No of course I don’t think it’s a kink!
I believe that gender identity is complex and that some people have an experience of being trans that cis people will never understand.
Trans people are pathologised in ways other people aren’t. There used to be lots of “research” into LGB people, and the exact same suggestions about mental illness and perversion were made.
I think trans people are who they say they are - people whose sense of their own gender doesn’t align with their sex.
Science is continually finding that sex is not as simple as “gametes” and we are miles from understanding what makes somebody lesbian, gay, bi or trans.
I cannot the transphobia on Mumsnet and the obsession with half a percent of the population, and the complete disinterest in other forms of intersectional feminism is depressing.