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ReplacementBusService · 13/04/2025 07:36

I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

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TheJollyMoose · 13/04/2025 07:54

YABU. You should be able to cope without some coffee for one day and I’d be concerned if you actually can’t function without it.

We don’t drink any hot drinks, so we never have tea or coffee in the house.

Ineedcoffee2021 · 13/04/2025 07:54

how TF do these people function with no coffee? are they even human?

Everyone in my circle knows i need my coffee, they also know i dont expect them to buy it and have on hand for me
All i ask - just give me a heads up if i need to bring my own, which im more than happy to do

Hope you get one soon, id be sitting in a ball by coffee saviours door until they open

RobinHeartella · 13/04/2025 07:54

Yanbu, even if they don't have coffee in for guests, they might need it for tradesmen, gardener, cleaner.

Buy a box of instant and leave the rest in their cupboard when you leave.

I'm not even joking, if we had a plumber or electrician in and they wanted coffee and I didn't have any, I'd cringe

Bjorkdidit · 13/04/2025 07:55

TaggieO · 13/04/2025 07:42

I cannot drink instant coffee so I always bring a few Taylor’s coffee bags with me for emergencies!

Sounds like the best solution. You can't expect people who don't drink coffee to keep it in because even if they did, it would be the wrong kind or constantly be going out of date.

After all, they might be the kind of person who couldn't possibly drink instant coffee or insisted on freshly ground beans for every cup.

Waitingfordoggo · 13/04/2025 07:56

We don’t drink coffee but I do have a jar in the cupboard to offer visitors. MIL drinks it but all my other visitors (not that I have many) drink tea. If it wasn’t for MIL, I’m not sure I’d buy coffee, because it’s quite expensive and it’d probably go out of date before it got used so would end up being thrown out.

ladeedarrrry · 13/04/2025 07:56

On the plus side op that first coffee is gonna be SO GOOD

Some seriously bad mannered hosts on here. No tea or coffee… just herbal tea…. What’s the point in living

Chellybelle · 13/04/2025 07:56

I would always have tea and coffee in for guests. Most people like a hot drink in the morning. They are just the basics.

CoffeeThenWine · 13/04/2025 07:56

What??? What do they do if having work done??? Every single tradesperson who crosses my threshold requests coffee.

It's a basic human right, surely????

OP, I do hope I you're currently waiting outside the coffee selling venue. 4 minutes. You can do this.

ScarlettSunset · 13/04/2025 07:57

TheJollyMoose · 13/04/2025 07:54

YABU. You should be able to cope without some coffee for one day and I’d be concerned if you actually can’t function without it.

We don’t drink any hot drinks, so we never have tea or coffee in the house.

Caffeine addiction may not be a god thing but it is very real.Going without it for a day can end up making you feel like you have flu and struggling to function.
Obviously that's not a good thing, but it's not just as simple as just go without for a day...

Zonder · 13/04/2025 07:57

RampantIvy · 13/04/2025 07:46

Not round here.
However, we have a petrol station that has a coffee machine half a mile away.

Taylor's coffee bags are the answer. We never travel without them.

Exactly. But we all assume that things are like our experience.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 13/04/2025 07:57

How can you be friends with people who don't drink coffee??!!!!!

TheJollyMoose · 13/04/2025 07:58

ScarlettSunset · 13/04/2025 07:57

Caffeine addiction may not be a god thing but it is very real.Going without it for a day can end up making you feel like you have flu and struggling to function.
Obviously that's not a good thing, but it's not just as simple as just go without for a day...

Then they should have thought about their addiction before staying elsewhere. That is their problem, nobody else’s.

bumblingbovine49 · 13/04/2025 07:59

ReplacementBusService · 13/04/2025 07:46

I mean, they're London wankers too

😂

I mean the original post is so obviously tongue in cheek but there is always one isn't there.

Westfacing · 13/04/2025 08:00

This will lern yer to be prepared next time! Grin Brew

SoScarletItWas · 13/04/2025 08:01

IT IS COFFEE O’CLOCK

Go get your beverage, @ReplacementBusService

Blondeshavemorefun · 13/04/2025 08:02

I don’t drink coffee but I always have a jar in and buy pods for my machine. About £5 for think 16

as have wonderful Friends who do love coffee

these people are not your friends 😂😂😂😂

category12 · 13/04/2025 08:02

ReplacementBusService · 13/04/2025 07:46

I mean, they're London wankers too

They're the worst kind of London wankers, because they've moved out of London. 😂

Hollyhocksandlarkspur · 13/04/2025 08:03

I deeply feel your pain OP. You have to get hold of it somehow. Like PP said check fridge first. Then look for cafetiere. Then wait outside Waitrose and buy coffee and cafetiere. Hopefully they will then have something to offer other caffeine addicted guests (there are a lot of us about). You will be acting for the good of humanity.

Like a PP I stayed with someone and had horrendous nauseous headaches. On day three they told me all their coffee was decaf😱I don’t drink instant so now always take my own packet if I think there’s any danger. Take own flask on trains just in case buffet closed.

I don’t like herbal teas but when people stay I always offer different teas and herbals so guests all have what they like.

PeopleTalkingWithoutSpeaking · 13/04/2025 08:03

I'd be the same without a morning cuppa op, my sympathies. I'd definitely let the friends know in as light-hearted a way as I could muster!

As an aside, we are not a coffee house. (I like the smell, it's the kind of thing I'd usually like, but I've never got on with it.) I've had various different jars of instant in, usually along the lines of the preferences of visiting parents, but I get the impression this is "wrong" with the occasional visiting friend or surprise visitor. I do have a cafetiere and have bought fresh occasionally when organised but it's either been turned down as "don't go to the trouble" or it doesn't stay fresh for weeks and months until the next guest. Is there actually an answer here? I obviously don't speak coffee, so can someone translate and tell me what to actual brand and type to keep in my house to offer occasional guests which won't scandalise anyone!?

Westfacing · 13/04/2025 08:03

TheJollyMoose · 13/04/2025 07:54

YABU. You should be able to cope without some coffee for one day and I’d be concerned if you actually can’t function without it.

We don’t drink any hot drinks, so we never have tea or coffee in the house.

What do you offer visitors, if you have any?

cowboyhats · 13/04/2025 08:04

I love coffee- nothing more wonderful than coffee first thing in the morning.

I'd seriously consider going no contact with these people 😆

InterestedDad37 · 13/04/2025 08:05

I absolutely need coffee 🤣 I have two friends who never have it, and I simply take the mick and bring some with me 🤣☕☕☕☕☕

TheJollyMoose · 13/04/2025 08:05

Westfacing · 13/04/2025 08:03

What do you offer visitors, if you have any?

We have an array of various soft drinks.

ReplacementBusService · 13/04/2025 08:05

Ineedcoffee2021 · 13/04/2025 07:54

how TF do these people function with no coffee? are they even human?

Everyone in my circle knows i need my coffee, they also know i dont expect them to buy it and have on hand for me
All i ask - just give me a heads up if i need to bring my own, which im more than happy to do

Hope you get one soon, id be sitting in a ball by coffee saviours door until they open

Thank you for understanding. It is very hard🙏

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