9yr old DS only wears joggers/tracksuit bottoms!?

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Just as the title says….i know it’s not a big deal but someone please tell me he’ll start branching out! He loves being comfy, not ND in any way really. COULD Have ADHD but that’s a whole other thread.
He’ll wear his school trousers but they are soft too…the two/three times he’s been required to look smart I’ve managed to bribe him to wear chinos, but the minute it was no longer a requirement he changes back into his joggers. I literally have to stick with the same colours of navy and black because they’re the only colours that look somewhat smart. Tell me he’ll grow out of this PLEASE 😅

Oh dear...I only buy my 6yo joggers because I want him to be comfy, but maybe I'm projecting.

Do you know what the issue is with other trousers? For my 6 yo (dispraxia) he'd find the buttons on other types of trousers tricky. He waits until the last moment to go to the bathroom, so I'll only give him the choice once he's mastered buttons.
He's happy to smarten it up with a shirt, or a nice jumper or nice jacket etc, and passes my very image conscious Mum's test of smartness when he's done that, made his hair all trendy etc.

They are from next, they’re not to slim fitted so don’t feel too tight. They have a zip but feel soft. Let me see if I can find a link ❤️

It is snobby to decide some clothes are "bad" and make people look lesser or slobby

People can look amazing in leggings and shit in a dress that they don't feel comfortable in

Personally I think people look better when they look comfortable

DH is like that!

My 15 year old is the same. Nothing but tracksuits. My 21 was like that till last year, he's upgraded to cargo pants now. Still won't put on a pair of jeans.

If you suspect ADHD then he is neurodiverse though...?

Look up sensory issues with clothes and ADHD to better understand how important it is to your son's wellbeing to be comfy.

Look up elasticated trousers for him - there's plenty that are comfy out there. M&S especially.

I need this link too, for autistic DS who's off to secondary school in Sept (he's allowed to wear PE kit every day at the moment).

My Autistic and ADHD 7 year old will only wear joggers, or shorts made from jogger-type material. He can't tolerate school trousers (even the 'sensory friendly' ones) so he wears black joggers to school, theyre not cuffed at the bottom and they're slim fit ones so you can barely notice. I suppose it would be nice if he could branch out one day, but it's very low down on my list of worries about his future to be honest.

It’s only a slight suspicion to be honest, he very well might be but also may not be. My dd is the same…won’t wear jeans. No suspicion of adhd there at all. ND or not I would still like to see him wear something different. 🤣 I only said that he’s not because he has no diagnosis, and I knew people may propose it as a reason. That’s all.

The younger generation don’t wear jeans so much or at all.

i have young adult kids and neither of them own a pair of jeans.

i’ll br honest, I like the current trend as tracksuit bottoms really are comfortable.

Also amusing to read jeans considered "smarter" now
Jeans were work wear once. They weren't acceptable daily wear
Then fashions changed and look where we are

https://www.next.ie/en/style/st179631/188741

these are the ones I get but in the straight leg not the skinny leg, I get them in a slightly bigger size and adjust the waist so I can control the tightness.

People with ADHD are neurodivergent. Sensory processing issues are very common in people with ADHD. As people get older they tend to mask meaning they were things which are morw socially acceptable but masking does have a negative impact on mental health.

You'll find a way through. My son's got on better since he outgrew kids' sizes and moved into adult clothes. He has soft (expensive) chinos he's happy with now, and adult men's trousers for school which will also do for funerals etc. Boys' sizes got a bit mean once he went through puberty so although he's slim and on paper they still fitted fine, he was much more comfortable with the extra material in not-too-budget men's clothing.

Mine is 8 and I've only seen him in PJs, footie kits, swimwear and school uniform for the last 2 years. Even in winter. As long as, for special occasions, you can get him to smarten up, id say it's fine

My Ds 16 and my sils husband 34 both wear joggers like a commitment. Wedding/funerals/work/school are the only times they don’t 😅

Totally agree. I just got flamed for being bothered about my dgs unruly hair, like it shouldn't matter what he looks like. I can only imagine they don't care if their kids are constantly scruffy & look like they've been dragged through a hedge backwards.

you care
but the person with the clothes / hair cares differently to you
why do you think your opinions matter more ?

and for future note - a person dragged through a hedge backwards will be scratched and bruised and sore - the twigs and hair are irrelevant

Hair that sticks up a bit is just hair doing its natural thing. It's entirely irrelevant to clothing choices. Not the same thing at all.

Many people don't wear actual clothing now. They wear leggings (which looks like they've forgotten to finish dressing), trainers instead of real shoes, flimsy rubber flip-flops in towns and cities, jogging bottoms instead of trousers or nice jeans

And yet not all that long ago, jeans were considered "work wear" and nobody would ever dream of wearing them otherwise.

Times change.

My 7 year old wears joggers on pe days but wears school trousers/jeans/chinos/shorts rest of the time.
Don't like joggers except for sport, he seems to be fine with it and quite likes looking smart.....

But some clothes objectively DO look slobby and bad. If all clothing were equal, why does society have a dress code that states better clothing for funerals/weddings/balls etc?

If what you say is true, why don't celebrities attending balls at the Dorchester Hotel etc. attend wearing leggings or joggers? Why don't people attending garden parties at BP or who are getting an OBE just rock up in their trackie b's?

It's because those clothes are ugly and low-effort, if comfortable.

Part of the reason that making an effort with your appearance is considered a respectable thing is that everyone knows it takes effort.

A well-dressed person will always outshine someone wearing trackies and hoodie. And I'm not talking about being really dressed up, I'm talking about the difference between a grey tracksuit and trainers, and smart jeans, a black poloneck tucked in with a great belt, and some cool boots. You don't have to be wearing dresses and heels to look like you've got your life together.

I only buy my son joggers and shorts made from jogger type material. He is a child. Children should play and be comfortable playing.
He has smart cargo trouses (navy/black) if the occasion needs it.
He obviously wears school uniform.

Soon as I am back home from work I change into joggers.

My 10yo DD is like this. She will wear joggers or leggings, but not jeans. When I mentioned it to my DH, he said that he had only worn joggers until he was 14. I had no idea as I met him a few years later. DD struggles a bit more as she also asks for the labels to be removed from clothes and really dislikes wearing sleeves over sleeves. I'm not sure how she will get on with secondary school uniform.