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CF's have been using my mums house as a hotel!!

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CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 18:07

My dm died last year. Her house is currently empty and we're in the process of selling it (on the market but no buyer yet). The house next door is owned by a couple. I knew that DM was friendly with them, but (apart from first names) I don't really know them at all. I'll call them "Jean and John" for this

I went round yesterday to check on the property (we live about 45 mins away) and to do some gardening. When I entered the house I noticed immediately that there was a strong smell of cigarettes. Dm didn't smoke so I thought that was very strange.. 🤔

I went into the kitchen and there's dirty dishes in the sink!? My next thought was that squatters must have moved in. I went back to my car and called Dh and then 101 for advice. The police said they could come out but it would likely be a few hours (at least) before they turned up.

Dh arrived and went into have a look. Nobody appeared to be in the house. No obvious signs of a break in, though there's clothes and stuff everywhere. So we decide, ok fine - let's take this as a warning and get the locks changed before the squatters come back.

I called a locksmith and he's in the process of changing the locks. As he's doing this another neighbour from across the road (let's call her "Anne") comes over to ask what's happening. I explain that I think we've had squatters in the house.

Anne then proceeds to tell me that Jean and John (from next door) have currently got family visiting from abroad at the moment.

But it seems rather than pay for a hotel, The CF's been letting them stay in mothers house!!! 😡😡😡 Anne has seen them coming and going since they arrived on Friday. She didn't have our contact details to check with us, but assumed we'd given permission because they seemingly had a key. We had no idea that they had this key.

When the police eventually turned up we explained all this. They went round to speak to Jean and John but they weren't at home. Said they would try again later in the week. We've bagged up the relatives things and left them on their doorstep (I wanted to burn them but DH talked me out of it). 🙄

Will they police be able to charge them with trespassing or something similar? Or are we just going to have to accept that we were (admittedly) stupid for not changing the locks in the first place and move on? I'm beyond angry with them. 😡

OP posts:
Emptyandsad · 15/04/2025 20:46

If he breaks the door down - or damages it - then, once again, that would be criminal

CaptainFuture · 15/04/2025 20:47

PearlyShamps · 15/04/2025 20:41

Oh blimey!!! Their CF'ery is astounding

Absolutely, but they've probably been on mn and are convinced by virtue of having the keys they can't be asked to leave with out a court order. Cf ahoy!! How on earth can john think he's in the right kicking the door!!

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 15/04/2025 20:47

They are the type of CF who really believe they are always in the right by the sound of it. Good luck

Katrinawaves · 15/04/2025 20:47

John could be spending the evening at the local cop shop as this has certainly escalated beyond simple trespass at this point!

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 15/04/2025 20:47

Hopefully he will be arrested for criminal damage if he's attempting to kick the door in. I knew the pair of knobs wouldn't be apologetic or ashamed. CF of that level never are. Good luck op.

Mudkipper · 15/04/2025 20:48

It's good, actually, that they've tried to kick the door in. That's criminal damage, surely?

pizzaHeart · 15/04/2025 20:48

Wow! Just wow! Please be careful OP they sound absolutely stupid.

WearyAuldWumman · 15/04/2025 20:50

CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 20:37

Anne's just called. They are back and not happy! Lots of shouting and John trying to kick the front door in 😡 Police have been called and we're on our way. Will update later

Why on earth are they trying to kick in the door? If their belongings are on their doorstep, they have no need to enter.

Daffodilpup · 15/04/2025 20:51

Wow. Crazy entitlement!

lovemycbf · 15/04/2025 20:52

Jesus the entitlement of those neighbours is off the scale
trying to kick the door in is another level

Friendofdennis · 15/04/2025 20:52

I hope he hasn’t damaged the front door. Also that Anne will be safe.

JustSawJohnny · 15/04/2025 20:52

CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 20:37

Anne's just called. They are back and not happy! Lots of shouting and John trying to kick the front door in 😡 Police have been called and we're on our way. Will update later

Make sure you check the door - if he's damaged it he needs to cough up.

What a bunch of twats!!

Hope the Police are there in good time.

Discoprincess6 · 15/04/2025 20:52

Absolutely cheeky sods. I’m very sorry this had happened. Agree wait for next door to return and have it out with them.

JANEY205 · 15/04/2025 20:53

Imagine if you hadn’t gone to check the house!!

Discoprincess6 · 15/04/2025 20:53

CustardCreamsfortea · 15/04/2025 20:37

Anne's just called. They are back and not happy! Lots of shouting and John trying to kick the front door in 😡 Police have been called and we're on our way. Will update later

Omg!!!!! Wow!!!!! Absolutely CF!!!!

Thisisittheapocalypse · 15/04/2025 20:54

OMG! The sheer balls and cheeky fucking entitledness to using someone's empty home as their own! Just astounding. I hope the police get them for criinal damage now with the door kicking!

Livpool · 15/04/2025 20:54

Jesus - that is awful!

murasaki · 15/04/2025 20:54

I bet Anne's been on the end of their cheek before.

EdithBond · 15/04/2025 20:54

I’d have let a neighbour’s relatives stay if all personal possessions had been removed and it was empty, especially if they’d been good neighbours to my mum. But they’re absolute CFs for not asking.

@CustardCreamsfortea - for Christ’s sake don’t let on Anne grassed them up. She’s got to carry on living opposite them.

And next time, you don’t need to pay a locksmith to change locks if you have a key. It’s easy to change a lock barrel.

GoodVibesHere · 15/04/2025 20:55

Absolutely shocking!

ilovemyhamster · 15/04/2025 20:55

I actually can't believe what I'm reading. I'm outraged for you OP. It's absolutely disgraceful behaviour!!

HellsBells67 · 15/04/2025 20:57

Wow! But the house is on the market, for all Jean and John knew, there could be people and estate agents turning up to view it as they tucked into dinner. How utterly mad!

pizzaHeart · 15/04/2025 20:58

WearyAuldWumman · 15/04/2025 20:50

Why on earth are they trying to kick in the door? If their belongings are on their doorstep, they have no need to enter.

Maybe not all of their belongings on the door or they don’t have physically space to accommodate family plus (more likely) they are stupid and arrogant hence them using the house in the first place.

tygertygers · 15/04/2025 20:58

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maddening · 15/04/2025 20:59

Kicking the door and shouting- god you would think that they would have been mortified and crawled away!

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