To expect coffee?!?!

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I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

I drink 2-3 coffees a day, without fail so for me would be a big thing not to have a coffee. However as people have said, I get that some people don’t have it.
depends how much people host though - I don’t like to drink tea but always have it in the house in case people come over who drink it (which is a lot.)

Totally agree. Extremely serious matter.

The best you can do in this situation is google for the nearest cafes and drive over soon as one opens.

Then, never go DfL again. It’s just not worth the trauma.

Coffee bags in your handbag would be my advice, I never travel without them.

Completely Concur With You
Yes she's not being unreasonable
I'd most surely, learn from these types of experiences & from here onwards, would do my best to remember my own 🤗💚

I don't have coffee in my house because none of us drinks it. I would probably get some if we had guests but it would be instant (gasp!).

Mellow Birds just triggered me 😭😭😭

Ex SIL was very hospitable but only ever provided tea 🤮 After about 2 years she proudly offered coffee....it was Mellow Birds.

It’s disgusting. I have 2tsp of instant in my coffee and I have it black, I like to taste coffee.

Tepid water from the tap. NO ICE.

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How can you still be friends with these people

I agree with you about the coffee, but I never expect that people will have it. I take a portable espresso machine with me if I'm visiting someone :-) My BF doesn't drink coffee, I could get offered Monster but that's it. Likewise, though, if someone came to my house they would definitely get coffee, however I don't usually have milk in the house so hopefully they like it black. Best to always take what you would like to drink, just in case

we don’t drink coffee but always have it in for guests. It’s probably not good coffee, just instant, but it is there. We do have friends who bring their own fancy stuff which is fine of course.

This is a terrible situation. Sending thoughts and prayers.
Definitely buy them a little stove top coffee maker and a pack of ground coffee as a housewarming gift.

I don't think you are being reasonable or unreasonable! Some people (who are insane) just don't have coffee or tea in their house! Bizarre and strange, I know! I have no idea how people can live like this! 😉😉😉 I feel your pain completely! I'm the same with tea. Whenever I go away I always take teabags with me... just in case! Tea is the one thing I can't go without in life... well, apart from water, food and oxygen. 😊

OP I wish you were my mate, you're flipping hilarious!

I always have hotel sachets of tea and coffee in my travel bag. It's usually in case the hotel options are dire but I could see this happening at my IL. We used to bring whole bags of snacks for that...

I need to know more about coffee bags, this is where I'm going wrong in my life 😰

Bring some perspective to your life , it’s only coffee , vastly more I photo enjoy time and fun with friends . Make memories and don’t stress about the small stuff

ARE YOU MENTAL?

I never have coffee at my house. I don’t drink it and it would just be wasteful to buy some for just incase.

Noone in our house drinks coffee which isn't unusual. I'm guessing or should I say hoping that you're joking about the seriousness of it. If you're not, then you have a serious problem so please get help.

I would always have coffee and tea for house guests. I don’t drink alcohol, but I also buy in beer or wine if someone who drinks comes to stay. It’s about good hosting.

That said, I once went to a 2 day training that the facilitator hosted in her home. She ran these courses maybe every 2 months or so. We got to the first mid morning break around 10:30am, noting here that many up us probably got up 5/6am to drive there for the 9am start. She had no coffee or tea. Only herbal tea. 😳😳😳

8 hour long day of training and not a drop of coffee or even tea (which is not the same as a coffee, but still). She didn’t drink coffee, or normal tea, so she just didn’t think about it. I was dying.

Finally she did manage to get out the step ladder and climb up to see what was in the way back of the top cupboard and managed to find some like 5 year old espresso and a moka pot style coffee maker and someone who knew how to use it made us all coffee. Someone went out and bought us some Nescafé to keep us going for day 2. But seriously, no coffee! Or tea! Who lives like that?! Or wouldn’t assume that other people, a whole crowd of 10 of them, might want coffee or tea over the course of the day?! She’d been running these courses for years too. Had everyone else all those years just politely accepted a cup of tumeric tea and smiled and not been like, oi, got anything stronger?! 😂

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Thank you, I will send this link to my next visitors!!!

They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

Maybe they are trying to get a reputation as terrible hosts in the hope people leave them alone