What do you wish people would stop romanticizing, because you’ve lived the reality of it?

[HazelMaker]

The 1990s

Twins! I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Imo, it’s so much better to have singletons, with a good age gap! (Like 2.5 plus years)

A Motability car - people bleating on about how great it is to get a new car for free every three years, without seeing the price paid in suffering!

Ditto blue badge!

Anorexia.
1990s.
Having "exotic" heritage.

My sisters and brother drive me insane but I'd much rather have them than be an only child. I feel very sorry for only children.

I also think it's shows as adults. I am 100% sure this isn't true for everyone but the adults I know that were only children all have the same less than desirable personality traits.

Working in television

This is not romanticised

Poverty

Even on this site I've seen people describe someone (usually a male partner) in a state of alcohol poisoning - vomiting, passing out - and seen it defended as it was only very occasionally.

If it was desrcibed as "very ocassionally overdosing on a potentially lethal drug" (which it is) it wouldn't be seen like that! And I don't hate alcohol, I'm not even teetotal myself. Paracetamol is also a potentially lethal drug. I just hate the normalization of its abuse.

Agree. Dreadful in every way

Having no money being ok as it’s only love that matters. No. No. That’s something we’re told when we’ve no money, to make us get up in the morning. Fact is - you really can’t be too rich or too thin. 🫣

Ps. I LOVED the 90’s!

Being “inspirational” because I have a disability.
Or marvellous, or amazing or whatever. I’m not any of those things. I’m just living my life as best I can with a situation I didn’t choose to have. I don’t have a choice. Same as lots of able bodied people who have problems they’re living with - whether it’s financial, illness, grief, whatever.
Anyway, I don’t want to be someone’s “inspiration” because nobody aspires to have a disability.

God, yes
Please, people, stop romantising this.

Remember that thread a few weeks ago? Oh, I have too much money, life was so much easier when I had less choice. Boo hoo.

I don't know whether to eye roll or puke

And its always people who never have to worry about money that say that!

Being being bought u on a small farm with livestock in the 70s , bloody freezing draughty farmhouse , always tied to the tail of the animals that have to be fed 365days a year and need mucking out regularly and die occasionally etc
I hour in the morning feeding before going to school and an hour when I got back before starting supper , and being in the middle of nowhere as a teenager

The saying "money doesn't buy happiness, but I'd rather cry in a ferrari than at a busstop" is very very true.

Thanks for that! I love being an only child. Please don't feel sorry for me though.

I constantly dream of giving up my 9-5 job with great pension to sell cheese scones and cake and coffee. So did you do that? How was it? I’m guessing you’re poorer but happier?

Walking in a busy city with a giant latte in your hand. Looks cool on TV, but in real life, you need to get something in your bag with just one available hand, someone bumps into you and your latte is dripping down your sleeve, if not down your chin.
And then you drink the coffee and within 5 mi a you urgently need to pee it out.

Expensive designer's clothes. They always need to go to dry cleaning, especially if you drink a giant latte in the streets.

Working from home.

• Paris is one of the city where housing price is the highest (in the world) so the majority of parisians live in cramped appartments
• Everything basically is so expensive
• Very old underground, a nightmare during rush hours
• Pretty dirty, though it has gotten better in the last years
• Traffic in awful
• Quite unsafe for women

All of the above.

Plus, relationships with "mercurial" men. My emotionally abusive, inconsistent, narcissistic exh was the least romantic and most damaging experience of my life.

Following a dream 🤦‍♀️

I think it is - by people who have never had to do it, or at the most take their folks round Sainsbury's once in a while and think that constitutes care.

Living abroad. Nothing romantic about 80% inflation.

People romanticise being sectioned??