DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

I get where you're coming from, you're a family who do social media stuff and you're disappointed that even though he normally engages in stuff like this, he doesn't want to, when you feel like it's an important family thing due to it being your daughters first easter.

Based on you both being social media people who do sometimes do joint posts, I can see why you'd be upset that he doesn't want to mark your dds first Easter.

I'm.disappointed that people are choosing to be nasty and kick you while you're down instead of trying to understand your perspective for what's normal in your family.

Has he generally put in some effort today for her first Easter or have you been left to sort everything?

‘Fair enough not everyone will agree’
Appears your DH doesn’t agree, and he is perfectly at liberty not to do so. You find it important do you post but don’t force others to follow suit with this weird SM obsession. It’s really not important enough to fall out about!

I’m now curious about what my younger colleagues with small children will post on their insta today. If there isn’t at least one Easter sign and a live bunny I will be disappointed.
I love the way Easter is so commercalised creative now. It used to be a really long church service and a few chocolate eggs and dyed boiled eggs for breakfasts if you could be bothered. And I’m really not that old!

This isn’t something worth arguing about. Let it go.

I despair! Your child is not a toy. If you need a keepsake of her first Easter then take a photo for yourself. No one else will care.

yabu. All of it nonsense, joint announcements for Easter and props.
I’m glad I brought mine up before all this stuff was a thing

This is very unimportant and a ridiculous thing to care about.

You mean Gen Z, surely???

Now this is a sentence rarely seen on MN but totally appropriate. I bet the poor DH has had his fill of “Major Announcements” on the ‘Gram and has finally snapped.

He should have retracted it!

Here's some inspiration for future Easter instagrams when your little one is a big older, OP.

I have to say this is a rare occurrence for me but I'm speechless.😁
THIS is genuinely what young people worry about!?😵‍💫🙄

I agree with your DH, it is stupid.
The idea of a joint collaboration instagram with your husband is the most cringworthy awful thing I have ever heard of. Please release your husband from this nightmare.

How about living life in the moment instead of spending hours getting the perfect photo? Perhaps a couple of photos of her with chocolate round her mouth. Your child isn't one of your props, you overestimate people interest in things like this. Most people press hearts and likes out of courtesy more than anything. We are bombarded with people's 'special moments' all day every day. Your poor husband has had enough by the sound of it. Be prepared for no shared wedding anniversary 'set up' too. Most people will maybe post a pic of an anniversary meal. You sound exhausting I'm sorry to say.

Yes he is allowed to not want to feature on social media whenever he decides and that should always be respected. Unless your child is also odd enough to understand and give her permission, you shouldn't be posting pictures of her on Instagram either.

Take a nice picture and send it to your friends and family on whatsapp instead.

You mean Gen Z. The Gen X embarrassing parenting equivalent is dressing your baby in a Ramones T shirt.

You're disappointed because you made an effort to do something and he doesn't care. He didn't ask/expect there to be props so you can't be annoyed now he doesn't really care.
Next time, take a couple of normal pics of you/dd enjoying the day without adding this pressure.

What do you expect from the wedding anniversary?

Fair play to your Husband for finally realising you are a dick .,

When did Easter stop being a religious festival to become an opportunity to post a load of spam on Instagram? Seriously, the sort of smug posts that the OP is planning to post make me roll my eyes and reach for the sick bag.

I can’t tell you how ridiculous and pathetic I think it is to use a baby, who won't have a clue what’s going on, as a prop for inane Instagram posts, let alone worry about it being a joint enterprise. Sounds like your DH has a bit of sense.

@BatchCookBabe they are definitely way over represented 😆 so many threads reference things from decades ago!

If you’re using social media as a barometer for your feelings about your DH then you’ve got WAY bigger problems than this to deal with OP.

If my DH decided to get Easter outfits and props, I’d leave him to it as well, I certainly wouldn’t think that because he decided that was necessary I therefore had to put a load of effort in as well. You’ve chosen to make this a thing, you can’t be annoyed that he hasn’t put effort in to it

I think the next generation will be better, they’re more bored of it I think. Just the 20 somethings who’ve lost the meaning of anything.

Gosh aren’t the validate me generation ridiculous.

I can't believe you spent actual money on props just for "likes".
Grow up and live your life for your family not for what it looks like. Because what it is is different to how it looks if you're arguing about stupid social media.