To think just don’t offer them beige food?

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Or am I spectacularly uneducated here? My sister has a 3 year old who apparently will only eat beige food and mostly crisps. She says it’s a sensory thing and we have to respect it when around him, for example when I took him and dd out last week I had to give him quavers rather than the snacks I had got for dd… which then made dd want quavers too! Same with water, he won’t drink it and it has to be juice.

I am not massively strict but did say to dsis just don’t buy these things then he won’t know he can ask for them… she says he just won’t eat or drink. I think this is ridiculous (I’ve not said this to her). AIBU?!?

if the child won't accept it then no it's not more nutritionally dense is it? Because they get nothing at all. What part of having nothing is more nutritionally dense than a quaver, exactly?

Because you would. If you gambled with the meal replacements thats the game you’re playing. Do you get that? This isn’t about offering a kid a quaver.

She isn't the one who is coming across as "unhinged" quite frankly!

She's factually accurate. You would be liable to kill your child if you adopted the attitude to nourishing them that you are displaying here. Children can and do die!

They don’t need the quaver. They already have the prescribed shakes which are sustaining them. So introduce new foods, under medical supervision, do not introduce UPF’s. Whats so hard to comprehend?

If your child couldnt eat anything and you would rather let them starve to death than feed them a beige food it's you that's unhinged.

So I would just sit back and watch them die as opposed to them having a feeding tube? You’re ridiculous.

I am following medical advice. Hence the meal replacements. You’re telling me to go against their advice and offer a home made version alongside and have consistently refused to explain how you’re going to get the child to drink them, when I have already outlined the effort it took to introduce the meal replacements. You’re also ignoring that she doesn’t need the increased liquid. She needs to learn to eat and trust solid food and increase the number she will eat. This is done through food chaining. Which comes with a risk of losing the item. We cannot ever use the meal replacement shake as part of chaining as a result. This is the medical advice.

Your inability to understand that not every single child with ARFID eats quavers or even any upf is pretty hard to comprehend tbh 😂

Let’s be honest, I never gave my kids UPFs as a kid, they had fussy stages, we worked around them. I’m not the one who needs to rethink what I’m doing or did.

Your inability to understand that my issue is only not to introduce UPFs to kids with disordered eating as it will make things worse is equally as hard to comprehend

Do you know how a feeding tube works? And you know social services is now involved right? Because you’ve got to tell them they meal replacement shakes they’ve had as a safe food since they were are no longer safe because you ignored all their advice and made liver shakes. Which, incidentally, you still haven’t explained how you’re getting them to drink.

Can I suggest that posters ignore the shitstirring? It's interminable and there's no reasoning with this person. Completely derailing the thread at this point.

My child has never eaten a UPF. If she did I would be over the fucking moon.

This. Don’t upset yourselves any further.

At this point it’s got to be a troll?

You'd rather your child had the trauma and associated difficulties of an ng tube than eat beige foods or a few upfs? I think you need help for your paranoia about upfs tbh. And no professional would give your child an ng tube because you refused to let them try a new food even it was a upf. In fact you'd probably get reported to social services for neglect

They are starving. There is no oh I give up let’s pop to McDonald’s and get something. Sound familiar?

I think so. Why are we engaging with idiots? 😂

No worse. She would rather that than let them continue safely consuming prescribed meal replacements!

I’m 66 and other than likes and dislikes I cannot recall knowing a child that avoided food. There was always something they’d eat.
But when raising my children we spent time with two children of a similar age that became very restrictive in their choice of food - mainly around their parents - which I truly believe was them exercising control.
Funnily enough, not such a problem otherwise.
This is shared as an experience, I’m not wanting to enter arguments.

How is eating a upf worse than starving to death?

You really are a vile human.

Sensitive. Real sensitive.