9yr old DS only wears joggers/tracksuit bottoms!?

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Just as the title says….i know it’s not a big deal but someone please tell me he’ll start branching out! He loves being comfy, not ND in any way really. COULD Have ADHD but that’s a whole other thread.
He’ll wear his school trousers but they are soft too…the two/three times he’s been required to look smart I’ve managed to bribe him to wear chinos, but the minute it was no longer a requirement he changes back into his joggers. I literally have to stick with the same colours of navy and black because they’re the only colours that look somewhat smart. Tell me he’ll grow out of this PLEASE 😅

Count yourself lucky . We travelled home today and I spotted that DS 9 was actually wearing navy pyjama bottoms not tracksuit bottoms / joggers.
His excuse was comfort. I had to just shrug. He was clean and comfortable ..

Because people like to get dressed up

Ill fitting clothes look bad whether they are a suit or joggers. Because they are not fitted properly.

Jeans were considered workwear for many years and yet you're suggesting it's "smart" now

Tucked in clothes can look awful on bigger people who look much better with looser clothing. And polonecks make 80% of people look ridiculous

Someone in a nice, fitted tracksuit (because you can get fitted ones) would look much better than a larger person squeezed into a poloneck and belt

Leave him be.

I have an associate who constantly complains about her DS not wearing what she wants him to.

Because it's 'not smart'. She has younger girls who she accepts it when they don't want to wear certain clothes because of how the clothes feel because there's much more of a variation in girls clothes that can accommodate that while she still gets to 'dress them up'.

Which has nothing to do with if any of her DC have SEN or sensory issues or just preferences, and everything to do with there being more choices for girls clothes.

You know there’s reasons some people wear these things?
I can fit my boobs in a tshirt, a shirt or blouse I have no chance. A shirt instead of a coat because maybe it’s warm
trainers are comfier for walking around on a long day
I can’t wear anything tight around my stomach which means no jeans or smart trousers, skirts and dresses emphasise it. I’m living in joggers and leggings because the NHS wait lists are so fucking long and I’m not tucking anything in because people ask when I’m due
So yeah I try and look as nice as I can without limitations but people probably look at me and think I look scruffy, I can’t fit in anything until I get operated on

I was going to say same thing about ADHD and sensory issues! My DS has just been diagnosed with ADHD and ASD and a lot of the signs were quite subtle, his clothing preferences were one of them.

But even if your DS isn’t neurodivergent, favouring clothes which are comfortable not someone else’s perception of stylish is totally fine and normal.

My DS does tend to look like he has been dragged through a hedge backwards and as someone who likes to be quite well turned out myself I do sometimes despair a bit but when I take a step back I think actually, it makes much more sense to dress for comfort and not give a hoot what anyone else thinks.

I refused to wear anything that wasn't soft or elasticated at that age. Grew out of it for a while but now at age 29 I've gone back to jogging bottoms, baggy shorts, elasticated soft wide leg trousers... Why would I choose to wear uncomfortable clothing? Let him be OP.

People don't all want to look the same though. One of my favourite fashion aesthetics is skater and also nu-metal. Neither of those look very "I have my life together" but it's not trying to be that. Still looks great to me. Baggy jorts, chunky trainers, baggy oversized tops and chain belts, fingerless gloves and what not. Perfect.

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Just googled them. While it's not my aesthetic, I can see that at least it's a look, as opposed to people wearing grey joggers and sweatshirt.

I'm guessing you mean skateboard when you say skater aesthetic. I really like the roller-skate aesthetic, back to the 70s and 80s with ice-cream colours. Like this. LOVE this look. (But I'm really into colour.)

Just googled them. While it's not my aesthetic, I can see that at least it's a look, as opposed to people wearing grey joggers and sweatshirt.

And grey joggers and a sweatshirt are a "look" to other people. I'm sure if you posted one of your outfits on here, it wouldn't be to everyone's tastes either.

Operated on for weight loss, you mean? If so, I totally get you. I'm very overweight myself so can't wear clothes as nice as I would like at all. I think that's part of why I think it's a pity that so many people really dress down. I would love to wear more stylish clothes, but I'm a long way from that, whereas I see all these young slim people who would look so lovely in something a little better than gray trackies. Doesn't have to be dresses and heels, or suit and tie, not by a long shot. I'd like something like this for summer - not dressed up but much better than grey tracksuit and hoodie.

Well, a grey tracksuit is not a good look imo. It's ugly and extremely low effort, as is obvious to anyone looking at it. I find it impossible to believe that someone would rather go out in a grey tracksuit than something super-cool like the below, all things being equal.

But that's just it - it's your opinion. It's not some kind of universal truth.

I'm sure there are people who would look at the photos you've posted and say "ugh, not for me" as well. I mean, I would never even consider wearing the white trousers you've posted up-thread as I think they're both unflattering and impractical. That doesn't mean you're wrong for liking them, though.

The world would be very boring if we were all the same.

I personally find the whole "tracksuits are ugly" trope to be boring and unimaginative.

I personally am not a fan of that look. These looks however, I would say look amazing. Not a full tracksuit sure, but certainly not what you might think looks "nice". Because people like different things.

Have you seen the teenage population recently that outfit would be a complete and total no.

A white fox grey tracksuit is very in
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Why's it so "in"? It's only a boring old tracksuit. We used to wear similar as part of our school uniform. No one would have dreamt of wearing that outside PE!

My 40 year old husband will only wear joggers and trackies. Life's too short to be uncomfortable.

Times change. Most young people wouldn't be seen dead in skinny jeans, a white t-shirt and a leather jacket - that's something my almost-70 year old mother would wear

Omg, they look so down-market! 😂 They all look like they're on drugs and failing school! There was this aesthetic in the Nineties, too, when I came of age, and I thought it was gross then, too. What's so attractive about looking like a ne'er do well?

You're just starting to sound like a total snob. Why do you care so much about what other people choose to wear? It's none of your business.

I've literally never seen a woman of that age dress like in the photo. They're too busy wearing Jaeger etc!

Yeah, skinny jeans are very "millennial and gen x" coded, so not what the younger people wear. Similarly, wearing "business casual" blazers and a nice top and heels to go to a club in - it's just not the trend now, and instantly ages you.

What this all about though really is either subtly or unsubtly reinforcing social hierarchies and in-group/out-group identities.

And is that really a good thing?

I’m re-evaluating a lot of things through the lens of my DS’s neurodivergence. He’s totally oblivious to those kind of social norms and the signals sent by what people are wearing. And we treat that as a deficit - but actually, maybe we should see it as a strength.

i was at a museum yesterday which included clothing worn by royalty in regency times. Obviously it was incredible stuff but it existed to signify status and hierarchy in a hugely unequal society. We still do the same thing today but it’s at the level of Boden vs JD Sport.

I couldn't tell you - it's always been a style that's appealed to me and I listen to the type of music that fits that aesthetic so... As I say. Different people like different things. The styles with the leather jacket and sunglasses etc look dull to me.

This a thread about clothes, no?

I have standards, and people who don't tend to read that as snobby. But I'm not a snob - I'm friendly to everyone and treat everyone the same. Even if I do think they look like they've stepped out of Grange Hill! In fact, it's often the poshos who look the worst because they're rebelling.