Cheap chocolate and presents from MIL

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Mil and dhs family always buy rubbish presents and easter chocolate for our dcs. We're talking rotten own brand chocolate that nobody likes. It just gets chucked in the bin. Also cheap plastic toys from b&m in the 2 for £20 offer for birthdays and Christmas. Always break into pieces and get chucked in the bin. They are most definitely not poor. Wibu to ask them not to buy anymore for our dcs? If I phrase it that they have too much already and were trying to cut down on toys and treats?

YABU. That would be hurtful.

Your attitude is awful. I really feel for your in laws.

Which own brand chocolate are your kids rejecting? Mine will eat anything with sugar in...like they've never had sugar before. Also Lidl chocolate is actually really quite nice. I think you are bring quite snobby. Have you got one of those pretentious playrooms full of only wooden toys?

Absolutely. So mean and controlling of you. I bet the children wouldn’t notice the difference if you didn’t point it out and compare to your parents superior gifts. Just mean and horrible attitude to teach your children.

Re the chocolate u and yr children don’t like- have u tried melting it down with a couple of squares of decent dark chocolate? i think they would like it.

Your in-laws are tight, and it’s unlikely that you are going to change them. The issue is how much it upsets you. You just have to rise above it because tight people are mean and they thrive on spending as little as possible.

So either bin/recycle/charity shop their tat or start asking for contributions towards your children’s main present. Try asking if they would like to contribute a tenner rather than go to the time and expense of going shopping.

I mean I think you are being very ungrateful and unreasonable. What age are your kids? maybe my 2 and 4 year old are just a bit lowbrow but they love any chocolate and plastic tat! But if you really really don’t want any more of the toys an alternative would be to say you’re cutting back on toys and if they really want to give something a smyths voucher for £10/20 would be very much appreciated as you are saving all your vouchers to buy garden toys for the summer.

Why is it lazy!? They are going out and buying toys from a shop that sells toys..

If you don’t understand this, an explanation won’t help.

That makes no sense.
An explanation would help solve the mystery of why you think in this strange way.

Well it would help me.

If I needed to buy a toy, then going to a shop that sells toys seems quite logical to me too.

Nothing worse than an ungrateful and controlling receiver or snob. In my opinion you don’t deserve the effort or money spent. Some people don’t have in-laws or parents to make the effort. You should be teaching your children to show gratitude for whatever they receive.

and Lidl Bunnies are amazing, I buy them for myself. It’s just brand snobbery.

I CBA

Wow

I have the exact same thing with my in laws!

The last couple of times they’ve bought something my child has asked for but decided that she would literally fill a bag with things that she would think he would like. She’s bought him things that is more his younger brothers age/interest. My DH is going to speak to them this year. Our house is honestly going to explode with the amount of toys we have and he’s very much into certain things. He’s also got into picking his own clothes now and quite often he won’t wear what she picks. I think he’s going to say to get something off his list then either top it up with money/vouchers so he can pick his own things (rather than just stuff)

it’s a shame because it doesn’t get opened and then he asks if we can donate/sell it so he can top up his piggy bank and I feel really sad that she’s wasted money on things they don’t want

Cadburys isn’t that expensive? Why don’t they get them that ?
You’re not exactly asking them to get fancy chocolate.
Sometimes it’s the novelty type chocolate that’s really not nice at

Maybe ask them for vouchers for favourite shops/cinema or days out, or a national trust membership etc

You need to drop the attitude. Those gifts are chosen with love and possibly as much as they can afford. Two for ten pounds isn't 'cheap' it's normal for most families. Just to point out , your children sound as if they need guidance in appreciating their toys. If they don't play with what they have, put some away and then re-introduce them later. They sound overindulged and will never learn to appreciate the merits of good and bad manufacture of toys if they only ever get 'The Best.' Perhaps you could train your children to take care of their toys and choose a toy from their stores to give to a charity to celebrate their birthday, knowing they will be getting an excess for their birthdays.

That's your opinion though, and your taste. Most people I know wouldn't eat the Lidl bunnies and think they're disgusting. Theres a reason they are the last ones to be sold. Safer to go with a known brand like Cadburys

and also the opinion of most people who have replied on this thread.

Lidl are a known brand.

Cadbury's have gone from being a top quality chocolate to being decidedly meh since they were sold. They are not a brand I buy anymore and I can get it at discounted prices.

What age are the children.? Could you just say DC are at an age where they like to shop for themselves. Perhaps they could have a gift card or a money envelope. Cinema vouchers etc. It's worth an ask.

Lindt chocolate costs a lot more than Cadburys and tastes loads better. You just jumped the shark. The Lidl bunnies are even better, Aldi and Lidl chocolate are far better than any other high street brand, I love Aldi milk chocolate.

Yeah tell the inlaws your kids don't like cheap shit

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Some of our family do this too with the chocolate, I have started to tell them my son will not eat cheap chocolate so please don’t buy it. If they do we tend do melt it to put in a cake or something and feed it back to them.

It's not disgusting though. I know a lot of food snobs who buy Lidl chocolate and wouldn't touch Cadburys with a barge pole. Lidl chocolate frequently wins in taste tests and is considered good quality chocolate.

speechless!