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Lack of human contact causing MH crisis?

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Flipslop · 20/04/2025 23:20

I’ve been doing alot of reading (and have some formal training) in MH matters, particularly around trauma and burnout recovery. A key thing that keeps coming up is the fundamental need for human contact to keep mentally well, especially when recovering from trauma.
whats everyone’s thoughts on this? I think I’ve really seen the detrimental affect on my own mental health since working from home over the last 5 years
am I being reasonable to think WFH and just generally a more distant society is stacking up for MH crisis?

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EmeraldRoulette · 23/04/2025 13:33

Actually, I think I know the answer to my own question

The one person I did contact when I had a breakdown clearly didn't want to know. So I guess that's an answer.

frozendaisy · 23/04/2025 14:06

Lockdown affected our, then, pre-teens, much more than we realised at the time.

But they bounced back once back in school and out with their friends, they drifted from some friends but found others.

Yes it's easier at school because there dozens of people to try and find a connection with, but it just illustrates that finding human contact, regular, quality, human contact is a numbers game aside from anything else.

The difference in them when they have come back from school with lots of "news", it's always about others, their interactions and what others have done/not done. They buzz with human contact and if they have "meh" days it's when their friends aren't around at breaks, illness, clubs, you can physically see the difference in their body language.
Coming out of an exam and they all start yapping about question and answers, so not even friend, friends, just other exam takers, even just that helps.

Human contact is vital for good mental health. It just makes you feel like you don't have to carry whole world yourself.

WhatNoRaisins · 23/04/2025 15:47

EmeraldRoulette · 23/04/2025 13:27

Bit off piste but I do wonder what the vanished friends think has happened to me, or us, as others are clearly struggling.

I mean, I suppose they never think of us at all but if they do, they probably don't think that other friends vanished too? That there's quite a few isolated people post Covid... has it not occurred to them or it has occurred to them and they don't give a shit?

Given that being too busy is a common excuse I assume they don't think of the friends they've moved on from much but think about what they consider themselves to be busy with.

SnugReader · 23/04/2025 15:54

FoxRedPuppy · 21/04/2025 17:38

Most people claiming PIP are working. I claim PIP and work full time. This idea that cutting benefits will push people to work is bollocks.

See, I’ve always found things in person difficult. I’ve done it, but it has never got easier for me. Same with phone calls. I once cried in a Deli in New York because I couldn’t work out the system and everyone else seemed to know, and I couldn’t ask as I just got told I was in the wrong queue.

I think people have rose tinted view of the past. I used to go to hairdresser and cringe trying to make conversations about going out on a Saturday (nope) going on holiday (nope- travelling but was met with weird face about countries I was visiting. I even had to try and nod and smile through awful small talk about immigrants coming and taking out jobs!

That's not true. About 1/6 of PIP claimants are working.

EmeraldRoulette · 23/04/2025 18:56

@WhatNoRaisins you're probably right

Now I'm thinking of the old Oscar Wilde quote 😂

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