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TRAs deface Millicent Fawcett statue

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Peony1897 · 19/04/2025 17:16

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2025/04/19/transgender-activists-deface-millicent-fawcett-statue/

How dare they.

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CamillaMacauley · 20/04/2025 09:11

I’m in the ucu, will look into Affinity. Jo Grady is a waste of space in her day to day job and this just compounds it.

Lucelady · 20/04/2025 09:12

@CleverButScatty
You know trans men are women?

There lies the problem.
It is such a mixed up term now it doesn't help anyone.
Trans people as an umbrella makes far better sense.

BabyOrca · 20/04/2025 09:12

Personally I think the way forward now is to stop debating, or wt least that's what I plan to do IRL.
In my head, it's like the SC judgment has settled the matter and it's case closed. That's not to say we stop supporting the groups doing the legal work in the background, but i think now we have this ruling a good tactic would be to (rightly) act like this has now become a non-issue. I just need to figure out a good line for shutting discussion down that way.
Also, I think we should start anchoring TiM and TiW as the new standard terminology.

SaveMeFromHumanity · 20/04/2025 09:13

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 09:09

No, that examines the crimes of those in prison.
Most will never be in prison. Just like most bio men and women.

That's moot point because 70% of those who are in prison are in for that reason.

It doesn't mean that 70% of transwomen are violent or violent offenders but that 70% of those in prison are.

You can't dismiss it just because it doesn't fit your narrative.

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 20/04/2025 09:14

BabyOrca · 20/04/2025 09:12

Personally I think the way forward now is to stop debating, or wt least that's what I plan to do IRL.
In my head, it's like the SC judgment has settled the matter and it's case closed. That's not to say we stop supporting the groups doing the legal work in the background, but i think now we have this ruling a good tactic would be to (rightly) act like this has now become a non-issue. I just need to figure out a good line for shutting discussion down that way.
Also, I think we should start anchoring TiM and TiW as the new standard terminology.

What’s TiM???

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 20/04/2025 09:15

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 08:53

A lot of people in here are a really angry bunch about it.

Yes, why would women be angry about violent, abusive men pissing in the streets? We should just appease them and give them what they want shouldn’t we? Silly women, making men angry by asserting our rights, we should just shut up eh? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Greyskybluesky · 20/04/2025 09:15

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 09:07

You lost me at Kemi Badenoch says!

You lost me at "trans men". Do you mean men who are trans?

BlakeCarrington · 20/04/2025 09:15

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 09:03

Of those 20k how many behaved like that? Those who are genuine might well have been pissed off with them (no pun intended).

There are causes that I am strongly in agreement with (such as just stop oil's environmental concerns) where I am utterly frustrated at their method of protesting because it alienates people from listening to the argument.

You are describing anyone who is trans as one homogeneous group incapable of independent thought. That's never good, and is where racism, sexism, homophobia etc comes from.

20k? Are you sure? It looked way fewer than that and with a much higher proportion of aggressive placards than you pretend. Someone is telling porkies.

IthasYes · 20/04/2025 09:15

@BabyOrca agree continuing the debate prolongs the pandering.
However looking at labours leaked WhatsApp messages it looks like the debate maybe not iced

mordaunt · 20/04/2025 09:15

countrysidedeficit · 19/04/2025 19:01

Listening to the hand down and following reactions since, I do think part of the problem is that in the 50 short years since the Sex Discrimination Act 1975 a lot of the collective understanding of why sex is a protected characteristic, and why the law seeks to protect women, has been lost or forgotten.

So many of the outraged responses reveal no understanding of that at all (even though it is explained in the judgment).

I was just thinking that this morning. My daughter’s PSHE school content included men on the page which was listing famous feminists.
The lesson briefly covered the Suffragettes, but it was left to me to fill in a lot of the gaps (how younger women campaigned against it, put up those posters portraying the S’s as ‘hags’ etc).
Young women TRAs might re-think some of their opposition if they had been taught properly about this. That’s it’s always been the case that older women usually have lived a life that’s given them valuable experience leading to the ability to think critically.

CamillaMacauley · 20/04/2025 09:15

GoodAtCookingCrumble · 20/04/2025 09:02

I was there in London yesterday. It was a jubilant but determined atmosphere, with thousands of peaceful people, showing thousands of messages of support and love for the community which has always loved me. A few signs which shouldn't have been there don't take away from that. That's not what the day was about. I'm impressed so many people managed to organise at such short notice. Also very pleased to see so many allies (including me). Not a trans person here, just a proud friend and sister.

Can't seem to get myself bent out of shape over a bit of graffiti, which is easily washed off - especially seen as most of it was chalk!

What do you think about the actual message in the graffiti though? I don’t mean the undertones of scrawling on a specific feminist statue, I mean do you think that was homophobia or what?

im also puzzled as to why you think as a woman that the trans community has always loved you. They show nothing but misogyny and contempt for women. Which was blatantly evident by the placards and chanting yesterday

OctopusFriend · 20/04/2025 09:16

Greyskybluesky · 20/04/2025 09:15

You lost me at "trans men". Do you mean men who are trans?

I don't know. I think there's "bio" and "non bio" like washing powder.

Micaela64 · 20/04/2025 09:16

CamillaMacauley · 20/04/2025 09:11

I’m in the ucu, will look into Affinity. Jo Grady is a waste of space in her day to day job and this just compounds it.

Trans women are trans women and it was probably some far right person who was anti the protest who did the graffiti given it says "fag rights"

Redorangehaze · 20/04/2025 09:16

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 08:42

I agree.
It's such a complex issue.
I agree with the need for safe spaces for women.
I genuinely believe the number of the trans community who would abuse this would be tiny, but even that is too much and the spaces need protecting.
But those sneering at and ridiculing the trans community are no better either.

The 20000 people on that March disagree with you about women and girls deserving the protection of single sex spaces

Greyskybluesky · 20/04/2025 09:17

BabyOrca · 20/04/2025 09:12

Personally I think the way forward now is to stop debating, or wt least that's what I plan to do IRL.
In my head, it's like the SC judgment has settled the matter and it's case closed. That's not to say we stop supporting the groups doing the legal work in the background, but i think now we have this ruling a good tactic would be to (rightly) act like this has now become a non-issue. I just need to figure out a good line for shutting discussion down that way.
Also, I think we should start anchoring TiM and TiW as the new standard terminology.

I agree. A grown up needs to enter the room and shout "Right! That's ENOUGH!!"

SabrinaThwaite · 20/04/2025 09:18

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 09:07

That reads to be that once men transition it doesn't affect their rates of committing crime.

Btw I also googled it and that is the AI answer that appears at the top not a report that can be referred to.

Transwoman (males) prisoners commit violent crimes at the same rates as male prisoners.

But they are twice as likely to have committed sexual crimes as male prisoners.

For non GRC holders trans prisoners in 2023:

  • Between 95 and 99 of these are male: this means that between 42% & 44% of male prisoners who ID as trans are sexual offenders. This is a slight reduction on 2022 rates of 49%, but still far in excess of rate of sexual offending for men in prison at 18%.

https://www.womensgrid.org.uk/?p=23626

Redorangehaze · 20/04/2025 09:19

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 08:50

I said a tiny amount would abuse safe spaces (and still pointed out that is too many).
What gas that got to do with the number of people at a protest?

Because all those 20000 people think women and girls don’t deserve protection from
that ‘tiny minority’.

Greyskybluesky · 20/04/2025 09:20

Micaela64 · 20/04/2025 09:16

Trans women are trans women and it was probably some far right person who was anti the protest who did the graffiti given it says "fag rights"

You'll pull a muscle with all that reaching!

SabrinaThwaite · 20/04/2025 09:21

CleverButScatty · 20/04/2025 09:09

No, that examines the crimes of those in prison.
Most will never be in prison. Just like most bio men and women.

You asked for evidence of the rates of violent crime committed by trans identifying people..

These are the figures for those found guilty of violent and sexual crimes - it’s innocent until proven guilty, remember?

BabyOrca · 20/04/2025 09:24

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 20/04/2025 09:14

What’s TiM???

TiM = trans identifying men (aka biological men), TiW = trans identifying woman (aka women).

My logic is: Step 1, we take back control of the language (you'll notice they have a slur [TERF] for us, whereas we use a simple descriptor [TRA]). Step 2, take the SC as the validation we need and so shut down discussion - no more trying to desperately figure out why transracialism is outrageous but being transgender isn't, no more statistics. Just: "yeah, the TRA phase was intense but I'm glad we've moved on to recentring womens rights now" in general discussion and maybe something like "I think we've exhausted avenues of discussion for that niche" when dealing with TRA-ish/captured people.

Basically: we need to change the language we use and take a minimising approach to this now. Just my opinion though!

borntobequiet · 20/04/2025 09:25

Greyskybluesky · 20/04/2025 09:17

I agree. A grown up needs to enter the room and shout "Right! That's ENOUGH!!"

The Supreme Court did but the children are not taking any notice. It’s a sorry state of affairs; in fact I don’t think it unreasonable to be concerned that some real violence might ensue. Just as in the most dangerous part of leaving an abusive relationship is in the actual leaving, the abusers in this case (and there are many advocating literal violence, as we see) may feel they have nothing left to lose and act on their words. We have seen them verging on this at Let Women Speak events.

CamillaMacauley · 20/04/2025 09:25

Micaela64 · 20/04/2025 09:16

Trans women are trans women and it was probably some far right person who was anti the protest who did the graffiti given it says "fag rights"

Oh of course 🤣🤣

GoodAtCookingCrumble · 20/04/2025 09:26

I'm also puzzled as to why you think as a woman that the trans community has always loved you. They show nothing but misogyny and contempt for women. Which was blatantly evident by the placards and chanting yesterday.

They have always loved me. My sign said Dykes for Trans Rights because as a woman who doesn't fit in the boxes, I've known nothing but love from that community. I'm in amongst trans people and gender queer people every weekend and have never felt unsafe or judged. (have felt unsafe and judged by natal women though!)

A chant that kept coming up was 'This is what community looks like'. I didn't see with my own eyes any of these violent signs - and no they shouldn't have been there. The overwhelming majority of chants and signs were just expressing love and support for a vilified group of people. It's no surprise to me that people are angry - wouldn't anyone, when their community is being attacked and made out to be dangerous?

BabyOrca · 20/04/2025 09:27

They have shown us they don't deal in realities.

So instead of trying to give them realities, eg argue back to "trans women are women", how about just casually being like "that's one perspective". Maybe following on from the SC judgment a good tactic could be to suffocate debate

CamillaMacauley · 20/04/2025 09:30

GoodAtCookingCrumble · 20/04/2025 09:26

I'm also puzzled as to why you think as a woman that the trans community has always loved you. They show nothing but misogyny and contempt for women. Which was blatantly evident by the placards and chanting yesterday.

They have always loved me. My sign said Dykes for Trans Rights because as a woman who doesn't fit in the boxes, I've known nothing but love from that community. I'm in amongst trans people and gender queer people every weekend and have never felt unsafe or judged. (have felt unsafe and judged by natal women though!)

A chant that kept coming up was 'This is what community looks like'. I didn't see with my own eyes any of these violent signs - and no they shouldn't have been there. The overwhelming majority of chants and signs were just expressing love and support for a vilified group of people. It's no surprise to me that people are angry - wouldn't anyone, when their community is being attacked and made out to be dangerous?

if you’re a dyke how do you feel about the trans women who also say they’re lesbians and have a female penis and insist they should be able to date and have sex with lesbians. Would you agree that a lesbian who declines to have sex with a biological male is transphobic? Because I think people should be able to choose what biological sex they’re attracted to without being guilt tripped.

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