Omg my neighbour has really upset me is this ok?

[Horseytwinkletoes2]

Hi!
Ok so I moved into a house 3 months ago not ventured outside to play and our new garden is being done next week as its not fir to use. Today 2nd day of easter holidays I took my 3 year old and 8 year old round the block on their scooters. I was round the back of one of the neighbours houses she lives 3 doors away and which backs onto a public cul de sac type street. I was out with them for 5 mins when the woman comes from her house and shouts that she needs my children to stop and they're trying to eat their dinner (it was 2.50pm) and all they can here is THAT (pointed to my children) and tbey need to stop and move away. She was sat in her conservatory with the doors open ypu can just make put from over the fence.
At that point my 3 year old scooted off near the road so I ran after her but didn't really know what to say.
I started taking a video of them playing and have them playing on video for 4 mins before she came out. They were literally just talking and saying how bumpy the pavement was etc and laughing as they went over drain bumps. They weren't shouting or anything and i was next to them the whole time.
It reeeeeally upset me as someone who tried to do good by people. But now I'm just filled with anger towards her and wish I'd have bit back.
Orrrrrrr shluld I have just said sorry it was my bad doing?

But that's a "you problem"... if you are ill, you adapt your environment to help you. You don't expect everyone else to adapt themselves around your illness.
I am ill. I have pain and fatigue as well as a long term condition. I can't expect everyone to change their lives for me. I really hate this attitude and a lot of disabled have this attitude. Barging through on a wheel chair with people stumbling about to get out of their way.

If it's public land, tough tits I'm afraid. Or buy it off the council and put a fence around to stop access ... good luck!

Other option is to MOVE.

Kids not unreasonable to play. YABU to give your neighbour a moment’s thought.

You clearly didnt read what I said properly and seem angry in general. I do agree about some people in wheelchbirs as they've nearly got me a few times. I said I wear earplugs to sleep due to noise from the autistic child next door, they are a lovely family and have apologised to us a number of times, I have adapted, we get on really well they said it's because I am so tolerant of the childs behaviour, I have kids myself and was a foster parent. The people who moved to flats with no parking or gardens for their kids to play is around the next street it's not our fault they don't have gardens. We are surrounded by quite a lot of different parks as well for kids to play where I took mine. I worked hard while being disabled and the house and land around it is mine thanks, other people who live in the cul de sac complained to the council about the quads and dogs running around etc and the Council and Police have decided its anti social behaviour and put orders in place through the courts to stop it, so wont be moving any time soon but thanks for your input 😂

Whatever she says I would reply...."Thank you! Yes it is a beautiful day" . Daft and deaf.

This - your children are entitled to be out and about. If she has a problem with that TOUGH!

I live on an estate for over 55's and love to see neighbours grandchildren playing & having fun. I will often go outside to talk to them, kick a ball around with them etc.

I remember many years ago when a single mum with a baby who never seemed to sleep, I apologised to my neighbour. (We lived in semi detached houses & the walls were rather thin). Her response was: 'no problem, just wait a few years when my daughter becomes a teen & I'll be apologising for her loud music'. Live & let live, children will be children.

Get one of your children to trundle a little car, like the one in the photo,up and down the pavement. It happened to us when we used to live in a cul de sac and drove me mad, till we moved! 😂

Just ignore her. If you live in a street of family houses near other people, kids are inevitable and, as we all know (mother of three, grandmother of six) they can’t play quietly. If it was 9pm and they were teenagers I could understand it to some extent, but little kids at 3pm?! Don’t even argue and certainly don’t apologise for children being children. God save me from turning into someone like her…

I agree- (Granny to seven, mum of four)
Some people get more bitter and twisted with age. I make a conscious effort to avoid them or, God forbid, become one of them!

Two sides to every story imo

Put a note through their door with details of local anger management classes and explain that her unreasonable behaviour is interfering with your families right to enjoy a public space and that you hope the classes help her to address whatever her real issues are

I have annoying kids next door, but the only time I've spoken to them is if they've got too close to our property, eg scraping the wall on the front as they're hanging around, constantly kicking balls that come into our garden (once into our window). The noise is annoying sometimes, but they are kids and it stops. She just sounds miserable, I wonder if she watches out for everyone that comes past

Don't apologise for your kids having fun. You & them haven't done anything wrong. Be prepared with an answer next time you pass her house. Tell her to wind her neck in if she starts again.

Yes Most Surely Completely Concur With You, She Just Seems Grumpy & I Feel She Would Most Likely Be Picking On Whomever Comes Within A Few Metres Of Her & Her Precious Property 🙄

I'm not angry. You can't tell my mood(or anyones) from a comment on mumsnet. Im just telling you how it is. If you see that as angry then, again, that's a "you problem". You probably have an issue with facts and having to change yourself, I guess.

I have no issue with change or facts stop trying to tell me what my problem is when you don't know me. Your comments were very angry and hateful towards disabled people, that is a fact.

You should’ve responded like “low talker” on Seinfeld.
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You are not unreasonable. I would add though that you do not know what is going on in her life. She might be caring for someone with a terminal illness. She might be facing serious health issues, a marriage break up or the loss of a child. Little things can tip someone over the edge.

A few years back my OH was removing a seedling that had self-seeded from our side of a shared driveway. Our neighbour came and abused him thoroughly, swore and raged. My OH was so upset - he is so kind and mild mannered. The neighbour had been diagnosed with lung cancer the week before. We did not know until much later. The little thing had tipped him over the edge.

So don't take it personally and maybe just be sensitive to her triggers for a bit. Not a nice experience though.