DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

Jesus Christ

Whoops. Yeah I didn't read it either.

Hun.
<<shudder>>

So, how has OP depicted this poor wee babe? Easter. Guy gets crucified, buried, comes to life again. It's the world's most successful vampire/zombie story. Costume, staging, props?

(With sincere apologies to devout Christians.)

Stop using your baby for likes.

How very sad.

There’s research into this now and it’s not good for the children.

I find it tragic that he has now 'agreed' and is being an absolute wetwipe 🤣
He needs to grow a pair and stick to his boundaries. You sound hard work.

It's not 'easier' then sending message to all family and friends. You may not of realised it yet but apart from grandparents most people could not care less what your DC wears today or what 'props' they have.

To post an 'announcement' is cringeworthy.

Surely you mean Millennials? Gen X truly don’t give a shit about stuff like this

Wait. People do this????

I do not look at any type of pictures. I don’t have Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or anything

i I cannot believe people actually seriously do this…….

He clearly is yet to develop a pair.

What fresh hell is this?

Well you lose control of that image the second you upload it.

The social media network has rights to that image for use or training AI from the second you upload it and you can’t put that back in its box.

I can consent to that as an adult but my daughter cannot so she can decide what she shares when she has that capacity.

We know that children’s faces have been scraped from social media to make deepfake child pornography.

Max Spielmann still do prints for 80p, the people who really care about seeing a picture of my child are more than welcome to have a picture.

This sounds very immature. I agree with him.
You’re a family, not a corporate organisation that requires a PR campaign

You got props?!?

😳😳😳😳

for social media?!?!

Social media isn't real life.
Seriously.
Live your life for you. Forget the staged photos and the announcements and just enjoy the moment. Take some pictures for you.
I attended a funeral this week. A young woman barely into her 40's with a young family.
Very little social media presence, aside from a bit she was forced into for her job.
The church was packed. They had to have screens outside. She was so loved. By real people, family, friends, work colleagues, fellow football mums.
Real interactions and real moments and memories.

I still can’t believe it 😂

Also… “hun x” How very hunsnet.

😆😆

Do they also sell tinfoil hats to protect from the vanishingly likely?

I'm not in that world but why would anyone wanting to do that search out random socks media accounts when photos of babies are readily available via Google?

Gen X? I'm Gen X and I'm 46...!

I think I've heard it all now.

I think you may have got your generations mixed up. I’m gen x and I’m 53. I’ll ignore the stereotyping of an entire generation.

You seem to the focussing on the slim but real chance of children being used to make child porn and dismissing and ignoring the consent argument.

How old are you? No one cares about your child’s first Easter apart from you…really.

I'm with your DH. Most people honestly think this sort of thing is a bit cringey. She's just a baby and it's just Easter. No-one needs big 'announcements' and props and special banners and photo shoots for this sort of thing and at least half the people who see it will roll their eyes and think it's annoying. He obviously doesn't want to be part of this circus and I don't blame him.

Brought it where? Or do you mean he bought it?

I’d also say think about your child’s digital footprint and who is able to gain access to do what ever they want with the photos. Back in 2007 when I first went on Facebook I uploaded some photos of my children. I have taken them all off now as they are teens and because a family member on my Facebook kept taking my photos and making copies of them to give to other family members, i.e making a big framed photos of all the cousins. My teens were so annoyed as they had no say, none of us were asked first and they also didn’t like the photos - so I removed all the photos from Facebook. As children grow up they don’t want all their photos posted online.