To expect coffee?!?!

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I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

They are savages. Of course there should be some sort of coffee offering.

Awful. Absolutely awful!

Similar thing happened to us when we landed in Spain on a Saturday night & arrived at our villa to… no wine. No wine! No shops near by and the next day EVERYTHING was closed. It was a bloody long day with no wine & no coffee.

From that day on we vowed to always, always, pack a bottle of wine and a decent jar of coffee - to see us through the worst of our cravings until we get our fix. Needs must.

"They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved."
Maybe the lack of caffeine is a ploy to put off the freeloaders.

Local guest houses and hotels probably serve a great breakfast with coffee.

I haven't drunk tea since a nightmare month of pneumonia followed by chicken pox in 1987. I manage to have teabags in a jar for visitors, though - even though I find the smell absolutely 🤢

This is the sort of thing my DS says to me (25 yo and coffee or tea has never passed his lips)
I give him a Mrs Doyle scowl " maybe I like the misery" (of the addiction)

Have they moved to the country or just gone feral??? My now-not-so-DH only packed decaff coffee for a caravan holiday and I'm considering divorce.

Definitely bring your own next time, if you decide to ever speak to these people again!

In the meantime, stoop to tea.

YANBU I don’t drink tea or have sugar in drinks, but I keep both in for whoever would like it.i drink copious amounts of coffee so
i always take a jar, and my( pint!) mug whenever I stay anywhere.
somewhere like a petrol station shop will have something before supermarket opens

I don’t drink coffee so never have it in my cupboards.

I’ve stayed with people like that, I now always keep coffee bags, decent tea bags and mint tea bags in the car/ in my luggage. Too many people offer inferior tea, or only Nescafé. I’ve bought the nice stuff to keep at my son’s house. It’s too bad not be offered coffee at all, OP !

Thank you for the update OP.

To all of you having a jar at the back of the cupboard, please don't, it isn't coffee. If you want to have something for your guests then some ground coffee kept in the freezer is a better idea. You can get an over cup filter for under £5.

Argos used to sell a cheap drip filter machine for £5, I have bought and then left them in various places I have stayed.

I am very particular about my tea and coffee so I always have a stash with me. I also like certain cups too so I tend to have one with me, especially if I’ve packed for a holiday. I also like very fine glass when I drink wine so I pack a couple of wine glasses also ! I am a nightmare 😂

I’d be mortified if my guest had to go out at 8am to buy coffee!! Did they apologise?!

Another townie making assumptions about availability of shops.

Well if they don't like it they don't have to drink it and to be honest I'd rather they didn't so I don't have to smell it!

I think this counts as the most pathetic post I've seen on here.

Not read the full thread yet but …
I don’t understand hosts who don’t provide the basics - tea, coffee, sugar, milk, a couple of cereals etc
If they never have coffee in the house, surely they must know that loads of people need their morning coffee?
In their position I’d suggest that guests bring a jar of their favourite coffee
I sympathise! I have one cup of decent coffee a day, first thing, then I wake up and I’m human 😀

please adjust your halo 😇

Nope. Her hosts are monsters!! 👹

I feel your pain…as one of the few remaining people who take sugar in their tea and coffee I’ve learned to pinch sachets whenever I can to carry about my person. So many people just don’t have it in the house nowadays

lol. You wouldn’t get a coffee at mine either. None of us drink coffee. The last time I had some in it went mouldy before it was next needed. So I don’t bother. Unless someone specifically asks for it. However I’ve a friend I visit and can’t get a cup of tea at theirs as they only drink coffee. I’m prepared now for if I’m to visit and just take some. I’m take my own decaf tea anyway when I’m out for an evening as I can’t drink regular tea too late.

Went on holiday last summer with my sister and BIL. He’s the only one that drinks coffee and we did buy it in when we did our supermarket delivery order, however he got up each morning and went to the cafe down the street for a proper one!! He was usually up much earlier than everyone else.

Whenever I'm staying away from home I take a small steel coffee press and coffee.
I wouldn't expect people I was staying with to have coffee paraphernalia unless they're coffee drinkers and hotel coffee is usually crappy instant.
We did stay somewhere that had ground coffee bags recently but you needed at least 3 for a decent cup and they'd allocated one each.

Hmmmm. I reckon it's normal to have c9ffee in, but I actually tend to bring my own just in case 😅

I know a number of people who don’t have coffee in the house or they have mellow birds (I’d rather drink dish water).
i now have a sandwich bag full of Dowe Egbert coffee (it’s the only instant I’ll drink) in the glove box of the car and for places that I visit a lot (MIL or UIL) I have a jar there.

I literally do not leave my bed until the caffeine has hit my bloodstream. It’s not good for me or others.

That's a bit of a hysterical overreaction.

This. lol.

In all seriousness though, I don’t understand people that don’t cater further guests. Unless money is an issue of course. I always make sure I have a variety of things in my guests would like. Definitely would have tea and coffee as a minimum even if I wasn’t having it. As an example if I had vegans coming, I’d get in the dairy replacements etc. And I’m not posh or monied at all but have always felt you need to make sure guests are happy, comfortable and catered for.