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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

OP posts:
latetothefisting · 25/04/2025 23:57

twopintsofHPsauce · 25/04/2025 23:42

It was a glass of water, not a cup of tea. As you will have noticed from the OP, the devil is in the detail.

if anything I think we need more detail
so many unanswered questions

what shade was the incriminating lipstick mark on water glass?
was the friend's attempted wee successful or not?
was friend going to drive her "long journey" despite having had 2 glasses of wine
what was the waiter's reaction when these muppets fucked off without leaving a penny tip despite all their faffing with the water and the bill...

how can anyone be expected to provide their definitive judgement with such scarce information?

TimeForABreak4 · 26/04/2025 00:01

Fuck me my heads burst just reading this. I'd be mortified at going to a restaurant and not leaving a tip whilst the poor waiter had to wait around for you all fucking about with your spreadsheets and toilet trips and for that reason and the ridiculousness over 2 pounds, I'd not be going out with either of them to a restaurant again.

WhyCantIGetItTogether · 26/04/2025 00:14

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:38

Yeah I'm going to speak to both later, but it feels like its always me smoothing things out. My cousin will count things to the last penny, friend knows this. My friend, however wants to be included. But my friend is just as bad, she counts things to the last penny also, just slightly a bit less than cousin.

I really can’t be bothered with people who count things to the last penny. The people I know who do this are all better off financially than those of us who don’t. I’d rather be skint than be a skinflint.

Thereislightattheendofthetunnel · 26/04/2025 00:18

The child ate an adult’s meal. It counts as a 4th person in the bill split. As for the water, it should have been split into 4 people too. I don’t see a problem

mainecooncatonahottinroof · 26/04/2025 00:41

FFS!

BadLad · 26/04/2025 01:26

myusernamewastakenbyme · 25/04/2025 22:14

Im laughing at the waiter 'hoovering'🤣🤣🤣

He’ll just have to suck it up.

Wanttobefree2 · 26/04/2025 01:30

Hastentoadd · 25/04/2025 22:22

Going to the toilet just after the bill arrived was (possibly) sneaky behaviour, we’re they hoping you and your cousin would pay the whole amount

Surely both mother and daughter didn’t need to go to the toilet at the same time or had they planned this and discussed it together beforehand

As the difference was so little, the bill should have been split 4 ways equally

I think 100% this is what they were hoping for, for
both to go to the bathroom for an extended period of time when the bill arrives with bags and coats, I think she is annoyed she had to pay at all and that’s what this is all about.

BadLad · 26/04/2025 01:54

my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

The conversation actually turned to levels of desperation for needing a piss?

DreamTheMoors · 26/04/2025 02:14

Water split 4 ways.
Like adults do.
Next time choose better dining companions.

NurtureGrow · 26/04/2025 04:52

Your friend is unreasonable.

Sounds like she brought her 18 year old daughter without asking, which changed the dynamic - 4 women were invited.

Your friend should have paid for the water.

Your friend shouldn’t have gone to the bathroom when the bill came. / If she did that, I would expect she wanted us to pay when she had gone.

Your friend sounds very petty and your cousin sounds nice.

NurtureGrow · 26/04/2025 04:52

DreamTheMoors · 26/04/2025 02:14

Water split 4 ways.
Like adults do.
Next time choose better dining companions.

Absolutely!

NurtureGrow · 26/04/2025 04:56

Also, who drinks from their own water bottle in a restaurant? 🤦🏼‍♀️

NurtureGrow · 26/04/2025 05:02

I remember once I introduced a new boyfriend to my parents. We went to a pub for lunch.

We had been given still bottled water. We hadn’t asked for it, but it came. We drank it. My step-father paid the whole bill but decided to argue about the £4 bottle of water. Sure it was quite a bit back then, but still only £4. I remember it well. It was so embarrassing. I felt sorry for my poor boyfriend. My step father was such an unreasonable, tight, horrible man.

Minimili · 26/04/2025 05:59

I wondered if OP was American by the use of “bathroom” for going to the toilet, then I thought if there was a hoover present maybe it was a hotel? Or one of those pop up restaurants in someone’s house with the waiter hoovering up as a hint to get them to leave 😂.

I would also like some of the questions answered that pp have mentioned earlier in the thread…

Was the friend driving after drinking wine? We know she tried for a wee as it was a reasonably long journey so who was driving?

Why did the other friend originally invited decline?

Why did your friend drink out of her own water bottle and bring her daughter and expect OP and her cousin to pay for her?

What shade was the lipstick on the glass?

What was on the menu and the waiters name and star sign, how did he feel getting shafted out of a tip after being amidst this chaos?

I just feel like we haven’t had sufficient information to make a thorough and accurate assessment of the situation.

Inthetyreshop · 26/04/2025 06:06

This is so embarrassing I wouldn't eat out with any of you anymore. When me and my friend go out we just split the bill equal even if their meal was a couple pounds more..
Unless there was a large amount of alcohol consumed and someone doesn't drink this adding up bills stuff is petty

hattie43 · 26/04/2025 06:10

Hercisback1 · 25/04/2025 21:26

Who cares?

I can't believe this is even a discussion.

Splitting the bill into 4 seems fairest.

This .
Just embarrassing .

MoistVonL · 26/04/2025 06:16

No tip - Christ, the poor waiting staff!

Ilovenutellaaaaa · 26/04/2025 06:22

This is exactly why people should just pay for what they each ordered and not split bills, it never works out fair,...

Is your friend upset over £2 or upset over having to pay half of the bill (hers and her daughter's share?)when she assumed it would be split into three?

arcticpandas · 26/04/2025 06:26

Your friend is ridiculous. I would give her 2 £ and tell her your friendship isn't worth the quibbling. I wouldn't go out with anyone of them again after this though. Your friend is a CF thinking you would invite her daughter (probably why she took her along).

LoudSnoringDog · 26/04/2025 06:26

What the hell have I woken up to here? This is batshit

agree with other posters, the only person I feel for in this situation is the poor waiter who received no tip despite dealing with this fuckwittery.

Newtrix · 26/04/2025 06:27

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:30

I don't think I jumped down her neck. But I was confused as why we wouldn't case her child as an adult when she was 18. I didn't argue I just said, but she's 18, she's an adult.

This would piss me off way more than the water. Why on earth should you be expected to foot an 18 year old bill? Its not like she had a childs sandwich in a cafe.

beAsensible1 · 26/04/2025 06:30

There’s 4 of you and unless someone was drinking loads of booze compared to others you should’ve split it 4 way s.

CaptainFuture · 26/04/2025 06:32

Newtrix · 26/04/2025 06:27

This would piss me off way more than the water. Why on earth should you be expected to foot an 18 year old bill? Its not like she had a childs sandwich in a cafe.

Even so, why would anyone but their own parent pay their 'childs' bill?!

beAsensible1 · 26/04/2025 06:35

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:47

It wasn't 50p, I added a quarter of the cost of the water onto my bill. It was almost £5 for the bottled water.

!!! And your cousin got two??

Butchyrestingface · 26/04/2025 06:35

I don’t understand any of this.

However, the fact your friend and daughter both needed to go to the bathroom at exactly the same time just as the bill was coming, might indicate to me they were actually going off to bitch and complain about something. The quibbling over £2 is possibly just a symptom of a greater malaise.

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