To expect coffee?!?!

[ReplacementBusService]

I've never posted a thread before. Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

A couple of us have come to stay with friends who have recently moved away. I woke up early, as is normal for me. We've been told to help ourselves to breakfast etc if we want.

They do not have any coffee in their house. None. Zero. Nothing 😱

These are old friends of mine and wonderful people, and they used to drink the odd coffee but more tea drinkers really - but I was expecting some sort of coffee available. They're probably gonna have a lot of "down from London" visitors to stay now they've moved.

I have spent half an hour googling where I can get coffee on a Sunday morning round here. The options are limited or not early morning enough. I am beside myself. Or I would be if I had enough caffeine in my system to get a head of steam on.

YABU: bring your own coffee next time. These guys are now living a simple coffee free life in the country, get away with your high and mighty big city ways and bring your own

YANBU: it's normal to expect a bit of coffee in a house in this day and age. You'll be doing your hosts a favour if you mention this, or they're going to face hordes of desperate visitors with a dreadful level of unmet need in this new, country living phase of their lives, and the local community will be ravaged by coffee starved londoners desperately roaming the streets early doors like a host of annoying affluent zombies in nice trainers

Please be kind to me as this is extremely serious and I might cry. Well, moderately serious

I feel your view of extremely and even moderately serious need a slight rehaul 😂

They should really have had coffee ( good hosting) but maybe it was an oversight, did they apologies for not having any

I would be googling as well

Very amused by the volume of incredibly serious replies you’ve had to this awful Sunday morning tragedy @ReplacementBusService . Dare I suggest that perhaps they too might be in need of a cup of coffee…

Hope you’ve found somewhere to get your fix by now! My morning coffee is the highlight of my morning, sad as that is

I don’t drink tea or milk but always have both for visitors!

It was said in jest I believe

I had to leave the house at 6:45 recently to cycle then get a train, thought I'd get coffee at the station when changing trains but the cafe wasn't open yet, so no coffee from the horrible 5am start until 10am!! It was awful!

I am a coffee drinker, but I genuinely can't image staying anywhere, being offered the run of the kitchen and there not being coffee?? I'm not expecting a range of options - but not even a small jar of Nescafe?!

I don't drink tea but I always have teabags in the house for anyone that would like it. Not sure why coffee would be any different.

Out of interest, At what time did you eventually get your coffee and from where

We have a Sage coffee machine & bean grinder & they are my dh's precious things! He has ADHD & drinks a lot of coffee.

I like a nice coffee in the morning with breakfast & mostly, especially at weekends, have another midmorning. Dh could easily have 3 or 4 in a morning.

I won't drink instant coffee or those sachets of 'latte' etc they're utterly disgusting to me. I'd rather go without..

I drink tea occasionally. I only like like it, I don't love it & could go a month or more without drinking it. My colleague literally chain-drinks tea!

My parents drink a LOT of tea, though I've noticed, particularly with my mum that it's sort of an excuse to eat something sweet every single time. She would never just drink tea without a 'little biscuit / corner of a piece of cake ' etc so over the coitsw of a day / week she was eating a huge amount of crap. Her GP advised cutting back the sugar - she was outraged as in her mind she didn't eat a lot of sugary things (it was always 'half' this, 'break off a bit of that ' & because she didn't eat the whole slice or bar etc it didn't count)

She drinks a bit less tea now.

If we're away on holidays in apartment (we visit lots of cities) dh will go out & get us 2 coffees & pastries etc & bring them back & I'll have mine in bed.

No visitor to our house would go without a proper coffee & as many of them as they'd like!

But I think I'd be more bothered about guests being up & mooching around my house searching for coffee before 7am on a Sunday morning!!!

Hope you found your coffee !

All these posters talking about sachets and jars. That's not coffee!
Instant is an abomination. It should be illegal. I'm surprised the EU never did anything about it.

I drove up to my parents house (8+hours drive) my Dad has never in his life drunk coffee but had a jar in the cupboard.
After 48 hours I said "Dad I have a headache that would kill an elephant" he potters back with the jar "It was one your brother left" it was DE-CAFF"
No wonder I felt grim😆

In his defence he went off to the local Co-Op and bought some proper coffee.

My adult DS wouldn't think to buy it as he has never drunk coffee either

Equally, you can't expect people to have anything else when they're not coffee drinkers. Where I am, coffee is really expensive. Instant, too. And the pods I used to buy for guests. Now I have instant, when that's gone I'm not buying more.

I agree what do people expect if no one drinks coffee. You'll hardly have a coffee machine or pods if it's not used. Myself or DH don't drink coffee and I don't drink tea either so I buy a jar of instant in case of visitors but often have to throw it out if it goes hard.

Tell me you've never lived rurally without telling me you've never lived rurally!

@ReplacementBusService YAmostdefinitelyNBU OP. Their negligence in having coffee available in the house demonstrates woefully poor hosting skills. (I don't eat sugar or salt, or drink tea, but I still have these in the house for visitors who do.) I hope, by now, that you've been able to down a couple of grande mocha lattes from your coffee shop of choice, but can I also suggest you buy a large jar of Gold Blend and give it to them whilst voicing the clear expectation that they should keep it replenished for your future visits. 😉 Assuming they invite you back ... 😂
(Seriously, I'd be gutted too if I didn't have a cup of coffee to start my day. 😩 )

Maybe quit coffee? You might find it a relief not to be addicted to caffeine.

YANBU, if you are going to host someone overnight you should have coffee to offer them. I don't drink tea or eat biscuits but always make sure we have some if people are coming over.

Of course instant isn't as good as freshly ground, but it's better than nothing for inveterate coffee drinkers.

Yup, exactly this. It's just good manners to have the basics in for visitors.

Yes, this is serious. No coffee is right up there with no ice creams in a corner shop on a hot day. How can you possibly go on...

I’m only drink tea but I do have a few coffee bags for guests.

Why do you think people who like coffee are "addicted" to it? Would you say the same thing to a tea drinker? (Tea also contains caffeine.)

I think the lack of coffee is intentional, they don't want loads of visitors.

To be fair, the OP (albeit lightheartedly) said she wanted to cry at the lack of coffee, and several other posters have described having bad headaches when they had to go without it for too long. That doesn’t sound particularly healthy. Not having time for a cup of tea or having run out of teabags is annoying, but it doesn’t make me ill.

@Upsidedownsides
True, but I would need 8-10 mugs of tea to approximate my caffeine intake, and I couldn't physically manage that, even aside from then being locked in the lavatory for the rest of the day!