Receiving child maintenance once child has gone to university ?

[Bernie54]

Hi, can I ask if anyone still receives child maintenance from their ex once the child has gone to university ?

My Daughter (18) goes to university in September, she lives full time with me atm, and will stay with me when she returns for the holidays. Our original maintenance agreement states to pay until 2028, with regular reviews etc.

AIBU to expect this to continue? At least in the holidays anyway? Anyone else in this situation. For context I’m a low earner. He is not.

This is really your daughter’s decision.

she can say… dad please carry on paying mum directly
or
dad please pay me directly and then I’ll transfer to mum when I’m back for the holidays

You mean you haven’t reacquainted yourself with the wording of the order?!

that will clear all this up op!

I don’t understand your point? Yes I feel angry when I talk about it? So what ? What has that got to do with my initial question. Please if you haven’t got anything useful to say then please stop, I was looking for similar experiences and I wasn’t asking for legal advice either.

Well you must know as you read my other thread didn’t you ? So you tell me 😊

I had no idea as had only read your OP. I have just gone back to read

Oh, he gets on very well with your son but you and your son don’t have anything to do with each other

I have very clearly given you advice

Here was my advice

but you’ll probably come back more angry than ever

And your point is again?

But since reading you haven’t rooted out the actual order
my advice is Read The Order!

I’m with the other posters

a very tetchy Op

ill leave you to stew Op

And your a bully.

Not being snippy but its The Children Act will look better when you volunteer if you get the name right.

Wrong. That was being snippy. 😁

No one is bullying you OP so there is no need to be so rude 🙄

Child maintenance technically ends at 18 and you've been told this over and over, you just don't accept it. Luckily, you apparently have orders, which you seem to be unclear about, that extends the usual period until your dd is 21. That makes sense if her disabilities were taken into account at the time they were made.
If your dd is at University, there is no need for him to pay you directly anymore, depending on the orders of course. He might, you haven't asked his intentions, but he might also choose to support his dd more directly. You could always ask her to pay a portion to you when she's home for holidays if you can't afford to have her staying. She could also go to her dads so not to 'burden' you if you need that maintenance to have her stay.
Your best bet is to go to court and have it reviewed. You've said it is subject to review anyway so when is the next one?

Look, it's clear you want the money to prop YOU up but it just doesn't work like that. I get it, I do, my last child turned 18 last year and CM stopped. Losing that is hard, and my kids do have a dad that stops paying the minute he can, but I do what I can when I can.
Despite your bitterness and your resentment, nothing you've said indicates that your ex will withdraw support for your dd so there really isn't anything for you to complain or worry about at this stage. He really doesn't owe you an income supplement no matter how you feel about that so the main issue is ensuring that your dd is well supported. That's all 🤷‍♀️

Have you actually read some of the comments? Although maybe not because the worst were deleted. Anyway yes thanks for your comments and I agree with you.