DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

It has to be.

Do people actually buy 'props' to put in photos of their baby? Good grief🙄

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Nails?

Challenges? Are you mature enough to be bringing up a child? Go and spend Easter with your baby and give the social media a rest.

I too now think this thread is a wind up and congratulations to the op as it is highly successful ! :-)

I'm still amused at it being a "keepsake" to keep.

If I'd come across a photo of me dressed up in a special outfit and "props" for my parents to celebrate my first Easter, I'd have sent them to have their heads examined.

I know, incredibly isn't it? Now if only this performative parenting could stretch to getting children out of nappies in plenty of time for school, teaching them to manage cutlery and training them to be able to sit still and behave for more than ten minutes without being glued permenantly to an ipad then I'd be all for it.

If this was my only marriage 'problem', I'd be so happy.

If there's one thing that the male sex has going for it, it's that (in general) fathers are much less obsessed with how they appear on social media, and FAR less likely to dress their kids up and manipulate their celebrations for likes.

It's not lack of thoughtfulness, it's letting their kids be kids.

I very much doubt she's Gen X...

If he has said he never wants to do any together anymore
Maybe he didn't want certain people seeing his cosy family life.
Might not match up to the stories he tells others
Ie people he messages

Or if its just Easter then well yabu

@saraclara the OP is gona come back to tell you that he absolutely loves doing the posts because she has convinced herself that it's not just her being pushy.

Personally I couldn't hang around waiting to see if he will or will not post a joint anniversary post, the potential heartache if he doesn't the selfish bastard, I'd have to leave him!

Thirty pieces of silver.

I’m sorry. I’m not usually rude to people on this forum but this is just pathetic. Nothing about what you have done to “all the effort” to sort is even a little bit important. It is ALL for show and for likes. Literally none of if matters and that is clearly also your husbands opinion, which he’s entitled to. He’s not “pulling a stunt”, he’s over the bullshit.

What’s an Easter ‘prop’?

It sounds like this poor baby will be a life prop, first everything for the world to see and wonder Who?

You're being unreasonable for posting pictures of your child online

He isn’t the one who has gone to all the effort to get the outfits and props etc,

So you went to a lot of effort to get props, outfits etc so you could take photos and put them on insta…..that’s silly, vacuous & attention seeking, no wonder he doesn't want anything to do with it, if I were him, I wouldn’t want to be involved in that nonsense either, just post it on your own grid if you want

ChatGPT: write a Mumsnet post about a petty marital dispute relating to joint Instagram for child’s first Easter

Joint posts on instagram. Cringe! 😂

So basically all the celebrating and props etc are just for show , showing how wonderful and amazing your life is but in reality you are both arguing over joint posts on instagtam 😂😂😂

You mean you nagged him until he gave in

How about just enjoying the day? Why does everything need to be on Instagram? I'm with your husband

Sorry but this is utter madness. Your poor DH.

I wish it were a windup, but this empty-headed nitwittery is apparently a thing.

What an utter bastard ! Leave him and start a newly divorced series of posts , that’s guaranteed to up your likes !

you can get really nice outfits for babies in broken homes and even a few props to show how tragic you are