What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

I had a husband

but maybe you do too😱😳

Agree and it’s so common on mn, surprising considering the usual views on things

Yep Sydney is very over hyped..I looked at bridge and said “that’s just a bigger version of Runcorn bridge “ . Not the done thing to say

Love.
Just the ‘happy ever after’/soulmate idea of Love

Who romanticises grief ?

This

As soon as the sperm met my egg,I was done in

I was so tired all the time,no appetite,my hair was lank and greasy,I broke out in spots,my nails kept splitting,my skin was grey and I struggled to move about (hats off to anyone who has twins or god forbid,more than 2 at at a time-you ladies deserve a bloody medal)

Giving birth was a piece of piss (longest labour was 2 and a half hours) but then the recovery kicked in

Bleeding harder than I've ever bled,trying to breastfeed while in agony at both ends,pushing a pram with no energy and just trying to muddle through while trying not to kill them (pnd may have kicked in)

I hated being a parent until they got to about two years old-i loved them dearly but it was hell on earth when they where tiny

A lot of these listed i had a genuine romantic experience with.
Teenage romance
Marriage
Children
Running away to live by the sea
All worked out well for me and I have beautiful memories.

Working in a bookshop tho I totally agree.. it's shit.
I imagine it's pretty bloody stressful amd tedious to start up your own cupcake cafe too tbh

I have this.

I worry about him dying before me because he is my best friend.

100% agree. My house is now 10 years old. It's warm and cheap to run and we love the layout.

🤣🤣🤣

See I absolutely believe that for us old houses offer masses better value vs new ones

Who romanticises living in a freezing cold house??

The 1990s!? I lived my best life in the 1990s 🙌🙌❤️

One of my relatives did this. The build costs spiralled beyond her budget, so she was forced to sell her dream home before it was even finished.

However, she ended up marrying one of her builders, so it wasn’t all bad. 😀

We used to tent camp. We don’t have a TV and always sit outside with a campfire all year round. When I see people in caravans with TVs and airfryers- that isn’t camping!

Going out with someone in a successful band.

I don’t think anyone romanticises it as such, but there is definitely a thing called toxic positivity.

En-Suite Bathrooms. Every escape to the country house hunter gets excited about the ensuite to the Master Bedroom, a 'must have' on the tick list. They're a crap idea, you can't use them cos who wants to take a crap or even a piss a few feet away from your beloved, semi conscious partner. Or mess about trying to quietly open the door so as not to disturb your other half. Try to contain a load of fart funk , or wee aroma to escape embarrassment. The noise the disturbance and the disgust. Nope you end up going to the 'family' bathroom two closed doors away with alot more confidence and far less disruption.

We have a VW campervan. We love it. It's our 2nd one as have gone bigger.

Why?

My best time began when I turned 50... almost 60 now and really looking forward to the next chapter. My 40s were the hardest time of all of the decades.

The Highlands.

Yeah it’s pretty but it can be a ballache living here. Also there’s f all to do 😂

Agree about Australia. (Moving there.) I know quite a number of people who moved there, and regretted it. Some moved back within 3-6 years, some were stuck there because they married an Aussie, and their kids were born there and they can't bring them back.

No-one is romanticising grief.

It doesn't go away, you learn to handle it better and keep going. That's what they mean when they say "it gets easier".

Romanticising it would be acting like it was amazing to be grieving.