenital hip condition) as our buggy was classified as a wheelchair.

The woman involved was sadly, clearly very unwell, she burst into tears about not waking her “baby” and it was only when she was going to have to leave the train that she agreed to fold her pram. The doll inside was incredibly creepy but I did feel quite sorry for her as she did hold and treat it like a real baby. The really odd thing was you could see it wasn’t breathing, there was no movement. But despite her distress, my dd needed the space and I was quite insistent that she got it, even though I didn’t realise until she folded that it was a doll.

I was actually quite careful not to get that train again (they were every 15 mins at that time of day) as I didn’t want this happening again!

Oh and dd2 got a total hip replacement last year age 21 and is totally ok now!

You know some come with a heartbeat.... they are the creepiest of them all!

@Notsure54 if you want to cuddle something weighted........ get a hug a lump! I liked the first one I got so much I bought another. The fabric is super soft, warm and cuddly. The feet and their tummys are weighted. They only cost lest than £20. Honestly one of the best £20 Ive ever spent.
hug a lump

If owning one helps you, it's only your business and your decision.

Very sad. If anyone I knew did it I’d be deeply concerned for their state of mind & overall mental health and would be considering contacting their family to check in on them. It’s not healthy, OP.
I apologise if this is not what you wanted to hear but you asked for opinions and this is genuinely mine. I cannot see how they can help to improve anyone’s state of mind, outside of perhaps a Dementia patient 🤍

I don’t like them, but I do have my childhood “doggy” who sits on our bed still, and get great comfort from stroking his (ratty, threadbare) fur if I feel anxious. I’m 52 and he’s about the same.

Some pp have mentioned pets being helpful and agree 100% - our cat’s the absolute best remedy for feeling down (he’s hilarious) or feeling anxious (petting a purring cat is very soothing) and he seems to know when you need him to come and give you a cuddle. If you can’t have or don’t want a pet, hanging out with a dog or cat belonging to a friend could be a great tonic.

Wonderful news about your daughter’s hip 💞 Well done her

Look, there’s more than one of us been put in this situation. I feel very sorry for people in this position (I live with a couple of psychiatric diagnoses myself) but please, a real child has to have priority over a doll in a pram!

I’m not keen on how people accuse people of being damaged if they want one. They do tend to be used for comfort for people having a very bad time. I did know a very nice woman who had some. She told me that in the 1960’s she was forced to give away her baby for adoption as she was an unmarried Mother, the child was born of rape. She was a lovely women and had more children. She had obviously suffered extreme trauma as a 17 year old. I think some things can never be truly healed with therapy, I know she had tried it and it had helped somewhat but she was never going to be fully over what happened to her.

I hope you recover from your anxiety @Notsure54 in whatever way you can as long as it’s not harmful to you.

Would you go out with it? Push it around in a pram etc? I find it a bit odd.

Perhaps seeing the GP for your anxiety and getting some therapy or meds instead? Or the weighted blanket.

Up to you though, obviously, if you want to spend your money on this.

A young family member with SN was obsessed with them.
She actually fraudulently took out CC's in her sisters name to buy 3. When her Mum found out she made her sell them, so she got pg instead
Absolute disaster

I feel like people are shaming OP. I think it's fine. They're good for people with memory problems. Some women have them to help with grief. And some people just like them 🤷 it's not causing any harm to anyone, so if you think it will help, go for it. Some people probably like the weighted feel/comfort of a baby, without actually wanting a baby.

I think they're creepy too but only because I suspect awful men secretly buy them

Ive got a weighted teddy bear thats really nice to cuddle

Not according to those two women, he didn’t. They argued that their “babies” were sleeping whilst my disabled child was awake.

Disability mums are made of stern stuff however so I said they could either move their plastic dollies themselves, or I would be moving them by chucking them out the window. At which point the bus driver realised they didn’t have actual babies and booted them off the bus.

Well done that driver!

Horrible weird creepy things. Get counselling for your anxiety.