To be upset at birthday presents from DP

[LeahS89]

I’ve been with my DP for c1.5 years, and have just had my birthday. For context, recently he has been really ‘in’ to me dressing up and whilst I do indulge this for him, I’ve said to him I’m not massive on it and wouldn’t ever want him to buy me anything specifically.

I gave him a few ideas for my birthday, hinting at some jewellery I really liked and some clothes - confirming my sizes etc.

All bar one present he gave me was lingerie/sets, some I’d never wear being crotchless etc- easily £150-200’s worth.

He said he thought I’d like it and in his words ‘he’d reap the rewards too’.

Am I being ungrateful or is this unreasonable given what I told him?

But here you are, right now, on this thread, quite literally advising people on sexual compatibility and how to tell if a man might be into bondage. Those are very much carnal matters.

I recognise your user name - you pop up a lot on threads where sexual matters are being discussed and you always seem to have weirdly strong opinions on other people's sex lives, and advice you feel you simply must repeatedly express. If you think that's the preserve of 'sex professionals', why do you keep doing it?

It's almost like you actively seek these topics out.

He's made your birthday about his sexual wishes even though you don't enjoy it. That's like a gigantic red flag.

Non-refundable? That's his selfish asshole tax.

Get him a cock ring-two sizes too small. Fucking creep.

My last reply is currently hidden (maybe due to me posting a link) but I’ve checked Love Honey where some of the items were from and this suggests returns/refunds are permitted, so I will question him on that later.

So you got some chocolates and a host of glaring sexual demands for your birthday, is that good enough for you, OP?
If not, you know what to do.

"reap the rewards"
🤢🤢🤢

How revolting op. He’s such a creep. Now that you are fully aware that he’s a creep what are you going to do?

I wouldn’t keep replying, I don’t think the person you are quoting is genuine…’excuse me please, can I see your cock, I just need to know you have one but not whether you can use it’ and no sex before marriage…what if we don’t want to get married

Or five sizes too big - then just shake your head pitifully and say "Aw, bless!" When he tries it on and it looks like a Wotsit inside a bagel!

I’ve checked Love Honey where some of the items were from and this suggests returns/refunds are permitted

LH are really good re returns. They even accept ‘used’ toys for a refund if you weren’t happy with them, or they certainly used to. Not that I’ve returned anything. They just proudly stated it in their info and delivery slip iirc.

Honestly I think if you’re in a relationship where kids are involved, you need to be 1000% sure it’s rock solid and he’s a good guy. This guy is a creep and he doesn’t care about your thoughts or feelings, get rid.

Beside the point, OP.

He has knowingly & willingly ignored your suggestions of what you might like & sent you a clear message about what he thinks you're for. You also said he "suddenly" likes more "risqué" stuff.

Do not allow yourself to be pushed into acts you are uncomfortable with or may be dangerous to you. This guy sounds awful.

Urgh. He has admitted the items were returnable but they are outside of the maximum days permitted because he purchased them in the BOXING DAY SALES!!

So where I’ve been making suggestions recently and he has nodded politely, he had already purchased my birthday presents all along!!!

Furious is an understatement, I hung up on him.

The issue of them being returnable or not is completely irrelevant, with respect.

Ah….a box full of stuff from Love Honey. He really is a chivalrous gent!

Also "knobbing" 🤣🤣🤣
Seen Hwi on other threads and often comments with that kind of drivel. I wouldn't entertain it.

@LeahS89 tbh this lie about returns policy is the least of your issues. Presents show how much someone knows you or cares about you - and it's nothing to do with how much they cost - and this present shows that he thinks of you as a thing for his pleasure, and has no respect for you. The lie about the returns policy just shows he's dumb and a liar.

He spent Boxing Day on a sex shop website browsing for crotchless knickers to fulfil his fetish fantasies and then gave them to you for your birthday? Well, he sounds like a real prince among men, doesn’t he?

His selfishness is further highlighted here by the fact that LoveHoney sells really great sex toys for women, but he didn’t think to buy you one of those because he was too busy buying naff nylon underwear for his own enjoyment.

Yup

I wonder if the person who posted about their husband buying them a periscope for their birthday is reading this thread and feeling not quite so hard done by!

Tell him you're sure that at some point he'll find someone who'll appreciate them. But it won't be you because it's over.

He sounds appalling.

So.... he has in fact known for months that this is what he wants for himself and was pretending to support what you're comfortable with.

I'd block him on everything now and be done with him entirely.

If they're good quality they should cost a lot more.

La Perla. Silk.

He has bad taste as well as bad manners.

This! Grim man. You deserve better Op.

Ikr…if I want a box of fun from love honey I can promise you there would be more crotches (and batteries) 😂🤣