The utter despair of losing something

[kindnessforthewin]

I realised I had misplaced brand new expensive sunglasses today, around mid morning, I just thought I hadn’t seen them in a while, so checked the last place I remember having them (the car).

DH almost 100% I brought them un as we know not to leave anything in the car.

When we arrived at a soft play (of all places) I took them off and left in central reservation of car as I didn’t want to take them in. That was 10 days ago, I just knew they weren’t in the house as I’d have seen them. I have a couple pairs and just got stuck on the other pair recently, as you do.

I don’t understand it at all. It’s ruined the entire day. Taken over. I can’t stop wondering where they have gone.

anyone else get obsessive like this?

Yes I used to be that way, once. It didn't help that one of my best friends was a kleptomaniac either.
But that was long before I learned that all 'things' can be replaced and when you start to lose living beings from your life then you really know the meaning of loss.

I left my favourite silk scarf in a Burger King. I’d had it 20 years. I knew where I’d left it. Went back the next day and asked about it and it was so frustrating, the person on the counter just stood there looking completely blank at me when I was trying to get her to understand how important it was to me. That was about 10 years ago and I still miss it. I loved that scarf.

I’ve just realised the gold diamond and opal bracelet my boyfriend gave me for my birthday isn’t on my wrist.

I’ve been searching the house.

I haven’t taken it off since he gave it to me last September.

I’m heartbroken.

We had been for a day out at the Arundel Wildfowl trust a few years ago with my parents as well. When we got home my mum messaged and said they’d gone back because my dad couldn’t find his wedding ring. He had lost some weight and wondered if it had slipped off.
Anyway, it wasn’t there, he couldn’t find it anywhere, turned the house upside down.

About two years later he had a flat tyre and was changing it for the spare, and THERE, in the well of the car, underneath the boot, was his wedding ring! He reckons it fell off in a pocket and then when he put his coat in the car it had slipped down.

He was unbelievably pleased.

I hope your sunglasses have ended up somewhere suitably odd as well.

my theory is I left them in the car and I live in London, so we left car unlocked for a second and someone pinched them (happens a lot here)

Jeez, which area of London do you live? I live in a 'edgy area' yet have never hasd this happen, nor do I know of anyone that it has happpened to. Someone would have to be watching you arrive, assess how long you might be away from the car, then search randomly through your love box in case you've stashed something valuable in there, all the while keeping an eye out for you coming back.
Yeah, it's crimesville here in London. They steal the breath out of your mouth if you don't lock it

Was convinced for over three years that a packer had pocketed my grandmother’s engagement ring during a house move. Eventually came across it – in what I literally call “the treasure drawer” – when I decided to dig out an old T-shirt

I think this too. OP,I know you said you moved the car seats forward, you need to move them right back too, get down and shine a torch under the seats to really, really check.

In the past year, I have lost expensive sunglasses and a lovely umbrella which was storm proof, dried really quickly and was lightweight. I did not notice either item was missing until I wanted to use it and couldn't find it.

I still mourn the loss of a Kindle as I was going on holiday to Portugal many years ago. It was loaded with hundreds of books . Made police reports and checked regularly with airline.

I lost my expensive prescription sunglasses a few years back, Finally accepted they were gone (after a good few weeks of retracing my steps and turning the house upside down) and paid for a new pair.

The original glasses eventually materialised a year later when we were doing a clear-out - at the back of the wardrobe inside some rarely worn boots. Aaaaaaargh.

Last year, we went on holiday for 2 weeks and I can still see a necklace I decided to leave behind last minute - in a little pouch on top of my drawers. A friend made it for me and it’s v lovely and special.

When we got home, the pouch and necklace were gone. Three people had been in the house - the cleaner (who has worked for us for many years, completely trustworthy), a lovely friend feeding the cat, and a second lovely friend who fed the cat for a few days when the other one couldn’t. I couldn’t imagine any of them stealing anything!

I’ve hunted high and low for that necklace and I’m driven MAD wondering what happened to it!

Yes, it annoys me to the extent that I don't buy expensive things. It's annoying when you lose anything new but more so when it's expensive. I often buy cheaper stuff just so I don't feel so bad when things get lost or broken.

I thought I left my beloved and expensive sunglasses at a gas station when my husband and I were on a road trip. By the time I realized it, we were already far from the gas station and I didn't want to go back. I really love those sunglasses but I kept telling myself that maybe some lady who didn't have much money would find them and recognize the brand and it would just make her day. That made me feel a little better but then I realized I was sitting on them the whole time. Stuff is not what's important in life, right? (That's another thing I tell myself when I lose something). :)

Bummer.

Broke a 60 quid mug this morning, bought in December, used and loved daily, and feel sick and stupid for breaking it...it happens.It's why I tend not to buy too many expensive things I can break or lose.

When I moved I lost all of my certificates- from GCSE to Present day. I pulled every file out of the book case but they were nowhere to be found. I was feeling panicky at this stage as the thought of trying to replace them all filled me with dread. I said a prayer to St Anthony several times. Went back over to the bookcase and they were the first thing I put my hands upon. Worth a try!

Yeah, it's bad enough when you're the one who lost it. Whatever "it" was. Now imagine it's your partner losing all your shit for you and that's my existence.

He lost my bag of brand new Sharpies set before I'd even used them twice. £25 worth, just fucking gone. We've only got a small flat.

He likes to "tidy".

What this means in practice is everything of mine being tossed in random boxes, drawers, tubs and bags...never to be seen until six months after they've been re-fucking-purchased.
I swear to the almighty himself, I'm going to make him fucking eat them when he finally goes, "ohhhh, there they was. What they doin in there then?".

He's like the old woman garbage dump goblin in Labyrinth.

Seriously though. It's extremely stressful to live with someone so utterly forgetful and thoughtless. He always denies he's touched the lost item. There's only the two of us here, no visitors, and I am not forgetful in the slightest about where I've put things.

Definitely ask St Anthony. He is very efficient!

But I also think they’ve either got lost in the car somewhere( down between the seats ) or they got attached to something and dropped when you got out. I think you need another look inside the car.

You wouldn’t have bought them in with bits after soft play? Unthinkingly just grabbing whatever you needed to bring in. Perhaps they’re in a spare bag or pocket.

I hate losing stuff. The weird thing is I keep looking in the same places over and over again, as if I can't believe the object isn't where it should be.

I've also lost a a banana, Just disappeared!
Also recently a mascara and face powder I'd recently bought just gone into thin air.
I live alone so can't blame anyone else though I do wonder if I've chucked them in the bin whilst in cleaning mode.
Once lost a necklace when someone gave me a lift to a party, was definitely on when I was in the car, when I went to get out it had gone, searched everywhere and it just went into thin air.
Places I've found things are a bracelet inside a tent pocket, it was packed for a year and can't remember what it was but found something my dds boyfriend had lost in his car though he and DD had been searching for ages, cars have black holes I swear.

I lost some expensive perfume MIL bought me for Christmas one year. Found it the next year in the Christmas decorations box!

I lost the diamond pendant necklace my mum gave me. It had been hers.
I first noticed it was gone while I was in the shower.
If it went down the drain I’ll just calmly climb up on the roof and jump off.
But I recently had to go to hospital and the clothes I was wearing are missing too. I think they all must be together somewhere around here - I just don’t know where.
I hate it when that happens.

We need my DD7s birth certificate today, she's booked in to have her ears pierced as a birthday present. Piercing is a 90min train/tube journey away.
Realised last night we don't know where it is and have looked in all the obvious spots. Found 2 other kids certificates and 2 wedding certificates - urgh.
We're going to have to try our luck with passports, driving license and an NHS letter.

My DH lost an expensive pair of sunglasses. He is convinced a scaffolder or roofer just picked them up from our living room and walked off with them! Many years later and we don’t have a better idea what happened to them 😔

Had similar, gave them up as lost and then after my car was serviced, there they were! Must have slipped down under one of the seats or mats and I hadn’t seen them, despite looking. Don’t lose hope!

It’s awful losing something. Years ago my dad gave me his late mother’s gold wedding ring with their initials and marriage date engraved on the inside. I had it at uni in a little metal tin where I kept my earrings and rings etc (none very valuable). One day I was getting something out and noticed the ring missing, I didn’t actually wear it at the time as I was only 19. Looking back I think the likely culprit was the uni flat’s cleaner (we were in flats in halls) as no one really came into my room as we flatmates tended to meet in the kitchen. And I’ve stayed friends with my four flatmates from that time and just can’t imagine them stealing a ring from me. I always wonder what happened to it and feel really bad for my dad who trusted me to look after it.

Yes I hate it too. I lost mine recently. I've had them a while and they weren't that expensive but they really suited me and fitted perfectly, plus I kept them in a plastic case I've had for about 30 years so they wouldn't get scratched in bags etc. I'm grieving the loss of both.

We'd been out in the countryside the last day I had them and I hadn't actually used them, but they were in my back pack. So I have no idea how they got out or where it would have happened. I couldn't stop looking round the house for them at first.

I had a few instances of losing expensive sunglasses in my mid to late 20s - just sunglasses, everything else I kept track of. It was gutting and infuriating. In hindsight, I think they were nicked when I was out.

I now get my sunglasses from TK Maxx, I don't worry if I lose them as they were pretty cheap