To expect coffee?!?!

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I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

I can imagine your pain op...I have always presumed people have coffee in (like I presume people to have salt, sugar, vinegar, tea in...) and I struggle without a cup of black coffee in a morning, pretty much the first thing I do when I'm up is make a cup.

I'm taking advice from this thread and buying some little sachets of coffee to keep on me at all times in case I'm ever in this situation.

I have woken up in my own home to no coffee! I thought I had a packet in the cupboard….My routine is early morning tea and Wordle and Connections-then coffee.😥😥😥The nearest place is Morrisons which is 8 miles away and doesn’t open til 10…

Knowing friends were coming to stay I'd have coffee in for them simple

Nooooo not Nescafé sachets, you need these:

https://brew-company.com/collections/coffeebrewers

I am presuming you have scoured Deliveroo, Uber Eats and similar for a coffee delivered to you?

If this thread is lighthearted, fine whatever. But if you can't go without something for a few hours, there's a problem IMO. And if you know that you can't do without coffee, you should bring some yourself.

If you're addicted to coffee that much that it may make you cry of you dont have any, always take it with you. I am. My best friend doesn't drink coffee and I always take it with me. One time she was really proud that she had bought some and it was decaff! I shoved two teaspoons of mine in when she wasn't looking. I'm also a coffee snob so take my own brand with me! It's a genuine addiction and not good for me but not everyone is the same and you can't just expect them to be.

Horrible situation to be in. The moment supermarkets open, go and buy a coffee press as a present for your hosts (and some decent cofee, obviously).

Agree with PP who suggested waking your 'hosts' (can't really call themselves that in the circumstances ) crawl into bed with them crying until they hear you saying coffee between sobs, then just lay there until they bring you some. Proper coffee mind

To be fair most coffee drinkers will drink instant if it is all there is, unless they are not really addicted in which case there is no good reason to inwardly groan about the lack of coffee.

For most of us coffee drinkers , it is that morning cup ( or 3) that is so essential to our day so having no coffee available in the morning, not even instant, is a particular ( admittedly very first world ) problem

Vinegar seems odd in this list. I have lots of vinegars for cooking but not malt vinegar.

I never drink tea but I do have some tea bags. I also have some of those horrible herbal teas for visitors. I have been in OP’s distressing situation it’s particularly unpleasant if staying in a rural location with no shops. No option but to drink tea and carry sachets in future!

We often don’t have sugar, that’s sometimes awkward for visitors. I only ever buy it, if I’m thinking of making a cake

Ooft that’s rough. Hope you get some soon! I would really struggle too.

You have my sympathy OP. I've had this a few times and always take a little Tupperware of emergency coffee and a coffee filter. Fully admit I'm totally addicted and can't remember the last time I ever went a day without coffee, tea in the morning simply doesn't cut it! I genuinely found it easier to quit smoking than abstain from coffee/ not have a coffee in the morning. My wife was a total non coffee drinker when we met but even she has now decided she likes it! I

But where would they bring it from if there's nowhere nearby that sells coffee?

Plus it would cost a fortune and be cold by the time it got there is there was somewhere that delivered.

I take my stovetop coffee pot with me and a bag of coffee when I go to any airBnB. If I went to a “friend’s” and there was no coffee I dunno, I’d be reassessing our whole relationship. Is there any way back from this??

I was 😱 when recently staying in a budget hotel in London and there was no kettle/teabags for a morning cup of tea. You had to go downstairs which is considerably better than your situation OP but it still meant getting dressed etc when I wasn’t quite ready for that (having not had my first tea of the day, obvs).

So, sympathies. May the coffee gods smile upon you at 10am. I don’t drink it myself so never have it in but I always ask guests if there’s anything they need before they come to stay.

I dont drink any hot drinks. I live alone so no tea or coffee. Or actually milk either. But i do tell people this if anyone is coming over, which isn't often hence why I don't buy any.
I think the sachets is a good option for next time

This reminds me of one of my sisters who in the days before she had children, would invite us to stay but would have no food or milk in the house. She was near a small supermarket and you'd offer to go and get some milk and bread and she'd hand you a shopping list.

I always have sachets of coffee and Options hot chocolate in my work bag. You just never know.

Did you get it OP? I am rooting for you!!

You do know most of your visitors drink tea because the jar you've got in the cupboard has been there so long...

I drink tea at my parents house because they drink instant coffee and it's never a decent one.

I'm a coffee drinker, can't stand tea but always have some teabags for visitors . It's just common sense . As would keeping some coffee in if you're a tea drinker.

I hope OP has found somewhere , supermarkets aren't open till 10am on Sundays , not sure about other places .

Yes I did think of these important points. However it seems like a desperate situation so it is necessary to explore all options.

I agree Deliveroo a not a cost-effective means of buying coffee and the temperature can be an issue, depends the outlet dispatching the coffee and the rider as well. I find spillage was greater problem but over the years many outlets have improved their approach to packaging the coffee for delivery. Plus you can add a pain au chocolat to your order to make the delivery fee slightly more worthwhile.

I sympathise as I feel the same way about tea. Although I can survive with a coffee instead but my day never feels right till I've had a tea.