DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

I have a 13yo and 10yo. I think this behaviour is very Gen Z. The Gen Alpha, as they are now, will find it ridiculous. But give it time and they will do things we will eye roll

I'm with your DH, it's very cringey!

Oh come on OP, you can still post on your insta page and tag him if it’s really that important. This is a bit ridiculous.

I think the “easier” thing is a bit of an excuse to get a post with lots of likes.

Sorry OP I will take this even further and say no one gives a damn about your kids Easter outfit I don’t even get why you’d put your child on Instagram.

Good lord, people will find anything to argue about. I wonder if “refusing to post on insta” has been cited in a divorce yet?

If this is genuine I would make sure he is equally involved in these big occasions in terms of buying stuff. My DH is outside now hiding eggs. Then he might be less of a twat about it.

Do you have DH family on your insta? If you do there is no need to double post because they will see yours. All seems so pathetic

it's an appropriate time somewhere

I think you might mean Gen Z. I'm Gen X and I'm in my 50s.

Mine would have puked all over it within about 30mins. And bunny ears would have been taken straight off and chewed. 🤣

Grow up

Literally no one other than you will care. Nor will they think it “looks strange”. This is not a thing that other people give head space to.

Next year, maybe I could persuade the DC to dress up as zombie chickens or rabbits with melted chocolate as Easter-themed fake blood... They'd probably be up for that...

This is so so deeply sad at what the world has become.
this post itself might not be true but there are many many poor souls on Instagram and tiktok who do indeed seek constant validation so it might be..
the vanity is just sad.

just try and enjoy life op. Actual real life.

How about treating your daughter for Easter? How about a screen free day? Your daughter doesn’t appreciate SM. She would enjoy her parents full attention.

This has to be a new level of first world problem 🏅 😂😂. Who cares? Why do people think everything has to be a big song and dance online? Must be mentally exhausting living like this, unless you have no real problems to actually worry about....

He’s probably tired/cringing at the performative perfectness - a lot of men especially are just not into all this. My partner isn’t even on instagram as can’t stand all this nonsense.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post.

this line makes me wince - take your performative pics if you must and do what you want with them but he clearly cba with it and perhaps just prefers to enjoy the moment.

This can’t be real. I just read this to my 12 year old and he said it sounded ridiculous. I think you DH has been putting up with it but now has reached the end of his tether! Go out and enjoy the sun and don’t take any pictures to post!

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Maybe your DH is over this ridiculous fad and wants to live in the here and now?

I got to the second paragraph then jumped straight to vote. YABU.
Eat some chocolate and chill out.
And apologise to your husband.

Your going to the effort of buying easter clothes and props and taking photos but then talk about not wanting the effort of doing individual messages. Rubbish insta nonsense that only you and close family will care about- and an individual effort would probably be nicer for them.

Now this is the kind of stuff I'd be interested to see. Couldn't care less about Easter bonnets 😆

Op, if Easter is important then maybe go to church to celebrate? Its actually a religious festival not an Insta moment.

“Gen Z not Gen X” might just become the next “Kacper is a Polish spelling”…

Your husband probably feels embarrassed by all the "look at my perfect life" insta stuff (I would), and it's not fair to pressure him and cause an argument like this.

Just post from your account. No one will care or even realise that it's not matching on his account.