Omg my neighbour has really upset me is this ok?

[Horseytwinkletoes2]

Hi!
Ok so I moved into a house 3 months ago not ventured outside to play and our new garden is being done next week as its not fir to use. Today 2nd day of easter holidays I took my 3 year old and 8 year old round the block on their scooters. I was round the back of one of the neighbours houses she lives 3 doors away and which backs onto a public cul de sac type street. I was out with them for 5 mins when the woman comes from her house and shouts that she needs my children to stop and they're trying to eat their dinner (it was 2.50pm) and all they can here is THAT (pointed to my children) and tbey need to stop and move away. She was sat in her conservatory with the doors open ypu can just make put from over the fence.
At that point my 3 year old scooted off near the road so I ran after her but didn't really know what to say.
I started taking a video of them playing and have them playing on video for 4 mins before she came out. They were literally just talking and saying how bumpy the pavement was etc and laughing as they went over drain bumps. They weren't shouting or anything and i was next to them the whole time.
It reeeeeally upset me as someone who tried to do good by people. But now I'm just filled with anger towards her and wish I'd have bit back.
Orrrrrrr shluld I have just said sorry it was my bad doing?

Hey you've done nothing at all except take your children out for some fresh air .. she owes you an apology, just be ready for her next time and tell her not to speak to you like that again.
She is that neighbour !!

I would have ignored her and carried on especially if the children weren’t making an obscene amount of noise, sounds like she’s just a bad tempered old bat

Don't give in to her self-appointed policing of the street. As soon as you do she'll assume she has authority over you and others using the street in a normal manner.
She can fuck off. Go back with the scooters tomorrow.

Your children have a right to be outside playing. Give them an airing horn and a vuvuzelas and take them out again.

CanI ask, if they are older neighbours in their 70’s /80’s ?
Don’t be angry, although I would be feel the same way !!!!
you have done nothing wrong and don’t be put off by her ranting .
kill her with kindness and offer her to come over for a cuppa, as you would love to meet new neighbours, turn it around.
don’t over think it, she was having a moment !
keep us posted. As the book says “let them” !
hugs for you.

I don’t think it’s necessary to bring age into this thread. The age of neighbours
is irrelevant.

She’s a blow hard to the nth degree! Like PP said at least she isn’t your actual neighbour

How exactly do children being outside on the street prevent anyone from eating their dinner?

Ignore and don't apologise, you've done nothing wrong and people like that will just take an apology as an admission of guilt.

You have a middle finger for a reason op.

Ignore the silly cow, she doesn't own the street.

My friend had a similar experience & one day she exploded at the neighbours after a particularly petty episode. My friend said all she could hear was them having sex really loudly at all hours. When she saw the expression on the guys face, she realised it wasn't him she heard having sex with his wife...!!

So if the neighbours weren't arseholes then the wife's infidelity wouldn't have been discovered! The incident delighted all the neighbours as the couple were known for being arseholes! Fingers crossed something similar happens and they get their arses handed on a plate!

I think the fact you didn't react at all was the best of all possible responses. To get angry or become apologetic are emotional reactions which might well invite further abuse. Appearing to not be bothered is far more powerful.

I would have said "I didn't know we had moved to grumpy land but now that I know hopefully we can bring some joy and laughter"

Ask the neighbour to come and live with me for six months, with my neighbour's kids screeching away outside when playing and the other neighbour's dog periodically barking because someone dared to walk past the house on the pavement, she will get a dose of reality.

No children near me but when I was away last week I loved hearing children play.
Some people are just bloody miserable. Don’t let this woman dictate to you and your children.

It doesn't but in extreme cases can detract from the enjoyment.

SCREEECH SCREEECH SCREEECH

WAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

SCREECH SCREECH

WAAAAAAAAAAWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHH

SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEECH

SCREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAM

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAAAAAAAAAAA

Repeat frequently over a period of two hours at 100db outside your lounge window when you are trying to watch your favourite television programme.

She sounds unhinged. I can imagine she’s done this to other neighbours too. I think you have to keep on taking your little ones on the public street and not let her stop you. If you can stay calm I’d say to her you have every right to be outside on the street in broad daylight and she will have to live with it.

The same cranky old fools that shout at children for playing outside or playing football in a cul de sac etc are the same arseholes who will complain that children in their day played out, and that kids these days spend too much time on screens. Ignore her!

I just cannot believe how nasty some people are, what a beast of a person to speak to you like that. Round where I live we only have tiny back yards so hardly any play space for children so they are out on the street on their bikes or kicking a ball around. The noise of the ball does irritate me, but they are kids playing so I put up with it, after all they are outdoors playing which is good. She bloody needs to live next door to the horrors I have to put up, shouting, yelling, drug dealing, back yard like a scrap heap and rubbish everywhere then she would have something to moan about.

I love hearing them play too, it means Summer is on the way

Just ignore her, fuck her off in your mind.

Frustrated old bag.

Next time, tell her she needs to stop because your children are trying to scoot and all you can hear is THAT, and point at her.

In your neighbours defence those scooters are seriously loud. I’ve had it this week with some kids from a holiday cottage near us. We front right onto the pavement and it sounded like a train going past.
However I let it go because they are kids and hopefully they’ll be gone by the end of the week. Having said that the parents do need to ensure their kids are not being disruptive to others. Everyone just needs to be respectful.

I have suspected autism (been referred, awaiting appt), and the noise from children playing makes me feel very uncomfortable. I can't move anywhere cheaper, so can't easily get away from it.

However, before anyone jumps on me, I know this is 100% my problem. Although the (very loud, constant screaming) kids neighbouring us are out more now (nice weather), I would not dream of moaning at them. I see kids playing out (or in gardens) during nice weather as normal, and something they should be able to do. I come indoors, have a quiet grumble to myself & use ear defenders/phones.

I wouldn't say anything unless it was really excessively loud & was going on v.early/late. Your neighbour is being a right cow. She doesn't own the pavement or the highway. Pls don't make your kids feel they've done anything wrong, 'cause they haven't.

Ignore the old cow. Your children are perfectly entitled to play there. If she doesn’t like it tell her to naff off to a detached house in the country if she can’t deal with children playing.

Go out tomorrow and be prepared to stand your ground when you get neighbours like that they'll be voicing their demands at everything that doesn't go there way. Let her know your on a public road doing nothing wrong if she gets all mouthy tell to mind her own business and get a life. It's the half term have fun with your kids don't let her put you off! Enjoy your two weeks and tell the kids to let you know if the grumpy says anything to them. Once she knows ohh I can't win with this one she'll give up and not bother. Goodluckkk