DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

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My goodness. You have to be in your twenties.

And hairy hands?

'Relieved to hear'? - when the poll is 98% to 2%?

Ha ha!

I want green-screens and DOS back.

And maybe Compuserve.

Life was simpler then. 😀

Instagram and the rest of social media is a cancer. What happened to just being physically present in your own life? Alright, I’m nearly 50 and am gen X, but fucking hell, what happened to make us all mini online news outlets plastering a photoshopped version of our lives online like deranged narcissists. And needing props for it. I mean - will your Instagram reflect reality - a photo of your DH with a cross face, arguing with you? Can’t you see how fake Instagram is?

Your DH might find this way OTT and rightly know that some of the people seeing it will not think what you want them to. I mean if I saw a member of my family post this pic, I’d think: thank fuck I don’t have to fanny around with that shit. But there would be plenty thinking much more negatively than that.

I can imagine this post isn’t going to come across very positively OP. You sound like you have created a lovely Easter for your child - but try to remember why you did it - for your child. Not for the gram.

Gen X ? Gen X are 1965 - 1980?

Genuine question OP, what are you going to do with the outfit and props after today?

Is this really what people do? My insta is full of cats and places I've been not posed photos. But then I'm Gen X and completely not bothered by social media, we had a life without phones, Internet and social media.

Saying that, I might go and pose a photo in the gym later, I'll have some Easter props, maybe a couple of rabbits and chicks carefully placed on the lat pull down. Might dress the cats in an Easter bonnet too just for good measure.

Sometimes tough love can help a person gain perspective though. Post on a internet forum you are always going to get not only mixed opinions but some over harsh ones too.

Everyone’s different! Some love putting everything on social media, while some just aren’t into it. Perhaps DH does this for you but finds Easter is a much smaller deal and can’t be bothered.
personally I share nothing with my child on social media and only share privately with family and friends, as I hate the idea of photos held by Facebook or instagram for anyone to see if privacy settings fail and who could get their hands on the pics of my child (after reading a scary article about sharenting). But I have friends that love it and I respect that too.
i think it’s definitely not worth ruining the day for though personally.

No one has said its because she wants to post pictures of her baby. She can crack on! Post as many pictures as she wants. What is the issue is getting in an arse, because her partner does not want to do a joint post. That's just pathetic.

I post pictures of family occasions on my social media. My husband has an account, and I think he has posted probably 3 times on it. I would never even think we have to do a "collaboration". Does this means he loves our child less than me? Hell no.

Is it really resolved though? Or has your DH just decided to go along with your wishes to placate you?

Leave the bastard. Lol, you sound mental 😂

Has anyone ever thought, oooo I can't wait to see what so and so's new baby is going to be wearing for their first Easter?

Maybe it's my age - late 40s - but if I saw an over the top Easter post on social media with someone's baby surrounded by props in it, I would roll my eyes so hard. Also, can't bear the performative posts on anniversaries, birthdays etc. It's very ironic that your DH and you have argued already about it and it shows that the perfect image that people want to portray often isn't reality. I know of many couples who post cringeworthy posts about how much they love each other and then you find out they're getting divorced.

Just live your life and send the photos to people who might actually want to see them, which will be about 3 people - the grandparents, mainly.

I literally can’t believe what I have just read. Hopefully you’ll be able to look back and see quite how ridiculous this is. Regardless of whether he has now agreed to do it, living your life through staged social media posts and caring about it is truly pathetic

Baby's first Easter! 😂

Unless it’s part of your work I’d be weirded out this is argument inducing, sorry.

But then again I find it very OTT for Easter.

When your email address was [email protected]...

He has been constantly bullied into doing something he knows is ridiculous and belittling, will he be expected to smile inanely too? Someone needs to tell him about coercive control because he's a victim, were a man demanding that his wife did something that made her very uncomfortable then LTB would be the order of the day, he needs to do that for his own well-being.

Is this for real x 10000

I'm sure this is just a very successful wind-up merchant, sitting back and enjoying the drama. She's tapping a rich vein of outrage (which I've fallen for completely).

Um, so well done op.You’ve bullied/manipulated/whatever tactic you used to get your own way. I’d be careful if I were you, it sounds like he’s starting to see sense, but you’re not quite there yet.

And you accidently picked up the phone whilst someone was using the Internet! Or you had to tell people you're using the Internet and it spent a good 24 hours to download something and then you had to burn it to CD.

Ahh the good old days!😆