AIBU yo not want this woman near my children

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*Excuse the typo in the title, sausage fingers 🙈
I realise I will probably get alot of “do whats best for the children” and “its not about you its about allowing your children to have opportunities” BUT how many of you would seriously consider not allowing someone access to your children for physically and verbally abusing their parents. Today my husband went against my wishes that his sister was not to take my children out anywhere on her own (I realise this may sound controlling but its really not) this came about after she physically abused my husband and verbally abused myself. She does not speak to me and will not acknowledge my existence. Today DC were with their grand parents as I had to work (my in laws) and she lives there as well. DH is there regularly and allowed her to take the children out despite my wishes that she was not to be left unsupervised with them. I am livid , I feel sick at the audacity of her after everything she has done and desperatley want to protect my children from her. AIBU to have these feelings (she said some god awful things to me, something along the lines of “fk off, your not needed or welcone here but give me your kids” I mean would anyone sane tolerate this??

You cant dictate how much contact they have with her if you are happy to use childcare at the place she lives.

It sounds like your MIL allowed the outing rather than your DH so you should really take this up with her too.

You and your DH need to find alternative childcare for your children to prevent this from happening again.

@TaxAdvisor find my comment funny? I really hope your not a tax advisor with that terrible mind set 🙄 but then, laughing at others misfortunes may mean your well suited to the job.

You sound very dramatic

Ever had anyone abuse you through the course of years and years and you've finally had enough? Like your literally one of the calmest laid back person ever, get along with everyone, never fallen out with anyone but this woman chips away at you every time you see her, then one day she abuses your husband and verbally attacks you, completely disregards you and everything you have ever done for them, and youve finally snapped, you think im dramatic fine, i have every bloody right to be at the moment.

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But why so freely go round calling people “dramatic” when they have literally gone through hell and back and through things i doubt you have any idea about?? I suppose I am dramatic, lost our still born baby , SIL was a fkn bitch about it made my grief hell but yes Im dramatic, cheers for that.

Why drip feed? My original thread was perfectly clear thank you very much and I dont need to share every single aspect of my personal life to please people like you. Would you actually say something like that to someone in real life? Do you go about saying it to new people you meet who dont immediatley blurt out their whole life story to please you?

Then your only option is to tell the children that they are not to go into the house without their father and that they are not to engage with SIL. Presumably if they’re old enough to be around a working farm they are old enough to follow that instruction (although bundled into car suggests maybe not).

Yes that’s grim and full of challenges but if you’re not prepared to stop them going (understandable in the circumstances), DH and FIL aren’t going to supervise (appreciate even if they wanted to, it would be difficult) and you don’t want them around her (which you absolutely shouldn’t if that’s what she’s saying about you), I don’t see what else you can do.

No, she doesn't. You just don't understand.

I'm sorry about your baby xx

Posts like these are just ignorant, and are best ignored.