To think just don’t offer them beige food?

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Or am I spectacularly uneducated here? My sister has a 3 year old who apparently will only eat beige food and mostly crisps. She says it’s a sensory thing and we have to respect it when around him, for example when I took him and dd out last week I had to give him quavers rather than the snacks I had got for dd… which then made dd want quavers too! Same with water, he won’t drink it and it has to be juice.

I am not massively strict but did say to dsis just don’t buy these things then he won’t know he can ask for them… she says he just won’t eat or drink. I think this is ridiculous (I’ve not said this to her). AIBU?!?

@mainecooncatonahottinroof

But they did eat before beige food was invented ! And why beige food, always? I think kids eat what they’re used to.

Not at all. I understand very well the pressures we face. It's very hard. But you can't deny that undeniable fact I stated which proves that it doesn't have to be this way. I am saddened that people don't want to hear that.

Or vomit.

I do my best to avoid upf and beige foods. But every day I am undermined by friends and family giving dc "just one treat" and before you know it dc has had a biscuit, a chocolate bar, crisps and a fruit shoot and won't eat dinner.

It's utterly infuriating. My child does eat reasonably OK but I get tired of always being the bad guy trying to get them to eat veg and drink water.

If I let them they'd definitely eat junk all day.

You’re right. Providing a healthy diet is good parenting. Alongside ensuring your child doesn’t starve.

So sad 😢.

If I let mine she would eat nothing.

Absolute baloney.

My parents ate everything. I did not get my food issues from them.

Shock, horror.

So remind me when potatoes and bread and pasta were invented?

I responded to the post while reading the full thread fgs! I mean you don't read the entire thing and then go back over it do you? Well I don't anyway!

She was constantly on about "beige food" and it was pointed out to her that not all beige food is junk!

People are hung up on the beige thing. it’s not always beige processed food. Some of the foods I ate as a kid were very firm green apples and raw carrots.

I don't think anyone was disputing that a choice of foods should continue to be offered.

Nothing has ever induced me, and nothing ever will, to eat veg. I just can't.

I didn't go to primary school dinners but had to at secondary where the policy was sit till you finish. My lovely Mum used to save those polythene bags that stockings came in so I could scoop the inedibles into the bag, shove it in my pocket then bin it somwhere in the school. One time I got caught out and was made to eat some cabbage. I prijectile vommed it accross the table and shortly after that, sit till you finished was abandonned.

Plenty of us posting here have experienced this long before UPFs were so widely available.

And there is poster after poster saying how they offered their youngsters healthy food post-weaning, and they would rather go hungry than eat it.

I'm not sure how UPFs are a factor for children who have never, or rarely, eaten them?

Well I'm in my early 60s and you've now 'met' me online!!!

I'm not the only 'older' poster affected either by any means!

I'm still fussy about food!

That is going too far, way too far!!

How can you sit there and come out with such bull, when people have been sharing very personal issues, and all you can do is blame them for bringing them on themselves? You should be ashamed.

I didn't grow out of it, as I have explained several times.

I was open to more foods as I got older but I am still quite limited and hell will freeze over before I will eat a vegetable, other than carrots!

Are you trying to insist that my experience, and indeed the experiences of all the posters on this thread, are not valid?

For long swathes of history (though not so much the last century, tbf),

a) the everyday diet of most people was much less varied than today, and pretty bland, so a lot more children were already eating the same basic stew (etc) over and over again. There was certainly no "100 foods before 1" or the option to eat sugar over vegetables.

b) it wasn't especially uncommon for children to "fail to thrive", get very thin and then die in the first few years of life. This would have had a huge variety of causes which we now separate out, but a child who point-blank refused to eat enough of the few foods available would certainly have been in that group.

You described your post in your last two words.

You are fortunate that you do not have a notion about this.

No matter how hungry I was, I wouldn't ever eat something I don't like.

I don't need "validating" and I don't give a shit whether it has a name or not - it's my lived experience and you don't get to tell me how I feel!!!

YABU. Many ASD children only eat beige food due to sensory issues (as always tastes the same and usually bland) if they have ARFID the number of foods they will eat is severely restricted anyway. What is the big deal with giving him something he likes?

I was bottlefed. I breastfed my children.

Twaddle. Read the full thread @snackatack

Well I wouldn't have been very bright if I had done that, because refusing to eat sometimes resulted in me being hit, so to call that on my head would have been nuts!

Quavers for a start. And all that stuff in supermarket freezers which is literally beige in colour and full of additives like seed oils and mono and di glycerides of fatty acids.