Omg my neighbour has really upset me is this ok?

[Horseytwinkletoes2]

Hi!
Ok so I moved into a house 3 months ago not ventured outside to play and our new garden is being done next week as its not fir to use. Today 2nd day of easter holidays I took my 3 year old and 8 year old round the block on their scooters. I was round the back of one of the neighbours houses she lives 3 doors away and which backs onto a public cul de sac type street. I was out with them for 5 mins when the woman comes from her house and shouts that she needs my children to stop and they're trying to eat their dinner (it was 2.50pm) and all they can here is THAT (pointed to my children) and tbey need to stop and move away. She was sat in her conservatory with the doors open ypu can just make put from over the fence.
At that point my 3 year old scooted off near the road so I ran after her but didn't really know what to say.
I started taking a video of them playing and have them playing on video for 4 mins before she came out. They were literally just talking and saying how bumpy the pavement was etc and laughing as they went over drain bumps. They weren't shouting or anything and i was next to them the whole time.
It reeeeeally upset me as someone who tried to do good by people. But now I'm just filled with anger towards her and wish I'd have bit back.
Orrrrrrr shluld I have just said sorry it was my bad doing?

We moved into a new house - a street of detached London Edwardian houses, all really close to each other. A few days later my daughters were sitting, chatting in the garden as they applied sun cream (they were 6 and 7) and my neighbour opened her window and shouted at them to be quiet, that she has a lie in on a Sunday.

I was livid. If you want that kind of solitude, don't live in a row of houses on top of each other. I went round later and she tried to brush it off, but she turned out to be crazy. Once of the girls said to her sister "I do love you" and she shouted back "oh do shut up".

It's a long story but we ended up moving away to get away from her as I was hating leaving the house in case I saw her.

So I sympathise.

Get an old fashioned cap gun and let them play cowboys like the 1970s lol! Lots of shouting lots of cap gun smell lots of shots fired.

oh by the way I’m a dog owner . Check no nervous dogs first .

Don't beat yourself up for not saying anything. You are now forewarned so instead, think about what you will say if she is ever petty enough to try that again.

"Gosh! I was warned about you, but I didn't believe that you were REALLY this unreasonable..."

Or be really straight with her:

"Please don't be ridiculous. We are a nice, normal family, doing a normal thing, with the normal associated sounds at a normal time of day. I really hope you never get to experience genuine noisy or anti-social neighbours because I'm not sure how you'd cope. We are nice people but we won't be bullied. Enjoy your lunch."

You will probably find out in time that she is a very problematic neighbour. She needs to move to the countryside and acquire a house with acres of land around it if she wants peace and quiet.

Noisy children can be annoying. In the evening after 6pm I used to tell mine to quiet down. People are returning from work and want a quiet sit and relax in their garden. Plus defo no screaming. Annoys the hell out of me. Taught mine if they keep screaming no one will come when they really need help. However, there's not many things nicer than hearing kids chatting, laughing and playing. You were there in the middle of the day and it's the holidays! I'd knock on her door and tell her she'd best get used to the kids being noisy in the day. Bloody hate neighbours

I’d pop a note through her door. Telling her your children will be playing in the street regularly, and if she doesn’t like the noise, she can close her doors/windows. Suggest she refrain from complaining to you again, as you won’t be taking any notice.

People seem to forget they were children themselves once upon a time

yup be consistently cheerful, xmas cards, smiling waving, just ignore any shyte. And good luck.

My child was playing in the paddling pool with her friend one sunny afternoon when the neighbour two doors down came to the bs k gate and said "I can hear them you know"!

Honestly I was so shocked. Who on earth takes offence at children enjoying themselves?! I just thought she was peculiar, but I did ask the children to try and be a little quieter. I am still surprised when I think about it, because it just seemed so weird to me.

Just ignore her. Pretend you didn't hear and carry on.

I can't abide the sound of scooters, so being outside her garden for 5 minutes would have pissed me right off, it's one thing scooting past, but to linger and stay there making that racket would do my head in.

There's a lad that kicks his football against a wall out the back of my house every single evening from spring until autumn. I swear to god the constant noise for hours every evening makes me shudder.

People should be more considerate when making noise outside of peoples homes.

Not sure of the relevance of what time her family eat their meals though.

She has clear mental health issues.

I can't abide the sound of scooters,

I was assuming kids scooters that don't make a noise?

Your neighbour is crazy and your children were doing normal things in normal hours.

dont apologise and dont stop

We have very similar neighbours. Is your house better than theirs or exactly the same out of interest ?

Don't fall out with her if you own your own house though. You have to declare neighbour disputes if you want to sell.

Shocking. I would set my boundaries now. Ask her politely (just because children need to learn the right way to deal with morons) not refer to my children in any way. This is a public space and I will be bringing them out to use when I choose and do not need anyone permission. I once allowed a neighbour to ask me to stop my sons playing at the side of their house which was actually the access to our shared car park. She said she could hear their scooters as they pass. I stopped them. I lived there for 4 years and wished later that I had not allowed them to treat me like that. They got worse too. During lockdown they were constantly spying on me. Set your boundaries now else she will get worse.

I expect you’ll meet some other neighbours who are lovely. Ignore her.

OP, there are plenty of miserable cunts around. Once you’ve aged a decade or two, you will have encountered many of them.

Next time, tell this cunt that children playing is a perfectly normal and reasonable thing and to leave you alone.

Fwiw I'm currently an inpatient on a psych ward and your lovely neighbour sounds more unwell than any of the patients here! This is a her problem, not a you and your kids problem.

She sounds like a miserable prick with a complete lack of manners. Ignore, move on, let her live in her oversensitive misery.

Don’t get involved in any argy with her whilst your Dcs are around. It’s unsettling for them. Sod her though. Miserable baggage. Shes got big big problems I’ll bet you. Feel smug not hurt. At least you’re not living her tragic, pathetic, bitter little life!

I've got a nasty 80 year old man 2 doors down from me . The number of times in the 12 years I've lived here, he has insulted and verbally abused me must be over 20.

I've never taken it personally, or retaliated,or allowed him to affect me. I just completely ignore him. Because it's all about him and his miserable bitterness. It's actually nothing to do with me. Same with your nasty neighbour. These people thrive on confrontation. They love to know you're upset by them. Totally ignore them.

Just pity them, and always think it could be so much worse...you could be like them 🤣.

At about 3pm in the afternoon, nothing wrong at all. I'd understand unhappiness at 7 or 8am in the morning, or even 8pm at night, but not in the daytime.

Im the QUEEN of hating sounds.

The sound of kids scooting over a drain would
be like nails down a blackboard for me.

However, it’s a public space, they are children, they are playing.
I would be a cunt to tell someone that I didn’t like the sound of their kids scooting up and down.

Therefore, your neighbour is a cunt.

I love this!

I hope your recovery goes smoothly.