What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

Sorry you feel that way, that's very sad.

Being a mum is the most rewarding thing i've even done. And I love being married.

Just to add some positivity for mums to be etc

@Thisismetooaswell I agree that old houses are better than new in some aspects. But new houses are better insulated, cheaper to run, easier to clean and maintain, have better electrics, need less maintenance, are less draughty, haven't had some bodger doing dodgy DIY, don't have lead pipes or cracked sewers or single glazing... Not all new houses are brilliant but not all older houses are either.

Working in the charity sector!

Weird thread.

A lots of the things mentioned I have never encountered as romanticised.

OP, curious about why you think the 90s were though..

The 70s, the awful clothing, bad employee laws , lack of, sexual harassment, they were tough unpleasant years for me

Yes! I also have so many people say things like ' Don't you want to find your real family?' I always reply that I know my real family very well thank you very much.

Being a parish priest!

Jobs involving travelling..especially foreign travel

it kills you slowly …last year before I retired I spent just 102 nights in my own bed . that included weekends and bank holidays and my holiday allowance .

There is no romance in being sleep deprived constantly due to strange beds and time zone changes. Especially when you’re menopausal with hot flushes. There’s no romance in working 14 hour days becuase everyone wants a “piece” of you whilst you are there and your diary gets extended to ridiculous hours. There’s no romance at eating in hotels or restaurants night after night- especially in USA where vegetables are rare and over cooked and everything is either sweet or covered in cheese. Or eating at weird times becuase you body doesn’t yet know it’s changed time alone again. There no romance at watching your life frittered away as you sit in airport waiting for flight that has been delayed hours. Or when you have to stay overnight in emergency hotel becuase the flight is entirely cancelled and you won’t now get home till Saturday midday. And you’re flying out on Sunday morning for another long haul. Or when the man on flight seat next to you man spreads and has increasing BO for a 8 hour flight, or when you have to wipe the flight loo seat for the 4th time during your long haul becuase men in your cabin appear not to be able to piss into a bowl during a flight. Or the man next to you on your flight can’t keep his hands from being a bit too over familiar. Or the man next to you decides you’ll be his emotional support human in absence of his wife.

did you enjoy all the travelling people ask? No. I did enjoy retiring thigh. That’s not over romantised

I have never heard someone view that as romantic.

even Jane Austen

Growing up in a large council estate/deprived area.

Miners Strike

Being in a small family.

Widowhood.

I've seen so many portrayals of it being "the bad bit before your real life starts, rather than the life destroying event it really is.

This makes me 🙁

Folk like me have mid stage Parkinson’s, it’s totally crap too

💯

Barbara Pym did it so well - for a time I dreamt of marrying a vicar.

In fairness, if you’ve ever had dealings with parents who’ve adopted in last 30-40 years, I think you are likely to be fully aware of the potential horrors, heartache, and sheer hard work required.

i had friend who adopted, that was 30 plus years ago. Her marriage broke down. The child was found to have huge special needs, she’d come in black and blue sometimes. Social workers walked away once adoption certs signed, eventually as single mum and towering violent son, he had to go back into care. Bloody awful for everyone. Including child.

I enjoyed travelling for work because I had a boyfriend in each city 😂
Also loved the nice hotel rooms, room service and drinks with local colleagues. But I wouldn't do it anymore, a lot of admin, I'm happy being single at home now.

How sad!
Maybe your partner is an arsehole but kids? Wow! That’s a shame!

Autumn / winter time of year loved by the “hot choccie under the blankie” brigade who wank on about wearing jumpers and eating stew

Was that all the boyfriend admin 😂

Being a strong Independent solo parent...

Living in a tropical / exotic country where the only people who live well and enjoy said country are stinking rich and the rest of us are suffering.

I hate hearing, why are you here I would be in such and such country in the sun.

I agree. I think world is made up of those that love it and those that are less than impressed. Like marmite

i am not good with “journeys”…especially with connections..bag of bloody stress
and when you arrive it never looks like telly.
or you could have seen it all better on telly with its aerial shots and wildlife cameramen who’ll do the 8 hours sitting still in a jungle you really can’t be arsed to do because it’s boring

But that’s just seen as terribly boring.
i just say I care about the climate and refuse to fly due to global warming effects… sounds better