What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

😲

That's where I got married and it was absolutely wonderful! Totally deserves to be romanticised! We had the best wedding ever!! 🥰🥰🥰

You are going to the wrong places (assuming you are talking about the food and drinks)

I didn't mention marriage? Not every long term relationship means a marriage. And to be honest you only have to look at the ridiculous amounts of money spent on weddings to realise marriage is romanticised!

Mental health conditions and self diagnosing

Depression does not mean crying in front of the TV while eating a tub of ice cream nor does bipolar mean being a little bit quirky.
It means not being able to get out of bed for a week not even for a shower and not being able to leave the house and only living of delivery food. And being bipolar does not mean being a bit quirky and moody but being so manic that you get paranoid delusions and so depressed that you want to die.
The ate other diagnosis that seem to be "on
trend" to self diagnose but I can't speak to those. Funny that people never seem to self diagnose with schizophrenia or drug addiction.
Yes help for mental health is hard to come by but someone on MN telling you you have ADHD does not make a diagnosis.

Adoption reunions.
Not saying they're entirely terrible. There are definite benefits. But they're fucking complicated, and often painful, and will never stop being that.

the music was fantastic

ADHD. It’s not cute, it’s not “spicy”, and it’s not a superpower (I can’t switch hyper focus on and off like a tap).

Being a woman.

It happens in real life too. I've had several people talk about "wishing they had the house to themselves" right after finding out my OH died or other similar comments.

City living, constant socializing
Parenthood
Summer
Eating out
Traveling

Moving to the countryside.
Playing in a rock'n'roll band
(not at the same time)

Just goes to show we are all different. I'm an only child and have never wanted siblings, and while there are times I worry a little about my future (no partner, no children), mostly I am very content with my life and can't see what having siblings would have brought to it.

I was driving past a field of cows yesterday & had been daydreaming about my upcoming Easter trip & wondered if farmers ever get to go on holiday

House sharing
Being broke
Wild nights out
Seedy shit

Ireland

Giving up your career or putting it on pause for DC

Why?

long, hot summers
a home with a swimming pool

Yup….

Moving to a holiday beach spot. My DB goes on about how great it is. He's admitted they don't go to the beach or gorgeous hinterland locations anymore as they're so overcrowded.

Travel. I love it. Just returned from a trip. But, it's not as romantic as made out. Trying to figure out transport, arguing over which direction... dealing with monstrous crowds... the new gen if travellers who will just walk into your photo to pout while their friends take 100 photos for Insta...

Being SAHM. It's a slog that is looked down upon. You also become an invisible servant, and are expected to do everything. Even once you return to work, shifting that balance is hard.

Taking early retirement at 57, the reality being that instead of lunching with your friends and travelling, you’re caring for elderlies and infirm, grandchildren and looking after the extended family’s pets.

life was easier working full time.

A man pursuing a woman who has clearly said no. It’s not romantic to wear/pressure someone into going out with you .

What's wrong with long, hot summers? 🤔

Spa days. Can’t imagine anything worse or more boring (possibly just me though)

Cocaine!