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DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram

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Whatslovegottodo25 · 20/04/2025 08:13

As per the title - Easter Sunday is off to a dreadful start with ā€˜D’ H and I already having had an argument.

Some background, we have individual insta’s but for any major ā€˜announcements/events’ as such we will use the collaboration feature so the post appears on both our grids. Think engagement, wedding, pregnancy-gender reveal/birth, anniversary etc.

It’s our DD’s first Easter so I’ve got her a brilliant outfit, some props and of course eggs. I’ve also got a personalised sort of sign which says it’s her first Easter.

I said to H I’ll get the photos done after breakfast and we can joint post. He says it’s stupid to do this and doesn’t warrant all the effort as it’s ’only Easter’ so he won’t be putting it on his grid.

AIBU to feel pissed off with him? It will look strange if it’s only on my page.

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Surferosa · 20/04/2025 09:57

Createausername1970 · 20/04/2025 09:33

A crucifixion in the garden maybe? It is Easter...

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DH will no longer do joint posts on Instagram
IridiumSky · 20/04/2025 09:57

Ha ha ha!

First class wind-up/parody of modern life.

Well done OP, you have some people actually believing you. šŸ˜‚

ihmysrn · 20/04/2025 09:57

BetterWithPockets · 20/04/2025 09:53

OP, you’re getting a hard time on here because most of us are far too old to appreciate how important social media is to you.
Gently, though, if this is genuine, I’d take a step back. You say you do the joint posts for things like pregnancy announcements, gender reveals etc. To you, your DD’s first Easter is clearly up there in that list; to your DH, it’s not. You will have countless moments like these throughout your marriage, where you think one thing, and he thinks another, and how you deal with them will be key. Do you want this to be the hill you die on? Is it worth falling out over? If it’s important to you to mark the occasion, that’s fine — but if he doesn’t want to, why does he have to?

I suspect if real she’s older than a lot of people on here. Younger people don’t do this.

Smallsalt · 20/04/2025 09:57

News flash....nobody is interested in your carefully staged photo events.
At best people will be quietly eye rolling at worst they will be laughing amongst themselves.

Do yourself a favour and realize that you aren't as interesting as you think you are .

chickenlettuceunderbacon · 20/04/2025 09:57

Social media is not real life. Grow up.

MyIvyGrows · 20/04/2025 09:58

I love this thread

ChicaWowWow · 20/04/2025 09:58

IridiumSky · 20/04/2025 09:57

Ha ha ha!

First class wind-up/parody of modern life.

Well done OP, you have some people actually believing you. šŸ˜‚

Oh, I'm the most gullible on here. I never spot a wind-up or anything, I always fall for it šŸ¤¦ā€ā™€ļø

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 20/04/2025 09:59

Jesus. You’re being utterly ridiculous, if you’re real.

beAsensible1 · 20/04/2025 09:59

Are you family influencers? Why would it be strange if it’s only on your page?

post what you want and let your husband do the same. The micro managing is unnecessary

unsync · 20/04/2025 09:59

Jeez, if this is the kind of shit people think is important, it's no wonder everything's heading downhill. Self centred, vacuous people living in fantasy land. Grow up.

namechangeGOT · 20/04/2025 10:00

No one other than you cares about your kids first Easter. No one is going to be ā€˜oooohing and aaaahing’ over your engineered pictures. NO ONE.

What you’ve actually done here is, instead of creating a lovely sunday atmosphere, a chilled out day for your little family of 3, you’ve created a bad atmosphere that you’ll remember as being her first Easter, all for the want of posting some made up illusion of Easter joy on social media, for people, who I repeat again, don’t care. You’ve done this.

If I was your husband and you were threatening to get your knickers in a twist over whether I ā€˜pulled a stunt’ like this over your anniversary then I would delete Instagram permanently.

You’re acting like a child who has lost their ā€˜Snapchat streak’ and you need to grow up, enjoy your family first hand and stop treating your kid like a paid model in a ā€˜happy family’ advertisement campaign that no one other than you signed up for.

Calmdownpeople · 20/04/2025 10:01

This may be one of the most pathetic posts I have ever read.

That poor husband and child.

The world has gone crazy that everything has to be documented through a lens and performative.

OP this is seriously ridiculous.

Holiday24 · 20/04/2025 10:01

It's my daughter's first Easter today too. They can't eat chocolate at this age and, like your husband says, they don't know what's going on anyway! Relax a bit and enjoy your day 😊

Nannyfannybanny · 20/04/2025 10:01

Hello Victoria, the outfit looks better on Nichola!

ACynicalDad · 20/04/2025 10:02

Whatslovegottodo25 · 20/04/2025 08:59

Thank you, he has brought me a nice egg but as far as DD is concerned he hasn’t bothered ā€˜as she’s too young to know what’s going on’…

He’s right.

cryinginthechapel · 20/04/2025 10:02

Whatslovegottodo25 · 20/04/2025 08:40

Because it’s easier than sending photos/message’s individually to all our friends and family plus it’s a nice keepsake to look back on in the future.

I’m not someone who obsessively uses social media but for occasions like this I find it important. Fair enough not everyone will agree.

99% of responders don’t agree.
Don't get this at all

ThisOldThang · 20/04/2025 10:03

SnoozingFox · 20/04/2025 09:05

This cannot be real. If it is, congrats OP you win the Shallowest Poster of the Year award.

As for your "easter props" I suggest you read the thread about how many shops are basically just selling landfill.

In Wandsworth the dump is directly opposite the B&Q. You dump your old shite in landfill and then drive immediately into B&Q to buy new shite.

Wintersgirl · 20/04/2025 10:04

Dozer · 20/04/2025 08:18

This is not Gen X behaviour, @Sailead !

I was going to say that as most of them are in forties early fifties. Poster probably means Gen Z?

TheDayBeforeYouCame · 20/04/2025 10:04

For this God gave his only son?

FlowerFairy12 · 20/04/2025 10:05

I had no idea this was even a thing!! How sad, maybe he doesn’t want his life documented online to ā€˜prove’ how happy he is šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø Leave the bloke alone.

Emptyandsad · 20/04/2025 10:05

I’m not someone who obsessively uses social media

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Lavender2015 · 20/04/2025 10:06

edwinbear · 20/04/2025 08:18

What’s an Easter ā€˜prop’?

The child is the prop unfortunately 😩

FOJN · 20/04/2025 10:07

Sailead · 20/04/2025 08:17

I think you’re being ridiculous but I guess this is what happens when Gen X become parents.

The youngest gen Xers are 45 and this OP's daughters first Easter so whilst it's possible she's gen X it's much more likely she's a millennial.

IceColdChardonayPls · 20/04/2025 10:08

ForOliveMember · 20/04/2025 08:17

How pathetic.

I’d normally say this is a bit cruel, but on this occasion I have to agree.

OP, get a grip. Step away from Instagram.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 20/04/2025 10:08

Assuming this is a wind up?