What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

Definitely this!

"I wish I was single like you."

"I come home to an empty house every day, have no one to talk to over the weekend and spend Christmas alone."

"Exactly. Sounds fabulous!"

Having your horses at home

+1 for twins/multiples. It’s not “just like having two close together”, and they aren’t automatically similar/placid/in sync/patient for being twins. It’s two individual people with needs, needing care and attention for the same amount of time each as a singleton, with no extra time in the day magicked up for their parents and the entire world set up for a different norm. They may go on to have a lovely close bond (the other trope that gets trotted out), or they may dislike each other because from day dot they’ve had to fight for your attention.

Working in a big shiny law firm for £££££.

i agree with this. Too much effort. I parted ways with mine about 8 years ago, and only have a few friends I talk to regularly now (none of whom were in that group) We meet up individually a few times a year, and it’s enough. Life is too busy for friendship groups, I prefer time alone and with my immediate family.

The grass is ALWAYS greener!!

Yes.
I wouldn't be without her
It's shown us a whole beautiful life we'd never have found otherwise
It's very special
There's nothing special about a massive seizure or a bodily fluid explosion at three in the morning.

I agree. Many people champion being single. But I hated being single. It's fine if you have had a long term relationship/been married for some years, but being perma single is no fun.

Australia.

Sorry but screaming at that 🤣🤣🤣
(Bugger, I forgot to add what I was replying to 🙄)
ignore me.

Living in a seaside down. I loved in Brixham and Paignton when I was 16-19 and yes, the sea is nice to walk past on your way home from work but the tradeoff, for me anyway (not having a career) was only being able to get work 'in season' (April-November) and trying to get to work during the times involved leaving the house half an hour early to do a ten minute walk because of the flipping tourists strolling slowly, three abreast and getting IN MY WAY😂🙄

That’s not how I remember it at all!

I bloody loved my time at University, cold, damp and draughty houses included. I’m not romanticising. It was utterly brilliant.
@HazelMaker when you say other people ‘romanticise’ do you mean they enjoyed something you didn’t? Because that’s what most of the replies seem to be. If not, can you explain further?

I also forgot camping holidays as well.

I remember vividly having to walk to the toilet in the middle of the night if I needed to pee, horrible campsite showers, uncomfortable camp beds and having to sit in my parents car at 1am after the tent had flooded. I still remember the day our parents got rid of our family tent with a sense of joy in my heart.

Boarding school

a new baby

a new puppy

I’m teetotal now, have been for years. Hugely overdid it as a young millennial. It’s wild how accepted it was to get off your face every weekend.

Learning disabilities especially down syndrome

There's a whole cohort of people that talk about them like they are more akin to puppies than humans with the whole range of human emotions. Its completely dehumanising. Aren't they always sunny? Don't you know they can work in shops or be an actor?

I really get what they were trying to do with showing that there's a range of people with a range of abilities but sometimes they leave a big group of people out.

My darling nephew has DS and while is a much loved family member, has suffered terribly and hearing people like Sally Phillips talking about how wonderful it is and trying to lecture others who might chose not to continue preganancy is completely grating. Of course her journey is easier, she's got better access to specialists, a kid in mainstream school, the ability to spend more time with him.

For people on my brothers and nephews of the spectrum life is tough full of cardiac problems, 24 hour care needs while trying to juggle employment and mortgages.

Just goes to show how different people experience the same things. My marriage/relationship and children are the best parts of my life and bring so much joy.

As for the original question: small village life (for me, anyway!)

It’s held up as the gold standard for a happy life, especially for women. Never understood why.

I see so many people who believe their life would be perfect if only they were thin.

I've been thin my entire adult life and I've still had all the same problems everyone else has. I've been suicidally depressed before - fitting into a size 6 or 8 didn't stop that.

Friendship groups.

Oh and also, animal breeding. Done it with (fancy) chickens and done it with (pedigree) cats and it's flipping really hard work! Nothing easy or money spinning about it if it's done correctly!

I had a fab time at an Italian last night. It’s so rare I can’t remember when I had a crap meal out. Yes, it’s more expensive than cooking at home, but it’s the social aspect I enjoy particularly.

Having 'daddy issues'.

Chickflicks and novels make it sound so much more interesting/nostalgic than it is.

Having a father who made it clear he didn't love you and wish you hadn't been born has wrecked my self esteem and made relationships impossible.

Neither did I, but it said, 'People should stop romanticising...'

And OP said the 90s.

Nothing about having living the reality of it.

As many of the first answers would attest!