What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

‘The Past’ generally. The amount of ‘nowadays’ posts you see where people are bemoaning the ‘kids of today’ or harping on about ‘we did this and it didn’t hurt us’ is absolutely nauseating. Just stop it.

Yes, some people really have no idea. And on social media, some people that have even been in them romanticise it.
I have had several admissions and hated it every time.

Being a midwife

Why?

I agree, sadly some have short memories.

Having OCD

@Gwenhwyfar I think eating out is overpriced and the food is not as good as you could cook yourself. Seems like a waste of money to me

I personally love eating out, I might have had a bit of a bad experience now and then but generally its been lovely. If its constantly "shit and overpriced" I suggest you probably need to be a bit more selective of where you go to, check reviews, do some research before you book.

I agree. What people think of you doesn't magically become unimportant when you hit 40. Yes, you may get a bit more confident, but you acquire so many other problems to counterbalance that.

I don't believe people really think that. Maybe one or two, but it's not common. Same thing for romanticising having a disabled child. Nobody would choose it.
And someone mentioned prisons being romanticised - I think most people are totally petrified of being imprisoned.

Yeah because god forbid folk want equality and some standard of living 🙄

Much better than I can cook! I'm not in the UK though so the quality might be a bit higher here. I go for the experience though, more than for the food, which is why I don't really 'get' takeaways. If I just don't want to cook, I'll have beans on toast or stick a pizza in the oven. When you go out, you get a change of scene.

That we had respect the past or no crime children were all happy and healthy

reality is that if a child ( or anyone) got cancer they died
children were abused and depressed and had no were to turn to

Living in a hot country.

Eldest daughter hood, marriage, problems with AC's.

They 100% do, and it’s used to shame couples who choose to TFMR. “If I’d listened to the doctors, look what I could have missed out on” etc.

Gardening.

I've rubbed the skin between my thumb and finger off with the secateurs handle today in an over enthusiastic spurt of pruning. So many jobs still to be done and it's all looking a bit disappointing and scruffy.

I do actually enjoy gardening and having a garden, but I feel like the work to results ratio is high.

New York. Having lived there for many years digging the car out of the 4 foot of snow on the winter or 100% humidity in the summer months …

Trotting around the kitchen and on the sofa watching TV Box sets?

Times Square in New York for me. It's awful, a huge crowd of people crammed together looking at ads, literally that's all it is. I cannot understand why its popular with tourists. I like NY but will forever more avoid this area.

Going to college. There were parts I enjoyed and it was easy to make friends. However, I was so glad to be done with it.

Your first job. It's such an anti-climatic experience. This is what you are preparing most of your childhood for and it's even more of a grind than all that studying.

A dream-job. There is no such thing. You work because you have to, so you can live and, hopefully, have enough left over, after paying the bills, to spend it doing the things you actually like.

I hear what you're saying; I once had a Siberian colleague who told me that UK winters were much worse because of the damp. The damp gets into your bones.

@chalkiegirl I know, it’s hard work. Especially when you have four people in one! Also the pressure to use it, because you have it…ours was past its best when we got it and then it leaked. I was not sad to see it go after many wet and cramped ‘breaks’!

No, it meant having a FT job, a husband and raising children.

Oh god yes.

I think it's the sort of rose-tinted 'awww, what a saint, but you're only given the problems in life you can handle' sort of attitude that drives many many parents of children with SEND to despair and sadly, often beyond that. People certainly romanticise autism (if they have no direct experience, or have only met people who are, for want of a better term, higher-functioning). I get sick to the back teeth of being told that my son probably has a hidden superpower, or 'I bet he's really brilliant at maths, isn't he?' (he might be, I doubt it, but his autism means he's not remotely interested in showing us. He can count up to and back from 100 if started off. he's 14) or that 'it must be so rewarding'. No it fucking isn't. DH and I are knackered, constantly battle-ready, depressed and looking towards the future, when he has to leave 'child services', with dread. No retirement for us.