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House move - stupid school commute

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TidyOchreQuoter · 21/04/2025 19:38

We're moving about an hour away due to my husband's new job and because we want to move out of the city. Our current home is getting too tight and we can't afford a 4 bed in our area, even if we wanted to stay.

Our son will start Year 10 in September and he doesn't want to move schools. Ideally, we don't want to move him, he's settled and doing well but... in rush hour it's likely to be an hour and a half drive. Which is obviously ridiculous, but is it worse than moving him?? He's only got 2 years left as the school doesn't have a sixth form so we would then apply to college in our new area.

We can't really wait because we have another child who will start Year 7 in September and don't want her to have to do 2 years and then move schools. It would also affect applications to primary school for our youngest who starts Reception in September 2026.

It's a bit of an impossible situation, but any thoughts??

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Reallyyyyyy · 28/04/2025 07:11

How far are the secondary schools form your new houe for DD. Can she get to those alone? If so I would suck up the drive but dd goes to the closer school in September (I'm assuming she would have to anyway, because of catchment)

crumpet · 28/04/2025 07:15

It sounds as if your choices were to give your husband a long commute or give your dc a long commute, and you’ve chosen the former.

I would have waited the 24 months, coped with the smaller house and then moved. It’s a hard age to move a child completely unless there was really no choice.

Snoken · 28/04/2025 07:26

Plumedenom · 28/04/2025 06:03

I'd be seriously checking my motivations for moving. Your husband will have a commute now, yes, but it sounds like one of you will have a commute anyway to keep your child in school. The other reasons, to move out of the city and to have a bigger house, are not particularly urgent. You don't need a four bedroom house with three kids when the two youngest can share. Seriously consider whether your child's happiness is worth all this ordeal.

I agree. Also, the husband would be travelling out of the city in the morning and back in at night, that is far better than the opposite as the traffic will be much lighter. Also, who knows if the dad even passes his probation or if he will like the job enough to want to stay. At least the son is settled somewhere.

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