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What do you think of reborn dolls for adults and are they a waste of money?

126 replies

Notsure54 · 27/04/2025 19:19

I'm considering buying one for anxiety as I do like babys but are they truly worth it?

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1000DayChallenge · 27/04/2025 20:40

I’m sure it was on mumsnet that I read about a woman with a baby in a pram who couldn’t get on a bus because there were only two pram spaces, and they were both taken up with reborn dolls.

I think have what you want, but remember they’re not real.

LoveTKO · 27/04/2025 20:40

Creepy and weird. I’ve heard of residents with dementia in care homes liking them, but that’s unfortunately because they’re not functioning properly, very sad to say.

Even odder hearing of people without dementia taking them out for the day in a pram.

It’s not a baby.

tinyspiny · 27/04/2025 20:42

Get a nice weighted fluffy or an anxiety relief sloth ( other animals available ) , the dolls are really creepy .

rosehipstalk · 27/04/2025 20:44

The reason most people find them disturbing is due to a phenomenon called "uncanny valley" which is where "humans experience a sense of unease or discomfort when encountering entities that are almost, but not quite, human-like". Thats why so many people find them creepy.

That said, if you dont and you think it would help you then get one. The only thing I would say is, if you start to feel that it is real and that reality is becoming a bit blurred for you then it would be wise to get some help.

arcticpandas · 27/04/2025 20:45

Very useful in dementia care because the residents believe they are babies. Will you believe you have a real baby @Notsure54 if you get one? It might be going down a rabbit hole in that case. How about a pet (a live pet)?

HumanRightsAreHumanRights · 27/04/2025 20:48

If you get a really good one, what it basically looks like after a bit is a dead baby.
They can look incredibly realistic (scanned from real babies) although usually the hair ranges from ridiculously bad to not great and obviously fake, but the silicone they are made from weeps a bit so they can develop a slightly oily coating from time to time, they don't breathe which you can't help but notice after a while, and their eyes are either permanently closed or a dead fixed stare.

They are also susceptible to tears in the silicone if handled too much or too roughly.
It can be rather distressing to tear ones leg off if you are planning on dressing it often - you'll have to do it from time to time so you can wash the substance they weep off.

I have been sent dozens, from cheap ones to very expensive ones.
I found opening the boxes distressing because they always seem to have been shoved in clear plastic bags which made me feel really uncomfortable.

They range from ones with silicone limbs and head attached to a stuffed cloth torso, through to full silicone with externally modelled and painted genitals.
The full silicone ones can be bathed.

As they tend to be hand painted, you are at the mercy of whoever is doing it.
I once received one which had accurate outer genitals.
The genitals, wrists and ankles were painted in such a way that it looked like a child who had been restrained and harmed and frankly, it haunted me.
That one was not intended to be any kind of weird version, it was being sold as a doll for adults and children and they'd just got a bit enthusiastic making the creases/skin folds a deeper red.
I actually found it traumatic seeing it, having to handle it, and eventually getting rid of it.
I couldn't donate it to anyone else in that state and I felt like I was harming it throwing it in the bin.
My brain knew it was just a creepy doll, but my heart told me I was throwing a dead child in the bin and I was a bit scared that when the bin men emptied the bin, they'd somehow catch a glimpse of a leg with what looked like restraint marks on it and have to stop the collection to investigate.

I wouldn't recommend them at all.
I now refuse to have anything to do with them.

Before anyone questions it, yes, I have also seen a real dead baby.

That is exactly why I found so called Reborn style dolls so traumatic and wouldn't allow one in the house.

My son wouldn't even be in the room with one as he found them unsettling too.

I know I see people saying they are well received by some dementia patients, but so are those odd fake pets which wouldn't in any way fool someone across a room without dementia, so they are obviously operating on a whole different level.

Superhansrantowindsor · 27/04/2025 20:49

If you want one then get one. People don’t mind adults getting train sets or playing dungeons and dragons etc. if you will find comfort sitting in your home with it then do it.

Lucytheloose · 27/04/2025 20:51

I find them creepy and hideous, but I'm not you and if you think it would be helpful to you, you should try one. Just please don't put it in a pram and try to take it on a bus.

Kamek · 27/04/2025 20:52

I think they're only bought by very damaged people who need professional help. Sorry OP but I can't personally see how they could help anyone with anything

Mum2jenny · 27/04/2025 20:54

Kamek · 27/04/2025 20:52

I think they're only bought by very damaged people who need professional help. Sorry OP but I can't personally see how they could help anyone with anything

You are being so judgemental. This may not be a helpful post on this thread.

TaggieO · 27/04/2025 20:58

1000DayChallenge · 27/04/2025 20:40

I’m sure it was on mumsnet that I read about a woman with a baby in a pram who couldn’t get on a bus because there were only two pram spaces, and they were both taken up with reborn dolls.

I think have what you want, but remember they’re not real.

That was me! And my DS is disabled so it was a special needs wheelchair buggy, just to make it worse….

menopausalfart · 27/04/2025 21:01

Are you looking for a realistic one? If so, don't buy cheap.
If it'll help with your anxiety, then go for it.
My coping mechanism is plants. We all have different ways to cope with stress and anxiety. I hope you find a way to cope with yours.

Cakencookieobsessed · 27/04/2025 21:04

If you like them, get one. No point asking strangers who personally don't like them. We all have our thing. It's not a waste of money if you're going to get enjoyment from it.

Katemax82 · 27/04/2025 21:05

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 27/04/2025 19:30

I think they’re horrendous.

A fake dead baby. Why is that even a thing?

Absolutely shocking.

What about baby dolls like my little treasures? They aren't fake dead babies? My daughter has one

Hoppinggreen · 27/04/2025 21:07

Honestly?
I think they are creepy AF and stupidly expensive.
The people I have seen buy them have issues that could be btter served with professional help

Mum2jenny · 27/04/2025 21:08

Hoppinggreen · 27/04/2025 21:07

Honestly?
I think they are creepy AF and stupidly expensive.
The people I have seen buy them have issues that could be btter served with professional help

Edited

Each to their own imo. What you find creepy isn’t everyone’s creepy!

Arran2024 · 27/04/2025 21:11

My daughter is adopted. She was obsessed with baby dolls as a child but she got to an age when she was too old for them and that's when she got her first Ashton Drake collectible doll. They aren't reborns but they are pretty realistic. And not as expensive. Maybe check them out.

And if you want one, go for it xx

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 27/04/2025 21:12

A relative has some. It’s deeply weird.

Hoppinggreen · 27/04/2025 21:13

Mum2jenny · 27/04/2025 21:08

Each to their own imo. What you find creepy isn’t everyone’s creepy!

Op asked what people thought
I answered
I didn't say that everyone found them creepy I said I did, although from this thread it sounds like I am not alone

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 27/04/2025 21:14

OTOH, I can see that they’re helpful to certain groups eg Alzheimer’s patients.

What makes you so sure they’d help anxiety? It’s a lot of money to be down if it doesn’t actually work for you.

Anonymous2003 · 27/04/2025 21:16

YANBU, they are very comforting for people, don't listen to the armchair psychologists on here

Justfreedom · 27/04/2025 21:28

I suffer with anxiety and panic attacks.
Reborn dolls tbh i think they look bloody awful and a huge waste of money.
Get a large plushy i have loads even 5 foot one.
You can get breathing teddys i have 2 they play white noise and their bellies light up at night.
I also have a weighted sloth.
Again some will think my choice is awful and a waste of money you have to get what your happy with.

TeenLifeMum · 27/04/2025 21:33

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 27/04/2025 19:39

I’ve worked in dementia for 20+ years and can honestly say that I have never seen this.

Personally, I think they’re horrendous would cause extreme distress as the baby/doll would be unable to wake up.

I’ve heard of doll therapy with more obvious dolls, but not the creepy ‘reborns’.

Really? Many care homes have them and it’s quite common in dementia patients. They dress them and “care” for them. It keeps them calm and occupies their time.

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 27/04/2025 21:34

TeenLifeMum · 27/04/2025 21:33

Really? Many care homes have them and it’s quite common in dementia patients. They dress them and “care” for them. It keeps them calm and occupies their time.

Yes, they have dolls.

But not reborns.

Most homes wouldn’t have the budget for that. Aren’t they £££?