DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

Nobody cares if they receive a picture of your daughter dressed as a bunny or not, relax mumzilla

Exactly. And don’t plaster your Dc images online.

I do actually know people like this unfortunately. They have normal jobs and walk among us. It's crazy.

At this rate you’ll be lucky to still have a DH by the time your anniversary comes around.

I love these posts 😂 🍿

Ooo baby size crown of thorns. Maybe a box fashioned into the tomb. So meaningful

Read your posts to yourself and you’ll see how tragic this is. Insta won’t be around forever so it’s not a ‘keepsake’ for the future.

I think it’s totally fine to wish people a Happy Easter and perhaps put a pic of your pics on there if you must but I find the whole setting up of pics using props etc totally baffling. I imagine your dh does too.

I’m not someone who obsessively uses social media

I can assure you that you are. You must realise, based on the voting, that your attitude is not normal.

And to think the world’s landfill sites are soon going to be full of this one-year-old kid’s discarded Easter outfit and props….. It breaks my heart and fills me with rage when I read what some people think is important in this world.

Oh how I year for that “dalalup” sound of a message coming through. The tap on the screen of a nudge. Blocking and unblocking your brush so he’ll notice you coming online. The simple days. 😄

plus it’s a nice keepsake to look back on in the future

So, just take some photos to keep for yourself.

Eating Easter eggs, at this time in the Morning? I have heard it all now!

Stop using your child as an object to get warm fuzzies from socials. Problem solved!

You mean Gen Z? Gen X are becoming grandparents now.

I can’t even imagine the hassle of trying to wrestle a baby into an Easter ‘outfit’. Mine just wore variations on babygrows until they could walk. Why bother? What is an Easter outfit anyway? A chicken suit??

No they're not! 😂 There are young women with young children, older women with young children, and young and older women with older children. Some have grandchildren at 45, some are still grandchild free at 60! And as I said, some women on here claim they are still having babies in their early to mid 40s.

Absolute nonsense that most people on MN are boomers who have DC that are now adults!

I had a whole chocolate bunny at 0800. Thought that was the point of Easter!

Props?

I hope you mean Gen Z!?

I don’t have insta and barely use facebook so I appreciate I’m coming at this from that perspective. But I think you should reflect on why you feel this matters. Your DH is celebrating Easter with you and your DD in the here and now. Is it because you fear what others will think? Or you are keen to present to the world a certain image? To me it sounds a lot of effort to have got a particular outfit etc and then plan when to take the photo and then it has to be joint posted. Why not just get on with the day? I think there’s enough stuff to worry about other than things like this. I don’t mean that rudely, I just mean it adds a whole other layer of things to take up headspace when life tends to be complicated enough.

Not to mention the planet-warming carbon footprint of server farms storing the 21,305 photos of a baby wearing rabbit ears…

You sound ridiculous.
So if he doesn't put something on Instagram for your anniversary you'll be livid?!
You need to step back from social media and live in the real world.
If you want to send messages to family, then pick up the phone. Do a video call if you want showing them DD all dressed up.
I really don't see what you want to gain from posting on Instagram and considering you have now had a falling out this morning it just shows what is posted on social media is not real (you would be portraying a happy family when clearly you aren't).

I don't think you mean gen X, they are aged 45-65?!

lol yes my errror. Too much going on for my old woman mind to process