DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

[Whatslovegottodo25]

As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ‘D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ‘announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

Get a grip and grow up. Buying ‘props’ for Easter? Did your photo shoot include the ‘prop’ of your local Church in the background? Surely with your boundless enthusiasm about Easter and making such an event of it you would be off to Church this morning to celebrate the actual event?

…. or maybe sitting your daughter in the middle of a bunch of plastic eggs wearing some bunny ears then insisting your husband shares it on your grids is more your thing🙄

Look, you’re getting a really hard time here.

I understand your perspective of it being a nice keepsake and keeping in touch with family etc. I lived abroad for a while and SM was certainly an easier way of keeping in touch.

But - if DH doesn’t feel like joining in he doesn’t have to. I get that he normally does. You pushing back though (if he’s doing this just to be mardy) is only going to perpetuate his mood - you’re giving him the feedback he’s wanting.

Shrug your shoulders and carry on with your plans and post it on your insta.

Dong let it cloud your day. Don’t feed into his grumpiness. He’s not telling you you can’t do it.

Dear Lord, is this actually a thing? My husband doesn't even have any social media, let alone any faffing around with joint posts.
Just live your life, OP, in the moment. You don't need the nonsense of putting it all on social media which, frankly, is just showing off.

Well he has seen sense and agreed to a joint post, I’m sure you’ll be relieved to hear!

I’m not someone who obsessively uses social media
Yeah right 😆

Definitely not Gen X behaviour!

Thanks hun, all resolved now luckily x

Ahh, did you persuade him to change his mind?

What made him change his mind?

Please try to just enjoy your time together today and not only think about “your socials” It’s so sad and your DH is well within his rights to get tired of it!! You’re treating him like you’re some kind of influencer and he’s an employee 😬

You can surely WhatsApp any important pics to family members?

Also if you are posting pics of your kids are your privacy settings all good?

How did it get resolved?

Anything for a quiet life I imagine.

OMG the relief! Taken a weight off my mind.

I feel sorry for your DH, poor sod

Anything for fucking quiet life I imagine....

@Sailead

Agreed it is ridiculous but I don't think it is us Xer's, more like Millennials onwards

You are all wasting your time. 99% of posters think the OP is being ridiculous. OP chooses to respond to the 1%. She's living in la la land and doesn't want any unwelcome visitors.

Oh please, pretty please, do tell ( for those of us who aren’t on your Instagram) what are you planning to do for your wedding anniversary?

Wearing your wedding dress, or wrecking it?

Cake smash?

Balloon arch?

You on a white pony wearing a floaty thing with your hair flowing free while he is dressed as Heathcliff/Mr Darcy/ Mr Rochester holding the pony’s reins and looking nobly into a setting sun? Pair of wolf hounds optional prop.

(personally I blame the Kardashians et al who by dint of paying huge sums of money to ex window dressers have somehow convinced people that if it isn’t big, gaudy, tacky ,plastic and online it didn’t happen)

OP, why not think of the planet and plant a tree instead to celebrate your child’s first Easter and other milestones.

Also for those who care, he has already picked his two photos out for our anniversary post so no issues there either x

This sounds like a horrible way to live. Enjoy each other's company, relax, have a laugh, most of all have fun with your lovely baby - they grow up so fast! Forget all the performative posing and posting.

Jesus Christ. And I mean that quite literally.

What are you on about, gen X are pretty much becoming grandparents now!

His wife’s whining and floppy lip probably.

I think it's a lovely idea. Not sure about posting on social media though

I agree and would go one further and say I doubt anyone will think of looking at anyone's instagram unless they receive a notification and the chances are they'll thing, "I'll look later", and forget.

Your husband said, "It's only Easter", which I disagree with, Easter is important to some people, however I do agree with him that it's silly to post naff pictures.