To expect coffee?!?!

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I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

That happened to me once. I came down hungover and they only had decaf!!! I nearly died. Now I always take a small container of coffee with me whenever I stay anywhere including hotels because they never provide enough sachets in the rooms.

I’d feel exactly like you do. I’d be in bits. Reasonableness is irrelevant when it comes to morning coffee.

I always take a French press or stove top coffee maker with me if staying somewhere I’ve not stayed before. Plus ground beans. I can’t drink instant coffee (it’s not actually coffee) so wouldn’t leave things to chance.

What does ‘the opinion of a cow’ mean? I’ve not come across this one before.

We don't all live in towns.

I'm gobsmacked at some of the responses on here - "facilitating an addiction" !!!

If you host any kind of guest it is reasonable to assume that they might want a hot drink, unless you know they don't drink tea or coffee, and a soft drink just doesn't hit the spot the way a hot drink does. It doesn't even have to contain caffeine.

I guess some posters never have visitors or they just don't know how to host.

Individually wrapped coffee bags are a better option than jars of instant coffee. My favourite brand is Taylors.

They are not real friends. Run.

It's the same when I visit a friend,, she hates coffee so it isn't something she ever has in. She has the hugest array of teas, but no coffee! Which is fair enough, she doesn't drink it so doesn't have it. There must be a coffee drive thru or a mcdonalds or something nearby?

No you wouldn’t. Because I wouldn’t be friends with someone like that so you wouldn’t be at my house in the first place 😆

When you say they are probably going to have hordes of guests down from London, do you mean because they are well thought of and everyone will want to stay in touch or because they are now living in a touristy area?

Just wondering if they are making sure their guests are slightly uncomfortable so they DON'T get hordes of visitors and end up essentially running a free air b n b.

YANBU!

I have a travel mug with a built-in french press- perfect for this situation as long as you bring your own coffee as well, obviously.

I don’t know how anyone can drink coffee 😂 tastes so weird 😂😂

I never have caffeine but always have decaf coffee in the house so you'd have to make do with that 😄

I’m equally coffee dependant, and never go anywhere without a supply of my preferred blend.

Fail to prepare, prepare to fail, etc.

Yes, I like this.

It's all a cunning ploy to deter visitors. Subtle but devastating.

As a non coffee drinker I do think it's a basic part of hosting to have caffeinated coffee, tea, and milk available. However, IMO an oversight on this is only a minor failing.

The polite thing for you to do is poke fun at yourself: "Ha ha, can you believe what a coffee addict I am? I forgot to bring some and had to rush off to the petrol station at 8am!" Hopefully they will realise their mistake and put it right next time.

I do generally remember which of my friends is completely reliant on tea or coffee and take care not to run out when they're coming, or at least I can ring them at the last minute to say I've run out and ask them to bring some.

@RainallnightI wondered as I typed it what age you have to be to get this 😅, and whether it would bring back any long since buried memories. It’s from Friends, Joey thinks a ‘moot point’ is a ‘moo point’, so the opinion of a cow, therefore something that doesn’t matter.

Take the opportunity to wean yourself off thr morning coffee. I actually switched to decaf in the mornings and it really helped my mental state and it is refreshing not waking to immediately rush downstairs needing a fix.

@RayKray Ah! I’m 50 but missed this episode 😃

That's really rude. And very selfish 😳
When you have guests it's polite to offer up tea and coffee, these are pretty much expected in the UK. Much like you should have sugar and milk available even if you don't take them yourself.

You're a poor host if you think only of yourself.

I don’t drink coffee so I don’t buy it. I do steal the sachets from any hotel I stay in so I have some for visitors. I love a cup of tea. Now don’t start me on people who can’t make a good cuppa.

I can't even stand the smell of coffee but I do carry an emergency tea kit. As does my mum. Along with the emergency cake forks 😂

This is true. Mum doesn't drink coffee. We take our own but also don't leave it because it'll go off again by time visit again.

I was just rewatching it 😂 it’s where Rachel is asking advice about when to make a move on Tag.

I'm a tea drinker and in no way could face coffee first thing in the morning- it's far too robust a drink for my delicate sensitivities at that time. Like being woken up by a thrash metal concert instead of softly cooing birds.

Consequently I don't travel anywhere without teabags, just in case there are heathens who only drink coffee. I do, however, ensure that I have both caffeinated and decaffeinated coffee at home to offer guests (and at one time I even had a variety of fruit teas because one guest once fancied some. I'm an over-caterer.)

Once I was in a lovely independent hotel in NYC and they only had a coffee machine in the room with pods. No tea options. Luckily, I'd taken my own teabags but quickly ran out of milk, so popped down to reception. The extremely charming manager took me to their pantry and started loading me up with milk pods and then insisted on bringing a small jug of proper milk up to the room. Twas splendid.

Anyway. Moral of the story- Always Be Prepared.

Haha ! Are you me? That is my morning routine also...

Got the wordle in 3 today and yesterday (chuffed with that)

Very rare I get the Connections but did today - by fluke 😄