Friend asked dh for 2 year loan

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Dh’s closest friend broke down to dh and told him he’s in trouble. Owes £25k to a friend who now needs it back. Dh offered to help on the basis it’s payed back in instalments every month for up to 2 years.

I am friends with his wife who is oblivious. Her dh won’t confide in her. She doesn’t know there’s a problem so will carry on as normal. I don’t think she’s a big spender but that’s not the point. They had a week away shortly before her dh and mine had this conversation.

Im angry because if there was a medical situation they couldn’t cover, that would be one thing but they’re obviously living beyond their means. Dh is taking the money out his company so it doesn’t affect me. If my friend knew she’d be mortified.

How did the friend react??

Wow well that’s a turn of events! Well done OP sounds like your bombarding & cross examining him (thanks hopefully in some small part to the collective outrage on here) got him to reconsider. Difficult knowing what you do & his DW is in the dark. I’d find that pretty awkward. Hope the friend doesn’t resent or blame you for it. But a great outcome.

Thank you so much. I’d love to take the credit but something happened which would be too outing to post here and dh realised he couldn’t. I certainly used the advice I was given here though when trying to talk him round. Thank you all again.

A good outcome all round by the sounds of things and I’m sure you’ll sleep easier, knowing you are not tied up with the deception of his wife.
I hope you DH’s friend gets the support he needs and his marriage and livelihood survive this crisis. DH sounds like a loyal friend but as you know yourself, and as so many on this thread have pointed out, friendship and loaning big sums of money is often a recipe for heartache, especially when one half of a couple is kept in the dark.

Phew! Good result Op! Your husband sounds like a good 'un. The friend will have to take responsibility for himself.

That’s good to hear 👍