Bumcheeks fully on show at family attraction

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Today I was at a local attraction aimed at young families. It's an outdoor attraction with a zoo, a few tame rides, a soft play, that sort of thing. Aimed at kids under 10.

There were two teenage girls there, probably about 16, didn't appear to be with anyone else, who were wondering around looking at the animals. One of them had on the shortest "skirt" imaginable. When I say bum cheeks were on show, I don't just mean a peek or a little glimpse. I mean the "skirt" ended almost at the top of her arse. It's truly was like a belt. Not only that but she was wearing a thong and fishnet tights. You could see her entire bum, and things were only just decent around the front.
She and her friend must have noticed quite a few shocked glances and maybe whispered comments because her friend said loudly "well that's THEIR problem isn't it"

Is it? AIBU to think its entirely inappropriate?

@ThisFluentBiscuit unfortunately no..... someone told me it years ago and it just popped into my head reading this post

You have to wear them in French swimming pools. They sell them at the pool. No shorts allowed.

Mum's partner got told to go and change.

Apparently they don't mind vomit in the pool.
Or hair.

Enough, fancy bringing that back up. Regurgitated. I'm fine! 🤣

Of course it's sad. It's sad and it's concerning and it's gross.

I'm not pulling sick faces at her I'm pulling them at the entire situation.

It's gross in a lot of ways. Its gross that an 11-14 year old is conditioned, in any way, to want to dress to impress boys. It's gross that someone not only let her go out dressed so you can see her sanitary towel, but presumably bought her those clothes in the first place.

And it's gross that many many strangers would have seen a very private part of a girl who may only be ELEVEN years old, without even her knowledge.

It's very very sad, and it's also deeply concerning and yes, it makes me sick to my stomach.

And we absolutely should be discussing it because it's not right and it shouldn't be ignored.

I'm with you OP.

I can't actually believe that there's any need for discussion. Of course people shouldn't be wondering around in public with bare bums.

Especially children!!

I mean, for GOONESS SAKE!

Well, they would have to think of a different way to rebel, possibly by wearing floor-length skirts over several petticoats, high necks and sleeves down to the knuckle.

Inappropriate at any age.

And I'd say the same if it was a man with his arse out.

Like others have said, it's a lot to do with Sabrina Carpenter and the like whose brand seems to be hypersexualised is an adult but looks enough to be a heavily made-up teenager so okay for adult men to openly want to f* her with the added thrill that she could pass for underage.

While singing her Christmas song about wanting a man with a big North Pole who prefers her stockings to be on the floor and she needs that Charles DICKens to her teenage and preteen girl fans.

It’s very much the trend at the moment. Awful, shocking but I wave my DD’s bum cheeks off most days hoping she moves on to another ‘look’ soon.

Oh don't be so silly. Nice try though!

I think it’s sad that our pornified society makes a young girl feel that this is how best to present herself. Poor kids.

Including naked? Only a body innit.

Wait for summer to set in most women and teens only wear boxers and sport bras.
It dont bother me what others wear.

It’s funny how freedom when you’re older is dressing in a way that doesn’t attract the male gaze,I feel so happy not trying to please anyone with my clothing. But at 16 sartorial freedom is a different game.

Societal standards have changed/declined (delete whichever way your belief lies) in many ways for the past few decades and your example is one of them. Whereas most people would save the skimpy clothes for the nightclub/parties some see it as everyday clothing. Most people understand that there is attire that you wear for different occasions - weddings, christenings, funerals, black tie events, work conference, job interviews, office clothing etc.

Funny how in Style & Beauty forum the wedding guest threads salivate with ‘that’s not suitable for a spring wedding/too casual/looks awful’ etc, but a teen turns up to a family event barely wearing clothing and so many think that’s fine. It’s sad that some teens are so attention-seeking and have little self-worth that the only way they can think of is to wear as little clothing as possible.

There was a thread on here a few years ago of some teen girls who came to a funeral in skimpy clothes that barely covered their bottoms and how some mourners found it offensive. So many replies were of the ‘aww how were they to know what to wear to a funeral.’ Considering most teens are attached to their phones did they not have the common sense to Google ‘what to wear to a funeral,’ and why did their parents give no guidance to appropriate attire for a solemn and heart-breaking occasion? A funeral is not the time or place to have your arse on show.

Care to elaborate or are you being mysterious.

What was I trying nicely at?

Clearly they were looking for attention. Gross.

Crikey.

That would give my kids a fright!

They'd have me sectioned for wandering about in my undies.

I think they are probably old enough to decide to wear skimpy stuff. As outfits for anyone go, it's only just more revealing than the skin tight leggins often worn by pre schoolers. These kids are not wearing revealing clothing by choice.

Unless my dd was earning her own money to buy her own clothes there isn't a chance in hell I'd let her walk out of the house looking like a tramp. Not that she would, dark academia seems to be the in look for her group.

Fashion choice is one thing, thinking that being indecent in public is acceptable is something else entirely.

Genuinely like to know if the reactions would be the same from those posting that think it's fine if this young girl was stood in front of you next to your son being introduced as his new GF.

Edited....to add... also stood in front of you with your daughter and introduced as her new GF.

Its being quite a few decades. My mum remembers clearly walking down Oxford Street age 18 in a see through dress( deliberately so) that was incredibly short. wearing nothing but knickers underneath. She's 82!

I remember dancing in hot pants and a wonder bra on stage at the biggest gay night club in Birmingham back in the early nineties. Anyone remember its name? Would never have dreamt of wandering about at a family attraction or going to a funeral @Dreamerinme I think that’s very much the difference now.

The one I saw didn't have that much coverage and wasn't wearing such voluminous pants 🤢

I find as a pear shape that I have to be careful about front length vs back length over the glutemus maximus. She had greater issues with that than me and was certainly no Sabrina Carpenter. I'll grant her points for body confidence, but zero for decency.

In hot weather I'll run in sports bra and fairly short shorts, but all essentials are securely covered which is very different.

I don't think it's a co-incidence that in the nearly 60 years that mini-skirts have been around, that it's only now in an era of only fans and other dodgy content being so easily avaliable that skirts have totally given up the job of even pretending to cover up private anatomy. And they aren't choosing pants styles to mind the gaps either.

Please let this fashion pass quicker than a shell suit near a naked flame!

It's gross. Really inappropriate and it's only girls who expose themselves like this. You don't see teenage boys exposing their bare arses - just a few boys exposing their pants and everyone complains about that! With girls, we're just meant to accept indecent clothes.

Meeh. I used to have my tits on show all the time when I was a teenager, boobs were in fashion then. Now bums are in fashion.