To expect coffee?!?!

[ReplacementBusService]

I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

On a serious note. I think it was quite thoughtless of them to not have any in for staying guests

Your DSis is a monster. Time to go NC with her.

I reckon if you're that dependant on coffee you have an addiction problem. I have a cup first thing every morning but would be OK with tea if no coffee was available 😳

My thoughts exactly. I only like a particular brand (lavazza ground) or if it has to be instant then it has to be nescafe azero. Having said that I know it's my responsibility to take care of my own coffee needs and wouldn't expect anything else from my hosts.

I think the real problem is that coffee has mild addictive properties. So anyone who's used to drinking it every morning will feel a bit of unease when they can't.

You really really don't.

Goodness, there are some really holier than thou posts from posters who don't like grown up hot drinks.

......and are poor hosts! 🤣

You wouldn't get coffee in my house. I don't drink it and don't keep it the house.

But if you had friends coming to stay would you give them the heads up so that they know to bring their own?

Why? I don't like the smell of it, it's vile stuff. Thankfully DH doesn't drink it so I don't have to put up with the smell!

While I voted that you are being unreasonable I do think that if the people you are staying aren't coffee/tea drinkers then they should state that so you can bring your own if you want to

If people were travelling to stay with you, it is polite to ask for any requests they may have with drinks. I don't drink decaf, so never have it in, but when my friend visits who can't have caffeine I buy decaf coffee as the host. So YANBU.

I carry a couple of instant coffee sachets around for situations like this as I can’t function without coffee. It’s surprising how often I’ve had to use them. I also always have a protein bar to hand as people host differently.

I drink decaf coffee and take it with oat milk. Imo it's the best way, apart from the decaf because it makes me feel like Im being robbed lol

@RampantIvy i wouldn’t give heads up- I expect if someone has strong preferences for something, to bring their own. For example, we are not tea drinkers- we have some (mostly herbal) tea bags rolling around but I wouldn’t go stock up all sorts for just in case and then few years later throw them out; if someone drinks English breakfast tea daily they’ll be out of luck in my house.

I like coffee, but it's a bit weird to be unable to manage without it for a day. The same applies to everything really, except air.

OP YANBU.

Also, you need a cafetiere mug. Perfect for travelling. Just add a scoop of ground coffee. Pour your hot water in and the mug itself is the French press if you see what I mean....

www.hartsofstur.com/zyliss-hot-mug-cafetiere-blue-e990003.html

This is what I use, a portable espresso maker. I take it to work if I'm outside, to hotels, to my BF's house since he doesn't drink it...
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Wacaco-Nanopresso-Portable-Minipresso-Operated/dp/B0797T2FYL/ref=sr_1_5?crid=2VZRC4QY00Y70&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.gMxYbx3qXMxu8cJFObilP28CPMFKyuSj0qsitu1itW-IsWbOy4CyeD872M0wGqKVn-T2jNY_1NnY-VQe-z_hvXYh1fmrSIARmOXqDUEz3BdaABSVtXOW3HG2708sr-So_FayLapiLJ3YJ6aswx-OVIBEI5FlL0jxkHBW5CW4P586tnBTY98_nINs73ZPDkr5T1Q354O-SfvnilEnHMFZ-VrO0Qo8SN5Vg1sNN_xRJVNIsGqprY4lCDRufDq3jDiwrmcEWE4-9NsmKvilDdgQ3sLWKGN1xVKl1mSMmQXMcJk.cvuNYXtK6rkYOSM0rpzMU9ZAD9sXHNkP8EpzIWluoQU&dib_tag=se&keywords=wacaco&qid=1744808224&s=kitchen&sprefix=wacaco%2Ckitchen%2C169&sr=1-5&th=1

Surely it's just normal to offer tea or coffee to visitors? Same as you would with builders.
I always have tea in even though I find it disgusting in case someone wants it (not like tea or coffee goes off much, is it?).
Although I do warn them I only have plant milk in and they might have to bring their own milk!

Thank you for this thread @ReplacementBusService , it has brightened my day. 🙂

Soft drinks? What sort of drinks? I'm picturing you offering diet coke or lemonade with breakfast! 😂

My other half doesn't like coffee, taste or smell so before we moved in together I either took coffee with me or just didn't drink it. My youngest son is nearly 18 and doesn't like tea or coffee so I know when he moves I'll be taking provisions with me.

I recently stayed at my DP’s house and forgot to bring my coffee (he’s an absolute ‘tea and nothing else’ drinker). I can’t function without three cups in the morning, however after my first day horrors, I conceded and had tea on the second morning. And water. WATER. It was actually ok… (however, made mental note to stock up for this weekend!!)

YANBU and I would expect people to have something as basic as coffee available for guests. I don’t drink tea because the mere smell of it makes me gag but I always have tea bags in the house for visitors.