DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

[Whatslovegottodo25]

As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

SO relieved, OMG you can't imagine just how relieved I am.

Oh god, this is what it's come to is it? Props and signs and photoshoots 🙈🙈 Just delete the app, no one cares.

Exactly. I don't understand people posting endless personal stuff and photograph, including about their children, on social media for the world to see. I find it grossly embarrassing and it is actually dangerous.

Thank God 🙏

Except that isn’t quite what’s happening, is it?

How old are you op?

My sister in law many years ago fell out with me because I didn’t “tag” her on a birthday post ( or something😂)
I think I told her to grown up and live in the real world. We are no longer “friends “ on social media. But better real life friends now that I’ve stepped away from the fake drama.
seriously take a break from it

So let me get this right….
You want to get all dressed up for Easter, Accessorise your child, pose as one happy family to show the world ‘look at us, don’t we look great’ and behind the scenes your DH is in a foul mood and your livid.
Prime example of don’t always believe what you see on social media.
Ridiculous

Oh well played! You get to slag off the OP while, at the same time, claiming the moral high ground over all the other posters...

Is this an important way for you to celebrate your anniversary? Picking out photos to post publicly?

I just don't understand that.

It’s not because she wants to share them, it’s because she wants to force her husband into sharing them when he doesn’t want to.

This is exactly the kind of thing Jesus died for 🥰

Of all the things going on in the world, and people suffering.....this is what you choose to be upset about?

Genuine question. Do you think it would be kind or helpful to let the OP think that her obsessive and controlling behaviour is normal or acceptable?

Nobody is criticising her for putting pictures of her baby on Instagram. The issue is that she is trying to force her husband to do a ridiculously performative joint post when he has made it very clear that he doesn't want to. Do you really not see any problem with that?

It’s sad that you have to base your life on silly Instagram posts to look perfect no doubt.

I want it to be a giant cross with lights, like those big letters at parties

I’m not someone who obsessively uses social media but for occasions like this I find it important.

It’s more important to protect DC and not post them all over SM imo.
Getting an Easter egg isn’t particularly important in the grand scheme of things.

@Whatslovegottodo25

could you maybe divorce him if he doesn’t up his game where social media is concerned?

Ha ha!

If that were me, I’d have ‘redone’ it - as I’d have then known the shape of things to come, by not doing it at all.

This isn’t really something that’s one or another generation.

I know people from every generation that are like this. But also know plenty that are not. I have a gen z and an alpha. Neither them or their friends are social media obsessed.

It’s an individual thing not an age thing. Plenty of Gen X and millennials are obsessed with curating this social media perfect life. And plenty of the first ‘mummy bloggers’ are gen x. Plenty of them still going. Plenty are millennials and plenty are Gen Z.

Wether op is making this shit or up not. It is a really situation that plays out and in it’s extreme damages a lot of families and kids, when it becomes an obsession. Now a lot of the early mummy/family blogger kids are growing up, it’s showing how these perfectly curated social media lives were actually a nightmare for the kids.

No one is this dopey, surely?

This is the third ‘waaah waaah my man hasn’t put anything on insta’ thread I’ve seen in as many weeks. First was a birthday one, then Mother’s Day now this 🙄

Figures why so many younger people can’t hack it in the real world if they’re constantly living online.

It'll only take one person from OP's feed to also see this thread for the whole fake farce to unravel 🤣

People are criticising her for forcing her husband to post pictures. That's not the same thing.

Thanks hun, I’ve got thick skin fortunately x