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Sending love to trans people on MN and beyond

825 replies

cassandre · 17/04/2025 20:58

This isn't an AIBU. I just wanted to send love to trans people, in the UK especially, and to other members of the LGBTQIA+ community.

This hasn't been the easiest week for trans people, but there are a lot of us out there who accept you for who you are. We have your backs and we believe that eventually, tolerance and compassion will win.💖💖💖

Love from a longtime MNer and trans-inclusive feminist.

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MereNoelle · 18/04/2025 14:04

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 13:59

They are just as vulnerable to harassment and physical threat in male spaces as any woman.

Then that’s a problem for men to solve, not for women to solve for them.

JandamiHash · 18/04/2025 14:06

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:04

Yes, this ruling has excluded people with nonconforming gender presentations from many basic aspects of a civilised society without providing equivalent options for them.
It doesn’t matter whether they have known since early childhood that nature played a cruel trick on them, and done their best to fix it; or whether they are a chancer looking to exploit women’s spaces.

Keeping people safe is right. Needlessly excluding them is wrong.

No it hasn’t. Because everyone has a sex, so they have a place.

Nature didn’t play a cruel trick on any able bodied people. Society just reinforces stereotypes to tell people if they don’t subscribe to X Y Z they don’t fit in. Nothing to do with nature.

Trans people aren’t excluded from anywhere

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 14:07

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:04

Yes, this ruling has excluded people with nonconforming gender presentations from many basic aspects of a civilised society without providing equivalent options for them.
It doesn’t matter whether they have known since early childhood that nature played a cruel trick on them, and done their best to fix it; or whether they are a chancer looking to exploit women’s spaces.

Keeping people safe is right. Needlessly excluding them is wrong.

They're not being excluded from anything. They have their sex specific spaces like everybody else.

JHound · 18/04/2025 14:07

Ditto this but I cannot imagine there are trans people who would be comfortable here.

MeinKraft · 18/04/2025 14:13

Why do trans people have to make this all about them? It’s not about trans people, it’s about women and women’s rights. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, or a TIM, or an alien from Mars - we will fight to retain sex based rights to allow us to have spaces without you there.

Most men happily accept and encourage this, but trans identifying males seem to openly despise women. Which is very weird and I really think trans groups should be campaigning for lots and lots of funding for mental health support for the people they support. I don’t think many people would argue that it isn’t needed.

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:14

@TheKeatingFive They definitely are excluded. They are as vulnerable on a men’s hospital ward as I would be.

They have lost their testosterone and muscle strength. They have the physical strength of women.

Our brains are our most important organs. Many studies show that when people are transgender from a very young age their brains are closer to the brains of their preferred sex. I can’t link on my phone but a good one appears in the highly respected Journal of the European Endocrinology Society, May 2018.

Being truly transgender is a measurable biological phenomenon

MrsMappFlint · 18/04/2025 14:16

Love, love love to JK Rowling; Sharon Davies, Sex Matters , For Women Scotland and all the others who have fought for the right to say what a biological woman is and the rights and protections that should go with that.

Love love love to all those who stood up and said this.

Disdain, disdain, disdain to: Ocado, the miniature intellect of Owen Jones, the silence of the Keir Starmer, Barclays, Lloyds, women who call themselves allies, and all others who want to say that men can be women.

Men are not women and never ever ever can they be-I don't care if they look like Elizabeth Taylor or a bulldog chewing a wasp. They have a cock-they're a man. They have their cock chopped off-they're still a man. They pumped full of hormones-they're still a man. They wave a piece of paper called a GRC-they're still a man.

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:16

MeinKraft · 18/04/2025 14:13

Why do trans people have to make this all about them? It’s not about trans people, it’s about women and women’s rights. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, or a TIM, or an alien from Mars - we will fight to retain sex based rights to allow us to have spaces without you there.

Most men happily accept and encourage this, but trans identifying males seem to openly despise women. Which is very weird and I really think trans groups should be campaigning for lots and lots of funding for mental health support for the people they support. I don’t think many people would argue that it isn’t needed.

The people I spoke of above (who have physically changed) adore women and cherish being included in our community.

I would never generalise but there is no reason for anyone else to, either

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 14:17

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:14

@TheKeatingFive They definitely are excluded. They are as vulnerable on a men’s hospital ward as I would be.

They have lost their testosterone and muscle strength. They have the physical strength of women.

Our brains are our most important organs. Many studies show that when people are transgender from a very young age their brains are closer to the brains of their preferred sex. I can’t link on my phone but a good one appears in the highly respected Journal of the European Endocrinology Society, May 2018.

Being truly transgender is a measurable biological phenomenon

No, that is total nonsense. There are no objective measures for 'gendered brains'.

MrsMappFlint · 18/04/2025 14:17

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Bogginsthe3rd · 18/04/2025 14:17

OpheliaWasntMad · 17/04/2025 21:01

Wishing all trans people well as long as they don’t undermine the rights and safety of women.

Always hard to find this card pre printed in Clinton's isn't it

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:17

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So well reasoned

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poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:19

The European Society of Endocrinology begs to differ. I am an academic scientist. My money is with them

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 14:19

Ocado are now saying that that statement was put out by a temporary contractor.

Why would they let a temporary contractor make a statement like that?

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JandamiHash · 18/04/2025 14:19

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:14

@TheKeatingFive They definitely are excluded. They are as vulnerable on a men’s hospital ward as I would be.

They have lost their testosterone and muscle strength. They have the physical strength of women.

Our brains are our most important organs. Many studies show that when people are transgender from a very young age their brains are closer to the brains of their preferred sex. I can’t link on my phone but a good one appears in the highly respected Journal of the European Endocrinology Society, May 2018.

Being truly transgender is a measurable biological phenomenon

Again can you prove TW are just as at risk as women?

You wilfully misunderstand the effects of hormones. It doesn’t eradicate a man’s strength. Bones don’t change. Neither do brains.

But let’s say it did - the definition of a woman is not “weak person”. They’re still men. You can crow about all the stereotypes and appropriations you want, they’re still men, and the law says so too.

Tell me what does a “female brain” look like??

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 14:20

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:19

The European Society of Endocrinology begs to differ. I am an academic scientist. My money is with them

And the evidence for this is where?

JandamiHash · 18/04/2025 14:20

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:19

The European Society of Endocrinology begs to differ. I am an academic scientist. My money is with them

Can you tell us your employer so we can avoid you please? You shouldn’t be in your job if that’s true

JandamiHash · 18/04/2025 14:20

An academic scientist who doesn’t know how to copy and paste a URL. Sure

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 14:21

If we can objectively identify a 'trans brain', why are we not using this criteria as part of GRC criteria?

JandamiHash · 18/04/2025 14:21

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:17

So well reasoned

Well you haven’t proven any of your bogus claims. Very unusual for an academic to not offer sources

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:21

JandamiHash · 18/04/2025 14:20

Can you tell us your employer so we can avoid you please? You shouldn’t be in your job if that’s true

It is a top rated scientific journal so I dont think you would get very far

ADreamIsAWishYourArseMakes · 18/04/2025 14:22

Annascaul · 17/04/2025 21:09

I imagine most people would clock her as female, no problem.
Are you seriously claiming she regularly gets mistaken for a man?

I have a lesbian friend who is butch but not massively so, twice she's been asked to leave women's toilets.

TheKeatingFive · 18/04/2025 14:22

poetryandwine · 18/04/2025 14:21

It is a top rated scientific journal so I dont think you would get very far

So where's the link?